Is it wrong to look forward to the days my kids grow up and move out?

Lisamarie81m - posted on 07/11/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My boys are young, 6 and 3 1/2 I know I have along time till they are on their own, but today I was talking to their dad, my fiance and I mentiond how peacful the day was, (the boys are with grandma for the weekend). I just said that when they grow up it will be just us again, and the thought was nice, kind of an exciting thought. I was wondering if anyone else thinks this way or is it wrong? I love my boys, and my life is nothing without them. just wondering your thoughts.


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Christy - posted on 07/12/2009




my girl is 5. I am not at all feeling any problems with aging. It is something everyone experiences. I am excited for the lifestyle changes that will take place after years of raising my daughter and her to move out. I am not scared about it at all and know to appreciate what you have. However, all those around me are not eager at all because it means they are getting older, but when you look at all those older couples at retirement age they look so cute and have so much time to do what they always wanted. I don't regret my daughter for one minute and wouldn't change it for anything, but why not bask in the thoughts of aging and opportunity?

Kate CP - posted on 07/12/2009




Oh, every mommy has dreams about the day the house will be empty again. Completely normal and rational. :)

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Oh honey, believe me you are not the only one. My oldest will be 7 in a few months and I can not wait for her to be outta my house. I love her very much, don't get me wrong, but she is such a drama queen and all she does it pick fight with me. I'm gunna sure have some challenges when she's a teenager!

User - posted on 07/11/2009




I think about it all the time. I've got 9 years to go. My kid is awesome but I look forward to being without so much responsibility. It is bittersweet in a way though because the time flies so fast.

Leilanie - posted on 07/11/2009




no it's not i do this everyday!! mine are only 20 months and 9 months. It's called wishful thinking!

Arwen - posted on 07/11/2009




Sweety, I already have plans for my daughter's bedroom, and she just turned 18 months. LOL I don't want her to grow up real fast and leave, I love being around my daughter, and I wouldn't mind my children staying with me till they get married themselves, but I can't say I'm not looking forward to my silver and golden years with my husband doing whatever we want again. I think it's a good sign. I'm not going to have the empty nest syndrome!

And it'll be so fun doing what our parents do: playing with a cute baby, giving her back, and sitting back to totally relax. And I'll have a bonafide art studio and guestroom finally! No more tripping over the people on the air mattress in the middle of the living room floor! And no one can peek at unfinished projects.

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