Is my daughter smarter than me?

Tiffany - posted on 05/03/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter goes to one of the best bording schools in America, they teach many different languages and have a wide varitiy of lessons avalible. I fear she will become smarter than me, yes I love her being cleaver but I believe you miss out on those moments where your child phone you up or seek your help on a tricky math problem or something like that! Also will she think less of her Mom because she's dumb, oh pleade help me...


Lauren - posted on 05/10/2013




Tiffany, I hope I learn more than my parents--in some ways, I think I have learned more, been exposed to different things, am passionate about different things, and challenge them on some issues even when we disagree. And I really hope my sons do the same and pass me up!

That being said, I will always need my parents at times--or my sister--or another friend--or a relative. My parents, I hope, have many, many more years to be with me, but the day they are gone, I will have a huge void. I'm sure I'll be confident and able to continue to provide that same value for my children and friends and family, but it will be hard. Sometimes I really need to talk to my mom and just get her opinion on things, and often, I want my dad's sound advice, even if just to reassure me I'm making the right decision.

If your kids are smarter, you're doing a great job at encouraging them to learn. Awesome! But they'll always need you as their mom as long as you show them that the relationship between you goes beyond book smarts!


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Tiffany - posted on 05/12/2013




Me and my husband gave our daughter a choice, she is thirteen and wants to become more inderpendant! I know many people have told me about why send her to bording school but it's what she wants to do! Any way she comes home every weekend and she phones home all the time! Thank you for your help i dont think i will be worrying about her being smart anymore!

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2013




"but I believe you miss out on those moments where your child phone you up or seek your help on a tricky math problem or something like that!"

This. My kids come to me and sit down and go over the problem. So even when I don't know the answer, I have the opportunity to look in their book and try to work through it WITH them rather than just give the answer over the phone.

Personally, I have never understood wanting to send kids off to boarding schools. But then, I live in an area where I have the opportunity to send my kids to good schools. If you don't have access to that, I can totally understand.

With regard to them getting "smarter" than you - you will always have more life experience. Being book smart doesn't make you a better person, or even the wiser person.

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