is this acceptable?

Stefanie - posted on 04/27/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




my name is stefanie and i have a lovely 10 month old son called tyler ryhs, thing is i dont think my partners behaviour towads us both is acceptable! firstly he spends more on his car than on us, 2ndly he calls me fat and tellls me that after 10 months my baby fat should of vanished and 3rd hes so lazy, for example this mornin i asked him to get tyler up, do his nappy and get him dressed and he said no because its his day off work!! he does nothin around the house and shows no affection towards me or tyler an wen he does is short and not reali worth botherin with, i feel like hes lettin us both down and aybe id be happier bringin my son up alone, what dya think? xxx


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Kate CP - posted on 04/27/2009




He sounds like a jerk, honestly. I agree with Jamie, too. He needs to step up or step out.

Brittany - posted on 04/27/2009




I do not think it's acceptable. I had complaints about my fiance, but he wasn't that bad and you know what, he changed when the baby was born. He's being a really great father. I don't think your boyfriend is being respectful and I wouldn't put up with it because your son will grow up to think that he can treat women that way. I wouldn't want my daughter growing up thinking it would be ok for her to be treated that way. I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you're not happy and that you'll leave if it doesn't change. He needs to be more affectionate and respectful. I know all my boyfriend can tell me after seeing me give birth is that he's proud of me. That makes me feel so great. I don't think he'd ever tell me I was fat and that the baby fat should be gone by now. If he did, he wouldn't deserve me. Good luck hon.

Erika - posted on 04/27/2009




I agree with jamie! You need to talk to him about it because NO! its not acceptable! And its not only that hes not being affectionate towards you or tyler but thats its completely disrespectful! HE DOES NOT NEED TO SAY THOSE THINGS TO YOU! of coarse you know that though! but like she said it doesnt sound like hes ready for anything! you or your son deserve so much better hun! I really hope things work out for you and tyler! my daughters dad was the same way! i f you ever need sometone to talk to you can always write me! =)

Jamie - posted on 04/27/2009




I think it sounds like daddy isnt ready to be a daddy or be in a relationship. But I think this is something you need to talk to him about, and let him know you are considering leaving. If your going to be respondsible for raising your child alone when hes there then why should you be with him. You guys are supposed to be a team and right now hes not a team player. If hes not willing to stand up I say he needs to ship out.

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