It's not easy getting your children to share with thier siblings or it?


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It is hard. Being a teacher I've seen lots of conflicts because two kids want the same toy. Kids don't understand the concept of sharing when they are young (preschool age and younger). They think when you give a toy to someone you will never get it back. We also used a timer and gave lots of warnings. If someone was playing with something that another child wanted to use we got them both together and talked about what a fair amount of time would be for each child to play with the toy. We usually gave them a choice of maybe 2 or 4 minutes and then set a timer. They knew when the timer went off then their turn was over. Usually by the time the second child was done with their turn the first child was doing something else.

Tabitha - posted on 08/10/2009




I know what you mean. My gilrs have a friends house that they can got together to because they have two girls their age. Otherwise, to keep the peace, I like to invite kids over to my house becuase it gives my kids a chance to all play together.

Ashley - posted on 08/10/2009




i agree with Jamie. i cant stand a child that wont share. a friend of mine's son is horrible for it. he is going to be 4 and my son is 15 months. my son cannot walk into the room with a toy whether it's his or not and he will run up to him and grab it out of his hands. he cant stand the fact that another child has a toy. when my son takes toys from him i make him give it back as he was not playing with it first andi'll tell him to play with another toy. it's super important for children to share especially once they start going to school. kids will be kids and there will be arguments but they def do need to be taught at a young age.

Jamie - posted on 08/09/2009




Dont see how it would be hard. You should always teach sharing no matter what age.

Jackie - posted on 08/09/2009




my son is 3 and my other son is 15 months, they have no problem sharing with each other or other children. You just have to make sure you tell them from a young age, we don't take toys, play nice and share, and take turns. they get it eventually and of course you will have fights about certain toys but that will always happen with kids.

Randa - posted on 08/09/2009




I have 2 boys 2 1/2 years apart and it is not easy sharing toys. However, I have emphasized trading toys and now I have seen them implement that strategy on their own. If the other person does not want to trade then we ask if we can see it when the other person is done. I always emphasize talking calmly and using our words. By boys are 2 1/2 and almost 5 and they have already caught on.

Jen - posted on 08/09/2009




I think if you start teaching them early enough that it won't be a problem as they get older. My daughter is 20 months and we do teach her to share when my friend's kids come over. The best technique I've found is to just remind them that friends take turns with their toys. If I see it being a problem with a specific toy I take it away and tell them that if we can't share we're going to have to play with a different toy. There will be some whining, but they tend to get over it quickly and find something else to do. If it gets too out of hand I just remove which ever child needs to be removed from the situation.

Betty - posted on 08/09/2009




Sometimes if it's a special toy you need to respect the fact that they don't want to share. I never had this problem growing up because my mom would always just buy the toys without saying who they were for. They were for all of us. I have an only child but for other parents this would be a great idea. I loved sharing as a child and don't understand kids that won't share.

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