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Belinda - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 133 moms have responded )

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Let me start by saying that I am fully aware that "breast is best" when it comes to food for your baby. I have no issue with other women nursing or nursing in public. Don't be shocked though when my 6 year old asks you where your bra is.. :)

But do not look down on me for choosing to use formula. I pumped exclusively for both of my children for about 2 months. I didn't actually "nurse" them. Neither of my children have ever had a major illness, no ear infections, etc. They are both happy and perfectly healthy. So explain to me why the chick in line at K-Mart turns to me, hands me her formula coupon that the register just spit out, and says "here, I won't be needing this...I am going to breastfeed my baby, not give her that chemical powder." (I had a can of formula on the counter behind her)

I am sick and tired of women who think that they are somehow better than me because they nursed their baby. Good for you...now leave me alone please :)

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Michelle - posted on 02/24/2010

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I think breast feeding moms get the cold shoulder more than bottle feeding moms. If you sit on a park bench and pull out a bottle with formula no one cares. If you whip out the boobie people stare, give looks, or take there kids by the arm and walk the other way.
I'm sorry that lady was rude to you at the store....some people don't know how to think before they speak. I just wanna know what women would do if formula didn't exist. I don't think doctors would tell you to supplement i don't think i would hear "I couldn't" or "its too hard". I think you would focus on your baby and sit there for hours and make it work. I'm not trying to start an argument. I breastfeed. I tried to get my 2 cousins to do the same. Not with harsh words, but encouragement. All they ever said was "i'll think about it" and "we'll see". When I found out I was having a baby there were no ifs ands or buts......i was going to breastfeed. I didn't accept the gift bag of formula from the hospital I worked with 3 lactation consultants for weeks. In the end I suceeded. I think more women should go into it with the same attitude.
I don't think you would choose the second best in anything for your kids. Everyone wants the BEST. They just don't want to work for it. Everyone wants things to be easy and fast. I have a friend who didn't breastfeed just because she wanted to go out and not have to be "tied down" with breastfeeding. REALLY tied down? Why did you have a kid? The child needs to eat you are its mother...who else is suppossed to feed it?
I don't think there is anything wrong with formula. But knowing that I, as a woman, was made to feed my offspring just like any other living creature made me think twice about the second best easier way.

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It was wrong for her to say that to you. For the person who doesn't think breastfeeding past a year is necessary, do your research. The WHO guidelines encourage breastfeeding to at least the age of two IF YOU CAN. The average age to breastfeed in the rest of the world is 4.5. I don't want to start a fight, but there are lots of things the FDA certifies that are not good for us. Red #40 has highly carcinogenic properties and is banned in Europe, yet you can find it in almost any food that is red or blue in this country. I AM NOT SAYING THAT FORMULA IS CARCINOGENIC, JUST POINTING OUR A FLAW IN THINKING THAT WAY. The formula industry is just that, an industry there to make money, why do you think they hand out formula gift bags at the hospital. For most, breastfeeding takes time to learn and it is work. If it didn't work for you, then formula was the best choice for you. I don't think that all of the medical intervention that is received during labor helps any. By the time baby and mom are together, mom is usually exhaust from having multiple people in the room giving orders and pushing drugs and ordering c-sections like they are just a walk in the park. My first two babies were hospital births and it took time to get them to nurse. My second two babies were born in the calm of home and nursed like pros from first latch. They both had incredible suction and I was really sore, but for ME breastfeeding was the only thing I wanted to do. I drink enough mothers milk tea to drown a whale, I buy it in bulk. I am still nursing my 15 mo old, it works for us.
I too am sick of getting told "you can't do that here" in public and getting nasty looks from people. My baby doesn't like to have his head covered, if you don't want to watch me feed my baby, stick a blanket over YOUR head. I shouldn't have to go to a filthy bathroom to feed my baby. Your body doesn't store up toxin over your life time, if it did you would be dead by the age of ten. If you eat or drink something toxic, it may(like alcohol) may/will end up on your milk. Heavy metals are something totally different, that is the reason pregnant women shouldn't eat some kinds of fish, ironically we don't seem to have a problem with injecting our kids with them.
The saying "What comes around, goes around" is so true. In the 1940's and 50's when formula was first being made, breastfeeding moms were looked down on because those "poor, uneducated" women didn't have the money to buy formula. Women who bottle fed were superior to those who breastfed. That is why La Leche League was formed, to help support breastfeeding moms who were looked down on and received no help from the medical community. We need to be more understanding of each other, I still think breastmilk is best, but you can't let your baby starve, you all do your best and have happy babies, but still, I do wonder why someone would choose not to nurse without even trying. I totally agree with Brandi, if you are not at least going to TRY and do the best for your baby, why are you even having one.

Brandi - posted on 02/24/2010

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I nurse exclusively & I love it. I made the decision to breastfeed because I know it is definitely the food that is made for my baby (and there are many more differences than "antibodies"). It's good for her and it's good for me. However, it's very hard to learn how to breastfeed. This first week has been pretty rough and there are still some kinks for my daughter and I to work out I'm sure. It's stressful, you feel pressured, your nipples hurt (and yes, my daughter has been latching on correctly since the minute she was born), and there are a lot of people who are uncomfortable with the idea and give unwanted opinions about it. I don't judge people who choose formula in general, I can understand why it just doesn't work out for some women. You need a lot of support and patience to make it work. I'm so grateful that my husband has assisted me in nursing my daughter in every way he possibly could so we could make it happen.

That said, there are a few statements women make about nursing that I do take issue with:
1. "I don't want to ruin my breasts."
Breastfeeding does not ruin breasts. If you think it does, let me just tell you that YOU. ARE. WRONG. Yes, you are. Pregnancy does ruin breasts. This is a proven medical fact. If anything, nursing prevents what will imminently happen eventually anyway...your breasts are gonna sag a little after you have your baby. If you're worried about your body being different, getting pregnant should have been something you reconsidered.

2. "It's gross."
Hello, are you in HS? Dirty diapers are gross. Being spit up on is gross. You're gonna draw the line at feeding your baby? Makes no sense. If you're paranoid about something sexual happening while you feed your child simply because you can't set your sexuality aside to nurse, then I have to wonder, again, why you decided parenting was for you.

3. "I don't want to be tied down."
Um, sorry. You're going to be for the next eighteen years. Again, why did you get pregnant?

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Tiffany, no where did I say what you are accusing me of. yes science changes but boobs and breastmilk have been around since the dawn of man. I did not say a mom who chooses formula because she can't breastfeed is not doing her best. I simply stated that I felt that breastmilk was best, I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed an opinion. Why should I have to go to a dirty bathroom or isolate my self from the world when my baby needs to eat. I am not out there flashing people, I am feeding my child. Does he not deserve the same courtesy extended to you and your child when you eat out. I am not going to stuff him under a blanket where he will get hot and miserable because you have a problem with it. Its your problem, not mine. Finally, if you are not going to do the best for your child, honestly, why are you having one? No one gets pregnant with the thought that they want to be just a mediocre parent, they want to do the best they can. At the moment,science says that breastmilk is best, BUT that is not always possible for everyone. I already state that. I simply said "try", their are lots of moms that did try and couldn't and it was heart wrenching for them. They nourish their babies with formula and have happy healthy babies and that there is nothing wrong with that, I said that in my first post, that we needed to support each in the decisions we make. I am sorry that I don't understand why a mother wouldn't want to at least try and nourish their babies the way nature intended. I don't understand the thought process that says breastfeeding is gross, or wierd, does that make me a bad person
And Stevie, there are lots of us that nurse our babies past a year of age, we are just as sick as you are of being judge by people like you who probably have never fully research breastfeeding and the benefits that go along with nursing past a year of age. I'm sorry, but I will take a recommendation from the WHO before I take an off handed, uneducated comment like yours.

Dani - posted on 02/25/2010

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Your breast milk holds toxins ~!! LOL if you knew anything about how your milk glands work and how breast milk is produced you would not have belived that. Its just plain immpossible your breast milk works under the same perameters as your blood .... Does your blood hold all the toxins you've ever put in your body ?? No or you would be dead. lol ...... On that note , yes the k-mart chick was a bitch... and formula is a fantastic thing for moms who choose it , your children certianly are not suffering ! :)

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Karissa - posted on 02/26/2010

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I know how you feel. Kinda, I think it's worse tho because it's my mom who makes these comments. I breast fed exclusively for almost 4 months but I came to a point where she was eating so much and nothing was coming out. So I would breastfeed her and then I knew she was still hungry I would give her some formula. When I leave the baby with my mom, which is rare, she says I need to pump and bring over milk because she isn't going to feed the baby formula. She's ridiculous and I don't think she's really serious. I'll pack formula and baby cereal and there will be enough food and my mom gives me comments like "So I'm guessing you aren't going to breast feed for a year are you?" I tell her all the time that she makes me feel like I'm a bad mom for giving her formula. Now my daughter is almost 5 months, I breastfeed at least 2-3 times a day and give her 2 bottles of formula, baby cereal, and veggies at night. So even though I give her formula, the most expensive kind, Similac Advanced Early Shied, I feel like I'm a bad mom. But I know that I'm doing the best I can by giving her food like she needs.

Christian - posted on 02/26/2010

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Wow. She will probably be regretting that statement once hse actually starts to breastfeed. Do you as long as you and the child is healthy and happy. Don't worry about what others say.

Christian - posted on 02/26/2010

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Wow. She will probably be regretting that statement once hse actually starts to breastfeed. Do you as long as you and the child is healthy and happy. Don't worry about what others say.

Elisha - posted on 02/26/2010

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To Stevie, maybe I took your statement the wrong way but when you add the exclamation mark after "breast is best" it may be but some people are medically unable to breastfeed. Your comment made me feel as if you look down on those us who formula feed our children.

Elisha - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have no problem with women breastfeeding, but sometimes some women are unable to. I was on a lot of medication during both my pregnancies and was not able to breastfeed, because it was in my milk and could hurt my child. Plus, let me add this, some women have very sensitive breast. Though I did not breastfeed when my son was still a baby he did latch on one time when my boob popped out my shirt and it hurt like crazy. And just like Belinda said though my children never breast milk at all and were both 7 weeks premature they were both perfectly healthy and still are. They rarely ever get sick. Even with my son weighing only 3 pounds 4 ozs at birth he completely 100% healthy in fact he was only 3 pounds 14 ozs when I brought him home.

Elisha - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have no problem with women breastfeeding, but sometimes some women are unable to. I was on a lot of medication during both my pregnancies and was not able to breastfeed, because it was in my milk and could hurt my child. Plus, let me add this, some women have very sensitive breast. Though I did not breastfeed when my son was still a baby he did latch on one time when my boob popped out my shirt and it hurt like crazy. And just like Belinda said though my children never breast milk at all and were both 7 weeks premature they were both perfectly healthy and still are. They rarely ever get sick. Even with my son weighing only 3 pounds 4 ozs at birth he completely 100% healthy in fact he was only 3 pounds 14 ozs when I brought him home.

Jessica - posted on 02/26/2010

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I totally agree with you Belinda. I have two children one thats 4 1/2 yrs old and i never breast feed him and he is perfectly healthy and happy, I also have a one month old and Im not breast feeding her either and so far everything is good. Its a personal choice that you choose and no one should judge you for what you think is best. People like that make me so mad.

Jessica - posted on 02/26/2010

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I totally agree with you Belinda. I have two children one thats 4 1/2 yrs old and i never breast feed him and he is perfectly healthy and happy, I also have a one month old and Im not breast feeding her either and so far everything is good. Its a personal choice that you choose and no one should judge you for what you think is best. People like that make me so mad.

Joni - posted on 02/26/2010

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my daughter was born with a heart defect and was in the hospital for 2 months. i pumped for 2 weeks...she is doing great. just finally at 10 months got a cold and it lasted all of 5 days. no biggie. there was no way i was going to be able to continue pumping in such a stressful environment. i tried and my milk only got worse. i think it is all a matter of personal preference and they really are the same thing. if you are using regular formula (not soy or some of that other crap that stinks really bad) then it is formulated to be just like breastmilk, and i agree, as long as a baby is thriving who cares how the mom feed them. as long as they are getting fed

Sammy - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have been BFing my daughter for 7.5months now, I find it very easy...

I dont know maybe its just me being lazy but I would hate to be washing and sterilising bottles uggh yuk!

Regardless of if you bottle feed or breastfeed, your still the best mum you can be!

Keep up the good work ladies =D

Rentia - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have 4 children. 2 were breastfed 2 were not. I tried them all on the breast but the oldest and the 3rd would probably rather have died than do the "breastfeeding" thing. My kids are all fine, happy and healthy. Funny enough the two that I did breastfeed are alot more petite than the other two. I am currently breastfeeding and I am happy about it but if/when the time comes that she does not want to drink anymore then I am happy to change over. REALLY!!!!! What makes you a "good" mom is the way you love your children... not how you feed him/her.

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well said.of course with breastfeeding like i have said before comes across from breastfeeding mothers differently as NOT all breastfeeding Mommy's are the same.

We have

1-Moms who push through the pain for the first weeks& then 100% love the bonding and the excellent nutrition there baby is getting while passing no judgment.:)



2-Moms who do the same as above and helpfully go out of there way to encourage other moms to do the same as the really want moms to experience what she has.:)



3-Moms who breastfeed and love it But care more to push it down peoples throat to do it,and be very concerned to make themselves feel above the formula bottle feeding mothers and end up coming across in a very bad light that ticks other moms off:(



So there you go thats how i see it.I like the first two and just let the third type of breastfeeding mom not get the better of you.I two like yourself respect and agree 100% with breastfeeding and i would encourage it to others and hope it works better for them then it did for me.

I never have come across people like this and if i did it wouldn't make a difference to me i am very confident as a mother and i don't apologize for the choices i have made in any area of raising them so far..:)



I would of took the coupon with a big old cheesy grin &said thank you,&would of told her well its completely your choice to chose and best of luck to you..kill them with kindness every time thats how i see things.

Christi - posted on 02/26/2010

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in response to miranda, have you ever stopped to think that breastfeeding is more painful for some women than others. and that others, like myself, simply never made milk or colostrom. i went to four different lactation specialist and saw women struggle and go through constant pain just to breastfeed. my son is more advanced and healthier than children his age and he has been on formula from day one. great science says this and that, screw science. i am all for women breastfeeding if you can but i am so sick of women, like you, looking down your nose and women like me who can't or simply choose not to.

Natasha - posted on 02/26/2010

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Hahaha - give it time Belinda - she might be thinking she's bettter than you now....but anything can happen - for instance she won't have milk or enough there off. It happened to me. My baby is also on formula milk and both my sister and I was raised on it seeing the woman in my family line just don't have milk. I'm not comfortable with a constant sucking on my nipples inanycase so formula works for me :-)

Christi - posted on 02/26/2010

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i got that alot too. i was never able to produce a drop of breast milk, so my son was exclusivly formula fed. and you know what, my son is taller and more advanced than children his age. he is 14 months and i have to find two year old playmates because he gets bored with children his age because they don't understand playing like he does. i got the rude remarks and the boos, especially since he was a preemie. i would have loved to give him the extra boost, but he hasn't been sick a day in his life. don't let asses like that get you down. you know what is best and formula does not hurt your child. great, breast milk has antibodies, big whoop. i know babies that are farther behind my son and are exlusively on breastmilk.

Denise - posted on 02/26/2010

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I think we all have a right to choose how we want to raise our children which comes down to choosing to breast feed or give formula. I breast fed for 3 months and was always tired it was such a pain. After I just gave him formula now I have yet to be as lucky as some and be able to say my son has never had ear infections but thats something that tends to run in the family, even my baby brother who was breast fed for much longer than my son had bad ear infections.



But I was given formula as a baby and Ive never had any major illness, and the same for all my siblings and son. I feel as a mother you have to decide what works for you and back it up but dont force others to side with you and dont expect all mothers to feel the same. After my breast feeding experience if I were to have another child I may try it again but I cant say I wont change to formula at some point.



It doesnt make you a better mother because you choose one way over the other. All we as mothers can do is take care of our childrens needs however we see fit as long as our child is fed and happy it shouldnt matter if it came from a breast or a can, there is just one less crying baby because that baby is fed, nobody and no way is better or worse for how it got done!!!

Mallory - posted on 02/26/2010

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You go girl! I had problems with my son when he was first born, He wouldn't latch on. So I had to pump with him too for 2 or 3 months. And I switched to Formula. I've never had anyone be so rude to me about it though. Sorry people have to be so hateful.

Sanet - posted on 02/26/2010

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I hear you sister! I tried the whole breastfeeding thing, but my little tiger had my nipples bleeding in two weeks flat. It got to the stage where I would take her off the breast and she would have blood all around her little mouth. She looked like a little vampire baby and I couldn't even touch my nipples anymore. It was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Not even labour was that sore. So I also took her off the breast. She is now 5 months old and healthy as a horse. She weighes 8.2kg, so she is by no means underweight! According to the paediatrition she is growing at an above average rate (not just in weight, but length as well), so nobody can convince me that I made the wrong choice.



That women at the cash register can just go jump into a pond! Hopefully she won't teach her children to be as prejudiced as she is. Society can do with less people like that!

Tiffany - posted on 02/25/2010

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Honestly I am breastfeeding my baby girl, I love every minute of it. But the fact that some woman talked to you like that because you are feeding your baby formula is insane!! She needs to stick to her own business. Breastfeeding isn't for everyone, and everyone knows that. There is no right or wrong way of feeding your baby, just as long as the baby is getting the food that he/she needs is what is important!!!

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2010

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my now 2.5yo son only had colostrum coz at 5days old my milk didnt come in and he was starving/dehydrated/lethargic ect. all the midwives that were looking after me wouldnt give me a bottle of formula to feed my son who had been on my breast for close to 24 hours straight, i was crying my baby was not happy, i had to wait 3 hours for a lovley midwife who came in to see me at the beginning of her shift, as soon as she walked in i asked her to get me a bottle of formula, she said not a problem as she could see i was a total wreck and when she came back we would talk about formulafeeding. well to cut a long story short 2.5weeks after i had my son i woke up one morning to find my breasts were full of milk, i tryed to BF but my son wouldnt have any of it, i tryed pumping for a few days but found it really trying as i was recovering from a c-section.

yea my son has been sick, yea we have been to ENT specilists about it but his father and i put it down to the fact that we both had problems with our ears when we were young.

my son is now a very healthy 2.5yo who is perfect for his height and weight, he is a bright little thing

Tiffany - posted on 02/25/2010

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Reply to Megan.


And medical evidence changes all the time.
They may tell us in 20 years that it turned out that formula was better for your baby. I'm not saying it's likely, but it's a possibility. Science and medicine are always realizing new things.

Who are you to say that because someone chooses formula that they are not doing the best for their baby? In some instances, that IS the best choice. Especially for mothers with a low milk supply, or medical conditions.

You say others who want you to cover up are closeminded, take a look in the mirror.

Talk about judgemental...
How DARE YOU tell someone that they don't deserve to be a mother if they don't breastfeed. You must feel pretty special from that high horse of yours.

I don't normally get into really controversial or heated conversations on here, but what you said is downright wrong and hateful.

Miranda - posted on 02/25/2010

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You are definately entitled to your opinion, but breastfeeding is actually a wonderful experience between you and your child, and I am sorry that you are choosing to miss out on that....and that is my opinion! :) ( I mean no malice behind my statement, just lack of understanding).

Miranda - posted on 02/25/2010

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I can't speak for that person, but I know that she was rude to have done that! I have chosen to breast feed my son for a little over a year now, and I get remarks about doing that! Either way, you are the parent and whatever decision is made is yours to make. I think some women look at formula like it is being "lazy". I personally could care less at whatever choice that the mother has made on feeding their child, as long at that child is being sustaine nutrient wise, and is healthy and loved who cares! :)

Stevie - posted on 02/25/2010

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"Breastfeeding is creepy" Good lord girl how old are you 12? I respect your "opinion" but I think it's very childish and not based in any type of fact. I think people who think breastfeeding is creepy or sexual are idiots, maybe it's creepy if the child is 5 but breast milk is what is best for a baby! Anyway I'm sure you have just opened a can of worms with that statement, better double up on those big girl panties before the harsh words start coming in...

Tiffany - posted on 02/25/2010

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That's sickening ignorance and rudeness.

Some people CAN'T breastfeed (for numerous reasons). It's terrible for her to say that when maybe you wanted to breastfeed, but were medically unable.

She doesn't know you, and clearly doesn't know her facts as well

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2010

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Breastfeeding is creepy. :) Thats my opinion. My son will be a formula baby. Good for you for not losing your cool. Im not that nice lol.

Tina - posted on 02/25/2010

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It should also be considered that formula feeding mothers may not have had the option of breastfeeding. I wanted nothing more than to breastfeed but it didn't help that after labor I was still having post pardum contractions and was barely able to hold my son let alone try breastfeeding for the first time. I also take medications that wouldn't so much do any harm to my baby if breastfed but it is just one more thing he doesn't need to have in his system. But congratulations to all the mothers who have had the joy of breastfeeding and I give you props too. I enjoy being able to sleep through the night and giving the bottle to my husband! lol!

Stevie - posted on 02/25/2010

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Megan, how many people actually breastfeed past a year LET ALONE up to 4.5 years of age. I'm sure there would be health benefits of children consuming breast milk their whole life that doesn't make it necessary! After a year a child is certainly able to eat solid foods and I see no reason why they shouldn't. All I'm saying is if formula fed babies who never have any breast milk turn out perfectly healthy I don't see why any mother should be made to feel they need to breastfeed their baby for 2-4 years,

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2010

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that is total bullshit, but i have a story along those lines. i was having a lot of trouble breast feeding my son because he was a month early and wasnt latching correctly. needless to say, after the second day, i was raw and beginning to scab over. when i told the on duty nurse that i was thinking about just giving him formula, she lectured me on how basically breastmilk was better and that i should suck it up. you know what the pediatrician told me? she was formula fed, and now she's a doctor. ;) dont let other people get you down.

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I dont understand why a mother would give another mother crap about not breastfeeding. Honestly, I know how you feel, except mine hit a little closer to home. My girls grandmother tried to give me shit for not doing it longer than I did. Now, mind you, my twins were 6 weeks early and they were in the NICU for two weeks. I managed to pump for the two weeks that they were there and the whole time, I wasn't able to produce enough milk for the both of them. I tried and tried as hard as I could for them. Once they came home it got much harder. On top of all the work, the pump I was using was terrible and I couldn't afford another one.

Now if I EVER have another woman tell me that I made the wrong decision, I should have kept trying, or anything of the sort they better pray to God I have my kids with me.

Jamie - posted on 02/25/2010

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I agree!



I nursed for the first 5-6 wks with my daughter and only make it about 2 wks with my son. My mom only nursed us about 6 wks too. Formula has taken on a whole new composition these days and is more similar to breastmilk than ever before! Formula worked fine more my children and actually was WAY more convenient since I work outside the home and Formula is easier for daycare to deal with!



We are all entitled to our own choices in child-rearing! To those who choose to judge others for their parenting choices...Even if it is not YOUR choice doesn't make it automatically wrong!

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Its prob her first baby and she prob dont have a clue what the reality of it is really like ityet :)

it is personal choice and no one has the right to judge

I personaly would have loved to breast feed my children but it just diddnt happen wif my first I was in a abusive marrage had lost a close and loved family member and just didnt make milk when my som was a month old the midwife told to put him on formula sa he started loosing weight and I had badly cracked and painfill nipples and no milk got looks for puting him on the bottle but his health come first and my milk just didnt cut it I had other things for my next 3 children and the stress of it all just made me not make milk as much as I wanted to and I totaly got pissed at others judgements coz at the end of it compleate strangers dont know all the ins and outs of other peoples lifes or the choice they have made so why judge some people breast feed some bottle feed insnt the inportant thing the fact the baby is geting feed and thriving

Gina - posted on 02/25/2010

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Amen! There are so many wonderful and intelligent people who were formula fed (such as my mother who is a lawyer, physical therapist, and master gardener! Yes, all three...)

Ashae - posted on 02/25/2010

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I think this goes both ways. when I told my family I was breastfeeding they all called me a freak for wanting my baby to suck on my breast because they all chose formula. I breast fed for 3 months and it was hard. So i switch to formula and pumping. but for someone who hasnt actuallly breastfed she will know why you picked formula. My daughter was advanced at her age but I dont think it was souly do to breastfeeding my cuzin gave her daughter formula right away and she is smart also. I think its more of a preference

Shannon - posted on 02/25/2010

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I agree and good for you!!! II would have probably used ALOT of profanity and told her to stick her coupon.....

If formula was SO BAD then Im sure doctors would be recommending such horroble products for our kids. Its a personal choice, just like if you prefer to stay at home, so anyone else who wants to think they are better..let them..and about illnesses, regardless of what is or isnt in breastmilk vs fomula...CLEAN YOU HOUSE & YOUR KIDS!!! Just simple common sence I swaer kills a cold. I have 9 month old twin boys and they were only breatmilk fed up to 3.5 months or so (stopped on their own) and they have not been sick once (knock on wood)!!!

Allison - posted on 02/25/2010

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Yeah, I am about as pro-breastfeeding as you can get, but I can't stand it when women get self-righteous about it. True, breastmilk is the perfect food for a baby, but formula isn't exactly poison. I supplemented with formula from time to time and I certainly don't look down my nose at moms that do chose to formula feed. I do wish all moms would at least TRY breastfeeding, but I realize a lot of women have medical, emotional, and physical reasons for not. And I don't judge them for it either way.
It's your perogotive how you want to feed your child. I'm sorry that that chick acted that way toward you...that was extremely rude. Grrr!

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wow how rude!!!!!! i wanted to breast feed but unfortanately my son was tongue tied and couldn't latch on properly and i didn't pump i just gave up and bottle fed him and he's only had 2 ear infections and one major cold. it's your choice. people need to mind their own business. i don't think i'm going to breast feed my next one either.

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you did better than I did..I only nursed for 3wks and gave it up because I didn't think she was getting enough..don't let people bring you down..formula is just about the same as breast milk..my daughter turned out healthy and is rarely sick..they say the first couple wks is really want they need because of all the nutrients anyway..that lady should be ashamed of herself for telling you that!

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ooooo that was straight out and out wrong!! i formula fed my first as far as being a baby and toddler he was perfect, we are now having issues but i don't really think it has anything to do w/ him not being breast fed. my baby is currently being fed both i am pregnant again and we are having issues with breast feeding, but seriously breast feeding isn't for every body and your choice buy no means reflects on ur ability as a parent. hell i commend you for not slapping her across her face for being a bitch

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I don't think she should have said that. I give the formula coupons and free samples I get to friends that are formula feeding. I just tell them that I do not use them.

I breastfed all of my children, but gave formula to my first and eventually stopped breastfeeding altogether. I didn't give my next two any formula and I am breastfeeding my fourth. Personally, I wouldn't give him any formula either. I had a terrible experience with formula with my first and have not had any of those same problems with my breastfed children, but I would have just given the coupon and said that I wasn't using it.

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i completley agree with you!
i, too, feel that those who breastfeed look down at those of us who dont as if we're wrong or being a bad parent and depriving our child.
my cousins were breast fed and have more sicknesses than any of my sisters who were all bottle fed.
not to mention that any child that i know (not speaking for all, so dont get mad and yell at me)that were breastfed have been more clingy to their mothers and more whiny than those i know that were not.

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don't mind that bitchy chick....her boobs were raw and bleeding at the time...I nuresed for a while but my son and I both kept getting sick so his pediatrician told me to stop breastfeeding....he got the nutrition he needed either way.

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Ok I find that there are extremes at every end of this spectrum. Breast is best if the woman is giving herself the BEST nutrition. Some women simply can not brestfeed, I could for like three weeks after and never made enough until eventually my daughter wanted the formula that I was supplementing with. Breastfeeding is great, but so is formula feeding and neither should feel bad about their choices. I would of loved to give my daughter breastmilk and she got some, but I refuse to let people make me feel bad for that. I also agree with some women that both sides get uppity b/c we do. That woman needs to keep her coupon for when she needs the formula, lol.

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I nursed my baby for 3-4 months. but i cheated so i wasnt so exhausted.... at 3 weeks... she started getting soy formula at night, but was breastfed all day. I'm a major advocate for breastfeeding, and when i quit i felt sad that i was unsuccesful at doing the most natural and healthy thing i could do for my baby. i mean what kind of mother could i have been... no being able to feed my baby using my own body. But im also a major advocate for doing what's right for YOU and your baby. breastfeeding is a night mare if mom and baby don't enjoy doing it.

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gah im so sorry that happened to you. Some mothers (and all people, for that matter) can be so incredibly rude and judgmental just to make themselves feel superior. I breastfeed my son, but see absolutely NOTHING wrong with formula. For us the major factor was cost--we simply just couldn't afford baby formula and don't qualify for WIC. My sister has 4 kids and all of them were given formula--I see no difference developmentally between them and my son. They are all amazing, healthy, happy kids! I feel like society is putting way too much emphasis on breastfeeding. I'll probably get a lot of negative feedback on this, but "Lactivists" to me seem like they're trying to get attention drawn on themselves and how wonderful they are as mothers. It's taking activism and turning it into narcissism. Can't we all just support one another as women and mothers without getting selfish pride in the way?

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I breastfed for the first 4 months and am now using formula. There is nothing wrong with using it either. I wasn't able to keep nursing between school and everything else I was dealing with. It is the mothers choice what to feed her child. I feel that as long as the baby get at least your colostrum you can formula feed if you want.

I would like to meet that chick one day and give her a piece of my mind. Don't think for a second that just because a person exclusivley breastfeeds their child that they are better than any other mother.

U gave your baby breastmilk in the beggining and then switched to formula just like me. As long as your happy with the decision you made that's all that matters.

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Wow!! That was incredibly rude of her! I breastfeed my son until he was 6 months then he started doing this knaw on mommies boob thing so I started pumping. I managed to do that until he was 11 months. It was the longest time of my life and my breast were constantly sore. My thing was I had so many people around saying you have to breast feed. My mother in law, my mom, and my best friend were the loudest voices. Finally I came to a conclusion. It wasnt their breast! So I stopped when I felt like I just couldnt anymore. Dont let someone make you feel bad. There is nothing wrong with formula. In fact my son was preemie and in the hospital they had me pump and would mix formula in with my milk to fatten him up

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i would have thrown the coupon in her face and told her to get lost....(or worse).....anyways i bottlefed/feed both of my boys......i never wanted to breastfeed because i simply didnt want to. oh well my choice noone else's. with my first my bf and mother inlaw both tried getting me to breastfeed and i simply told them no. it's my body i will do what i want and i dont want to. when i was in labour my mother in law gave me shit about not breastfeeding. once again not her decision...mine. both of my boys are perfectly healthy. neither one has even been sick this winter. just because i didnt breastfeed doesnt mean that i love them less or they love me less. i love my children to death and they love me as well. do they get fed? yupp...do they have full bellies? yupp...are they happy? yupp..am i happy? yupp....so when it comes down to it thats all that matters............

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I chose not to breast feed any of my kids ( I have a two year old and a sent of twins who are 1) and a lot of ppl looked down on me. The thought of it just felt weird and I was not interested in the chaffed nipples. Call me selfish, whatever, I like the fact that if the babies needed something in the middle of the night, or while I was in the shower, my husband could get it for them.

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amen! im sick of people like why aren't you breastfeeding. its a personal choice i work all the time and go to school, and at my job i don't have time to pump for relief. anyways. the whole time i was pregnant i would get lectured and people still ask me now and are like blahh breastfeeding is so much better. well duh it is, but my little girl hasn't been sick yet and is ahead of the game!

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