Just found out I was pregnant and already have a 14 month old girl...

Melanie - posted on 01/05/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I feel really bad saying this, admitting it even, but I don't feel all that excited about being pregnant the second time around. Is this normal? I guess it also has something to do with my husband not being so thrilled either. He is very pro-abortion and was suggesting that we get one, but he gave up knowing I wouldn't go down that road ever. When our daughter was born I never made him get up in the middle of the night or help out much either because he had odd hours and went to work, and I understood that. So it's not like he is going to have to deal with lack of sleep. How can I get him to be a bit more supportive and excited about another baby? I feel like I shouldn't be, because he isn't.. Thanks in advance!

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Melanie - posted on 01/06/2013

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Thank you for your reply. My husband thinks more like a survivalist and if things ever were to get bad we wouldn't be able to pack up and go. He is prior military and is always in that kind of mind set. It drives me batty! But it is also good to have a backup plan. Just not all the time, urg! Our daughter was unplanned too and he acted the same way but now loves her to pieces! He says he hates kids though, so why not be careful? Beats me! About the protection, I was using birth control and happened to run out at the right time and before I could get a refill, POOF! There's a baby inside me. I think it is time for a little *snip*snip*! ;)

Donovan - posted on 01/05/2013

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Hi Melanie. Congrats on being pregnant, even though its not such a huge thrill now. Guys in general don't show too much emotion, and have to grow into something. Its also very difficult for men because we don't experience too much in the 9 months of pregnancy, so we feel distant. Hopefully as your baby is born he will grow more into it.

There is also advantages and that is that your children will be a close age together, which will make that they hopefully grow up emotionally closer to each other. Keep on being supportive towards your husband, and just make sure you don't push him away by not letting him do also a bit of work. Men don't always like to deal with the babies since they were a bit absent during the pregnancy bonding, but the more they deal with the babies, the more they get attached.

All the best, and good luck! Ps, maybe its time to use protection if you don't want to be in this position again after this child is born.

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