Kids with no dad...HELP!!

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I need help. My kids are 4 and 5. Thier dad has been in and more out of thier life really. He has seen them twice in the last year and that was just because we ran into each other in public. My kids are always cry for him and say they want a new daddy. My daughter just started school and wants her P.E. coach to be her dad. I feel like I need to feel that void but I am sure you all know it's not that easy. I have been dealing with this for 3 years now and I am just not for sure how much more I can handle before I have a break down. Please someone give me advice

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Leyla - posted on 09/20/2012

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I've just re-read your message. Scratch 'mostly on your own'. I meant' 'on your own'

Leyla - posted on 09/20/2012

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I'm not sure that I am the right person to give you advice as I am not in this situation, but perhaps I can offer a fresh perspective.



You are doing really well for looking after the kids mostly on your own, you should be proud of yourself, especially when you have to deal with emotional kids crying for their dad (must be horrible!).



I think you need to speak to their dad and make it clear what he is doing to them or take them away from the situation. It's worse for them not knowing what is going on all the time wit their dad. He can't just make fleeting visits as and when he wants.



You need to be their mum and dad now, until you find someone else, which you will. As long as you can offer them the love and attention they crave, they are strong enough to deal with the void.



I'm sorry if this is rubbish advice.



Wishing you the very best of luck with what you decide and you're always free to contact me whenever you want.



Leyla

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