Lesbian Diary

Danielle - posted on 11/11/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My Daughter, Ashley, has a diary. I found it under her pillow. I started reading it all. To be honest, it was really interesting, until I got to the part of her crush on a boy named, Tristen, was a lie. Tristen, was a girl. She said she loved Tristin with all of her heart. I felt shocked and really surprised. Mostly because Ashley's 11 years old and in 6th grade. Her diary said she was going to tell me when she was 15. Her friend Kiersten, was teasing her by saying, ''Oh look everyone! There's the lesbian! Haha!'' I cried a little bit. Her other friend Leilani had told Ashley that she was a lesbian too. That night Ashley said she had something to say. ''Mom im a...'' Was the only words she was allowed to say before I said, ''Your a lesbian. I know...'' Ashley started crying as she said was ashamed that she made me upset. But im not. Im just wondering, how do I tell her father that? I really need help...

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Michelle - posted on 11/28/2014

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I commend you on reading your child's diary. In my opinion, I think I would do the same as a mom to make sure they are ok, to many children do not get help if they need because it goes unnoticed but simply doing that can really help. I had a friend who was thinking about suicide because she felt different and her mom reading her diary saved her life. So good for you, secondly, I say let her tell her father when she is ready and just be ready to be in her corner and show her support. He may be accepting and not care but it may take him a while to come around. She can put hints out there to see how he handles the mention of lesbians, and go from there. Good luck to her

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2014

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I disagree that the OP should tell her daughter's father. She shouldn't have been reading her daughter's diary in the first place, and secondly, it isn't HER place to tell anyone.

Haley - posted on 11/14/2014

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If it's just telling the father that you're worried about. Don't worry. Just tell him. She's his daughter and even if it takes him a long time, he will come around. She is who she is, and he'll have to accept it. Also, you should never read your child's diaries. That's the worst thing you can do, especially if they find out that you did. They'll never trust you. When she's ready to tell you something she will, and for you to take that opportunity from her was wrong. She may be your daughter but she is her own person who deserves a right to her own thoughts. Be careful. Because the little things can set a child off for life.

Csjnstn - posted on 11/12/2014

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My step sister came out to me and my mom, who are both very open and non judge mental. We both accepted her with open loving arms, her dad on the other hand took a while to come around. My mom explained it to him as people are people, whether or not she's with a guy or a girl it shouldn't matter what should matter is that she's with a good person. just give him time and he should be able to adjust to the idea of it, anyways you never know it could be just a phase.

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