LIttle girls trying to be Tomboys

Corita - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My little girl is 18months old. She has been walking since she was 9m. The battle scars on her face, arms, and legs is horrible. How can I keep my little girl cute if she is rougher than my boys?

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Tracy - posted on 10/31/2012

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I'm going to ignore the comment about "keeping her cute" because I don't think it came out how you meant it. At least I HOPE not... :)



My daughter started walking at 9m. She is 3 now. She also has several older brothers. She has taken plenty of spills and had plenty of scratches from the cats who she WON'T leave alone. My thought is that my daughter doesn't really have any scars despite her addiction to adrenaline and dangerous things. Is there anything you can do to maybe child proof a bit more to protect from damaging falls/etc...? Maybe rugs on hardwood floors, corner pads on furniture, less climbable things around, yadda yadda yadda...?



Other than that, I would just say let her be as long as none of the injuries which are causing these scars aren't too bad. Do your boys have battle scars from their roughness? I would be willing to bet so. I would suggest to only be as worried about the scars on her as you would be if they were on your boys. If you worry extra about scars on your girl compared to your boys, then you may want to think about how you define being female and what "beauty" means to you - and by extension, what it will mean to your daughter.

Tracie - posted on 10/30/2012

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Your priority as a mother is not to "keep your daughter cute." It's to give her the space and confidence to be who she is, do what she enjoys and live her life her own way. Please don't restrict her activities in the name of shallow appearances. Let her experience life, bumps and all.

Niketa - posted on 10/27/2012

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Hi, My name is Niki Bhatia and I am the author of a childrens book, PINK IS JUST A COLOR AND SO IS BLUE. It is about letting go of our old gender stereotypes about colors (pink and blue) and toys kids choose to play with. The main character is a little boy who is not too athletic and his best friend is a feisty little girl who is "tomboyish". Our ultimate goal is to assure that our kids grow upto be confident, productive individuals, without placing so much emphasis on color and toys when they are sooo young.



http://www.amazon.com/Pink-Just-Color-So...

Lauren - posted on 03/26/2010

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I have 3 girls and 1 boy of my own and 2 stepsons. My 2nd daughter who is 4 is such a tomboy. Dont get me wrong she likes to play with girls toys and all but she would rather play wih her brothers toys and do what they do. She loves Batman, Woody and Buzz, Hulk, Spiderman, you name it she loves it. On the other hand my youngest daughter 2 is so rough and get bumps and bruises all the time but she is very m ucha girlie girl. Its something kids go through, enjoy it and love it!!!!!

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2010

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You sound just like my mom. Keep in mind your daughter will be cute no matter what. And it's a good thing she's so active. Let her be herself and run around and play sports with the boys if thats what makes her happy. Of course there will be cuts and bruises along the way but if thats the worst of it your doin pretty good. It will help make her a stronger woman too. And I'm sure you want to raise a strong independent daughter. So she'll be ok and one day she may even come around to the girlie side.

Ricky - posted on 03/26/2010

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Let her be a little tomboy, when she is older she will most likely get into girly things if her friends are into it. My sister and I and all our girl cousins where tomboys because we hung out with our boy cousins. When we all started becoming teenagers we starting getting into girly things.
You can be a tomboy and still enjoy girl things, I loved dolls and playing house but also loved to climb trees and play in the mud with the boys.

Janice - posted on 03/26/2010

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let her be! i was a tomboy right up to i was 15 and i think i turned out alrite. i even wished a was boy when i was younger! to b honest i feel it has made me stronger as a person 2day! she is still young so it could b just a phase. but defin let her be. if you try and change that she will onli keep doing it no matter what age she is! goodluck and i hope u all the best!!!

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2010

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Hehe well barbies were just my example of girly stuff. But yeah 18 months is still pretty young, who knows maybe she'll grow out of wanting to play rough.

Corita - posted on 03/23/2010

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I hung with guys too. Majority of my family is male so I had no choice. My skin is and was not busted up. My daughter looks older than she should and thats not cute. Butttt your right its just I'm not used to that. Barbies!!!! Never!!! She abused the babies she have now b/c she don't like dolls.

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2010

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My opinion... let her do what she wants to do! If that's just her personality, to be rough and tom-boyish, there's nothing wrong with that. I think all little kids get hurt/scars from stuff, that's unavoidable. Plus she's still quite young, there will be plenty of time for her to get into Barbies ;) When I was a little kid, ALL of my friends were boys and I played with them doing boy stuff like playing tag, building forts in the woods, stuff like that. And I don't think there's anything wrong with me now because of it ;)

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