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Terry-Lee - posted on 05/20/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I wonder if its a desease to hav a child i am 24 years old with a 4month old baby and i prob look younger to people i dont know but i always get these looks from people in town that drive me up the wall and i try to ignore them but some days i just want to explode is it really that bad or am i imagining things...........

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Jamie - posted on 05/20/2009

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Be happy you look younger then you are. So when people look at you you can think to yourself "damn right I look good for having a baby"

Hayley - posted on 05/20/2009

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im 22 with a 20 month old and a 2 month old and u wudnt believe the looks i get! i look younger than 22 one day and old grandma lady walked past me and actually rudely commented on the fact i was too young to have kids,she was so disrespectful! there are alot of young mums out there but it doesnt mean they arent doing a good job as a parent!

Angel - posted on 05/20/2009

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I am another one of those 20 year olds that don't look 20. I got asked the other day at work if my work followed child labor laws because I didn't even look old enough to be working. Just blow them off, give them a nice wave and a smile - it just pisses them off all the more! ha

If you look at the age group of the people that are giving these dirty looks, you will notice that majority of them come from older generations, where you were married at 18 and till death due you part, actually meant it. These are the same people giving dirty looks about single parents of any age, and couples getting divorced or pregnant without a ring.

I think that people need to lay off our generation. Things are changing considerably. I look at the way my little cousins are dressing (like my 13 year old girl cousins) and think back to when I was that age. If I would dress like them, my mom would have never let me leave my room, let alone the house. I think society is changing, and the acceptable age for getting pregnant is also getting younger. I mean you see so many more teenagers - not even out of highschool - getting pregnant than ever before. I think as time goes on, people who have babies at the age of 25 or so are going to be considered 'old'.

Kala - posted on 05/20/2009

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I was 21 when my son was born and his Daddy was only 20 at the time. We got used to the stares and dirty looks. They're just jealous that we can have such a happy and perfect family at such a young age. Don't worry what other people think about you and your baby. As long as you're happy with your family, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Samantha - posted on 05/20/2009

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I am 24 and I look younger that I am, but I got a double dose. My son;s father and I are together and everything and have been for quite some time but there is no ring on my finger, although we do plan on getting married in the future. If's funny to me to watch peoples faces, they see my son smile, then their eyes wander to my left hand, their eyes get big for a secong then they give me a pitiful little half smile. I just grin huge.

Rachael - posted on 05/20/2009

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Quoting Nicola:

It is hard, I am 23 and look 15 haha, I am not trying to be rude but most of the looks I get are from the older generations, and the thing that annoys me is alot of them had babies younger than alot of us today so I don't see they're problems. Just hold your head high, they're the ones with a problem


 



I'm 26 and get mistaken for 17 or 18 all the time, usually from older generations. I completely agree with older generations getting married and having babies at much younger ages. Hello pot have you met kettle??? It also makes older ladies extremely angry when I do not allow them to manhandle my child. Kidnappings happen in stores all the time now, it's not like when I was little and could run all over the store without fear of someone taking me. More like fear that my mother would happily leave us there if we wandered away just to teach us a lesson. I grew up in a very small town where everyone knows everyone else and their business so no worries that I would not find my way back home much to my mother obvious disappointment. 

Christine - posted on 05/20/2009

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Wow!! I'm happy to see there are so many going through the same thing. I am 26 with a 2 year old and a 3 year old. I repeatedly get told I don't look a day over 16 and I to live in a small town. I am used to the looks and the whispers. It used to bother me some, especially while out with my husband as well who is 30 and LOOKS 30. Now I don't really care and I almost enjoy that I look so young at times.

Lindsay - posted on 05/20/2009

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Quoting Julie:

Stuff em! Thats all I can say. I was 21 when I had my twin boys. I would rather be a young mum with healthy happy well cared for children than be a mother of a more 'acceptable'age that doesnt look after her children because I know a few that dont. Its not right to judge for any reason but I'd rather be judged on the job that I do as a mother than on my age when I had them.



I totally agree! It shouldn't be the age of the mom that matters but that the kids are loved and well cared for! My daughter is 4 now and says that she's glad she doesn't have an old mom! She's just glad I'll get outside and run and play and be silly with them!

Jo-anne - posted on 05/20/2009

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hey, i was 18 when i had my first son and are now 29 with 5 kids and still get funny looks dont worry about them as long as you are happy that is all that matters!!!!

Devon - posted on 05/20/2009

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i was 19 years old when i had my twin girls. everywhere i went people would come up to me and ask me if they were twins and then they would tell me that i am so young. or i would get the stares while pushing two babies around. i just ignored them or the one's that made a comment to me i would just say "Yea" to them. don't let it get to you. almost 90 percent of them that stare probably had there kids at a young age. people just now think that if you are young and have babies you don't take care of them. just ignore them and enjoy your baby and life:)

Nicola - posted on 05/20/2009

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It is hard, I am 23 and look 15 haha, I am not trying to be rude but most of the looks I get are from the older generations, and the thing that annoys me is alot of them had babies younger than alot of us today so I don't see they're problems. Just hold your head high, they're the ones with a problem

Jessica - posted on 05/20/2009

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I used to let the looks bother me. Most of my life, after puberty, I've looked at least 5 years younger than I actually was, just with really big boobs. When I was 21 people thought I was 12. I'm now on my way to being 27 and look 18. The worst looks were when I was pregnant. If they made a comment that I could hear, I'd confront them, you really shouldn't mess with pregnant women. Now, they just ask if my daughter's mine. I started turning it around. Just the other day I was called a "good girl" by an old woman for returning my shopping cart. I gave her a look to say "yeah, you're looney, I'm not a dumb kid." Then, I opened my car door and she could hear my 18mo talking. She turned around and rushed off, embarrassed. Or the cashiers that give me the cold shoulder when I go out with my daughter, then they change their tune when they see my ID.
Don't let their judging ruin your day, but relish the times you can make them rethink judging strangers

Natalee - posted on 05/20/2009

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i know how you feel and i can tell you now its no disease some people are just really rude and ignorant. i was 16 when i got preganant and had my first child and i was still at school. i got alot of stick from people in general but also from people who i thought were my friends. im now nearly 21 and i have two kids and i still get those looks when i walk down the street. my daughter is at pre school and there are maybe 4 mums which are fairly young including myself i sometimes feel embarrased when i am waiting to pick her up as all the other mums have their "clicks" those mums they talk to every day and i dont. im not sure whether this is because i am younger or not but it makes me feel smaller than them. but ive realised now that no matter where you are youll always get someone looking at you funny whether you are a young mum or an older mum. i jst say not to let it get to you because it doesnt matter what age you are if your a good mum.

Jessica - posted on 05/20/2009

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I used to let the looks bother me. Most of my life, after puberty, I've looked at least 5 years younger than I actually was, just with really big boobs. When I was 21 people thought I was 12, which was terrible because I was in the military and every one always just assumed I was fresh out of boot camp. I'm now on my way to being 27 and look 18. The worst looks were when I was pregnant. If they made a comment that I could hear, I'd confront them, you really shouldn't mess with pregnant women. Now, they just ask if my daughter's mine. I started turning it around. Just the other day I was called a "good girl" by an old woman for returning my shopping cart. I gave her a look to say "yeah, you're looney, I'm not a dumb kid." Then, I opened my car door and she could hear my 18mo talking. She turned around and rushed off, embarrassed. Or the cashiers that give me the cold shoulder when I go out with my daughter, then they change their tune when they see my ID.
Don't let their judging ruin your day, but relish the times you can make them rethink judging strangers.

Laura - posted on 05/20/2009

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people are funny creatures, some feel the need to judge others, just hold your head high and ignore them, I know how u feel, but you are alreadya better person as your not the one judging a book by its cover

Kirti - posted on 05/20/2009

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I'm 22, I'm proud of my bump. I live in a small town though, where every other teenage girl gets pregnant, so it's kind of expected here.. Haha. It's probably not as bad as you're imagining it. It's nobody elses business what goes on and how old you are or nothing. They might not even be thinking about your age, they could just be thinking how gorgeous your baby is..
It's hard to ignore sometimes, but you've just got to smile proudly and love who you are, and love to remember the fact that back in probably half of "their days", they were all married & had their 3rd child by the age of 25. So who are they to judge anyway? Contraceptive has changed, but family values and choices to be pro-life are just as important now as they have ever been.

So, sorry for the little rant. But any strangers opinion of your motherhood is worthless, unless complimentary ;)

Good luck :)

Mel - posted on 05/20/2009

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dont worry! im a just turned 20 year old mum to a 14 month old. she was born when i was 18, but i looked even younger then that. alot of people judge but who cares long as you know your a good mum. i know i wanted my baby, i know im a good mum, and i know ive chosen a great man to be my childs father so doesnt matter what others want to think. i had the hospital accuse me of doing drugs while breast feeding

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We can not stop ppl from looking or talking ,but with a brave heart you can walk with your head up and now the only opinion that matters is your child's.They love you and are proud of you just the way you are.I was 19 when I had my first son,and would just chalk it up to crabby ppl having a crabby day.

Julie - posted on 05/20/2009

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Stuff em! Thats all I can say. I was 21 when I had my twin boys. I would rather be a young mum with healthy happy well cared for children than be a mother of a more 'acceptable'age that doesnt look after her children because I know a few that dont. Its not right to judge for any reason but I'd rather be judged on the job that I do as a mother than on my age when I had them.

Helena - posted on 05/20/2009

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i was 21 when i had my first, and looked younger than i was. i know how you feel! you just wanna scream at them for being so judgemental!

Stacey - posted on 05/20/2009

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i know how you feal i was 17 when i got pregnant n now im 19 n my son is 11months old i still get funny looks off people they shouldnt look at us funny they may have family one day that have kids young as well

Sarah - posted on 05/20/2009

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i was 21 when i got pregnant and i can remember waddling through town at about 8 months gone, and these two old ladies said, 'ew, look at that girl, she can't be more than 18 and she's pregnant! it's disgusting!' i wish i'd turned round and said something now! just remember it's nobody else's business!! :)

Sadie - posted on 05/20/2009

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Post a reply!i get it all the time i am 21 with a nearly 5 month old but i only look about 16 lol. i feel like i want to explode and have done in the past.

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