Looking after more than one child

Tanya - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Did or does anyone out there have a fear of battling to look after two children at once? I am 9wks pregnant with my second child and I just don't know how I'm going to keep up with my very active 3yr old child and a baby. Is there anyway to keep your sanity?? How did you cope or do u have the same fear, or am i alone on this one?

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Lindsay - posted on 06/20/2009

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My kids are 18months and 2 days apart! I was beyond scared when I found out I was pregnant with baby no. 2 and my first was just a baby. You will do fine. You will be tired, but you will manage. As many others have said, Schedule is the key! Once you get past the initial newborn stage and the jealousy the will come from your 3 yr old, everything will fall into place! Good luck!

Katie - posted on 06/20/2009

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I have two children, my son is 19 months and my daughter is 5 months.I have my hands full but I just take things one at a time.If one has to cry because I'm tending to the other, well so be it.They aren't in any danger or anything and I would rather take my time with one and then go to thhe other instead of rushing and have something happen.It is do able though.Having two children is no different than having one, I love it and would not trade it for anything.I was worried about having my two so close together but it has been wonderful so far.Good luck and you can do it, that's why we are the ones to carry them for 9 months!

Christy - posted on 06/20/2009

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I am so scared too. I have a 17month old and am actually due tomorrow with my second child. I dont know how I am going to deal with a toddler and a newborn. Everyone tells me its challenging but doable. I hope so!!!! I am glad that I have my husband to count on. I dont work....so I will have them all day until my husband gets home from work. I hope I too can keep my sanity. Taking care of my first daughter was very easy to me. I didnt have a difficult time...she is a very cooperative and easy-going child. She slept through the night from the day she was born. I am nervous about the whole loosing sleep and attempting to run a house-hold on 3hrs of sleep a night. LOL Other people do it so Im sure I can too...But I do love my sleep. lol Good Luck and Congrats on the new baby!!!

Tashia Ann - posted on 06/20/2009

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i have a 3 yr an 4 month an its just me no family around an there dad isnt around an its really easy just let the older one help out my daughter helps so much with her sister i admit bath time is kinda hard but i find away to get it all done if u get the older one helpin with baby things now like putting up clothes maybe thay wont be jealous roxy has never been jealous just make sure thay both feel loved i know you know you love them but thay need to feel it alot more when a new baby is around!! good luck if i can do it alone then im sure you can do it!!!!!

Alexis - posted on 06/20/2009

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Quoting Stevie:

i worry about it too im not pregnant yet not really trying yet since my son is only 7 months but i have no clue that when we do have another what i will do there will be fighting for attention and so on right now im kind of worried about not ever having the feeling to want another one i know i want more than one kid but i just dont feel like having another baby and im hoping i will again but good luck i bet you will do great once your new baby comes maybe its just an intinct kind of thing congrats on the new one by the way



Stevie, I know it sounds crazy, but the closer together, I have found the better. My twins were 15 months old when I got pregnant with my daughter, and I was horrified.  I found though that they all play now (she is 7 months) and it is almost like I had them all together, well she can't walk, or even crawl yet, but they play together the boys entertain her, they all find the same things funny- it is just really awesome to see how well they interact, and I don't think that, if they had been further apart, it would have been like that.

Alexis - posted on 06/20/2009

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I have three children, a set of 23 month old twin boys and a 7 month old baby girl. It will b rough for awhile, but you will get a schedule ( THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU DO- SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE) down and it will be fine. Like Shareen said, you don't really have any choice, but to do it. And you will get it down just fine, and will find that your 3 year old will help you so much, after a few weeks of a little jealousy. Congrats and have fun.

Stevie - posted on 06/20/2009

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i worry about it too im not pregnant yet not really trying yet since my son is only 7 months but i have no clue that when we do have another what i will do there will be fighting for attention and so on right now im kind of worried about not ever having the feeling to want another one i know i want more than one kid but i just dont feel like having another baby and im hoping i will again but good luck i bet you will do great once your new baby comes maybe its just an intinct kind of thing congrats on the new one by the way

Amanda - posted on 06/20/2009

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I have a 3 year old and I just started babysitting a 4 year old who is with me for 11 hours a day so it is diffrent with 2 but you just have to have a schedule and routine and you will be find. I didnt know how I would do it because it was always just me and my daughter but its not that bad. you will learn what you need to do to keep both of your kids happy has time goes by! good luck!

Lisamarie81m - posted on 06/20/2009

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I Had my second son when my oldest was 2 1/2 I was scared to go any where with the two of them alone and I if I didnt have to I didn't. I think your fears are normal and you will get used to it and you will soon learn that life with one child was just boring and way too easy :)

Hannah - posted on 06/20/2009

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I just had my 2nd baby (she's almost 2 months now) and I also have a 2-year-old. It is ALOT different than having just one child. Do alot of fun things and go out with your 3-year-old before you have your baby and enjoy your family, because your time will be more limited, especially if you're breastfeeding like I am. Just be sure to include your older child in most things. They can help bring you a diaper and things like that and that usually makes them feel like they are very good helpers. After you bounce back a little from the birth, try to set aside some time to spend just with the older one, after your hubby gets home or something so that they still feel like they get your attention too.

Shereen - posted on 06/20/2009

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hey ladies...well let me just say YOU CAN DO IT because you have to! you will be amazed how much energy you will have and where the strength and patience will come from. I am a mother of twins. they are almost 10months and yes there are days when i don;t find time to eat or have a cup of coffee and somtimes at night just break down...but i do it and everyday passes by and we are all still alive!



a quick word of advice that i think helped me....SCHEDULE and ROUTINE! once your baby is a few months old get on them both on a schedule make every day like the one before. That way they know what they should expect and so will you!

anyway Tanya and Tegan don't worry about it you have a long road ahead now with the pregnancy just take care of yourself and enjoy just have ONE child for a while bcs it will NEVER be this quite again!

Tegan - posted on 06/20/2009

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hey hunni,
i have a son who is 1 and we just found out that im pregnant again i am terrified oh my gosh i am so scared i am not a strong person at all and i know its ganna be hard i don't know how i will cope, but i just keep thinking of the positive things like i get to have another beautiful baby when i know there are people out there that cant and god is giving me this blessing and if he thinks i can do it then thats enough for me. just don't think bout it till the time comes i guess just spend as much time as you can with your other baby as you can atm but you will be fine.... its an adventure. good luck i hope everything goes well

Helen - posted on 06/20/2009

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i have 3, and its no different than having 1. they all have different personalities, but are all great, a blessing. im 29, and my oldest is 10. then 6, and finally 4. its great, dont be scared. :)

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