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Lots of changes

Autumn - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, Im 26 and I am embarking on a lot of changes right now. My main concern is keeping things light and easy for my children but we are about to leave as I am splitting with my fiance and moving back out on my own. Doing whats right can sometimes be so hard and I fear I wont have as much patience as I need for my two toddlers as I adjust back into being a single mom again. Wish me luck everyone!

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Jessica - posted on 01/20/2010

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Hey there, I am sorry things didn't work out with your fiance relationships are hard at the best of times. Being a single mother isn't easy I know I have been there. For the most part I kind of still am as I feel my child is my responcibilty not my partners and well he always either working or sleeping the joys of night shift lol anyway I just wanted to say that everything will be ok. Kids adjust well at that age the older they are the harder it is for them.

All the best.

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Jessica - posted on 01/22/2010

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Yeah if only males understood huh! Some of them do it's just hard to find them. My friends has a really good Hubby she so lucky. He will come home from his 8 hour day and either cook the dinner or bath the kids chips in helps out. I don't expect much but a bit of help would be nice. You'll be alright and who knows maybe your fiance might grow up and understand one day. Takes males longer than us females. Guess that is why some woman marry a man twice her age lol takes them that long to catch up.

Autumn - posted on 01/21/2010

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Exactly jessica! No you are not weird, it IS harder when you expect help from someone. We have expectations on our partners and that is normal- they need to hold up their end too. Expecting help and getting nothing makes for twice the work and twice the frustration.

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You should be proud of yourself for making this step. I know it is scary, but it is much better for you to end the relationship now before you get married. I am sure you will be strong for your children and patient with them. You will learn to be a family on your own again.

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2010

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Well I do hope things work out for you and you children. It's amazing how strong us mothers can be when we have to be. I used to actually enjoy being a single mother at one point, I can't actually give a reason why I did I just did things seemed easier. I guess it was cause I knew I was on my own that doing everthing myself wasn't a bother whereas before I left my husband it would frustrate me so much doing everything around the house and looking after our boy just a little help would have been nice. Maybe I'm just weird lol

Autumn - posted on 01/20/2010

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THanx! Yeah thats exactly what my fiance is doing too! lol. He deos swing, sleeps and works. Plays games and watches movies inbetween. And its def not helping the situation. We have been living together till I get an apt. Well i finally got a call today and I set the weekend after next up to go see the place. eek, its actually happening.

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Of course you'll manage! Just believe in yourself and don't think about what can go wrong, be positive. Lots of luck to you!

Nikki - posted on 01/20/2010

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Stay strong and be positive you have two beautiful children who adore you. It will take time but in the end everything always has a way of working out. You are young , you will find love again. You are doing what's right for you and your children and congrats for taking that first step towards making things better. Just because this didnt work out doesn't mean things won't work out in a different way. Take each day as it comes and remember you are a great person and a wonderful mother , believe in yourself!!

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