Me and my sons father cant hardly see eye to eye. were always rowing and am tired of it.

Dealfneil - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Any suggestions. I willing to make it work but we argue so much. I never knew relationships were so hard

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Krista - posted on 10/12/2009

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Quoting Dealfneil:

Its not that simple. Even if am right i must leave it alone. Thats no fair. si it



 I maintain my claim of simplicity. Are you more interested in being right or getting rid of hostility in your relationship? Having time alone is important for any relationship, just take care that it doesn't turn into a Dr. Jekyl/ Mr. Hyde situation...you know...where you'll get along famously when you're alone together but fight like alley cats back at home. Sometimes love is a one way street, at least until the other person realizes that you're travelling on it.

Kayla - posted on 10/10/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. If you want the arguing to stop, you will have to make the first move (be the bigger person). This was so hard for me to do and it took time, but it was so worth it in the end. Things still are not perfect, but they are so much better. If you take that first step eventually he will follow. And I agree with the the previous posts as well, alone time helps a lot too. Also if something is bothering you, don't approach him about it until you can do it calmly. If you need any other ideas you may message me as I've tried many different things.

Dealfneil - posted on 10/10/2009

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Weve been together for 3 years. I wud hate to start over right now. I love him but y do ppl that love each other so much tend to row

Dealfneil - posted on 10/10/2009

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Its not that simple. Even if am right i must leave it alone. Thats no fair. si it

Tasha - posted on 10/10/2009

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relationships shouldnt b hard, bring back d fun, think of d silly things ye done 2gether when ye first started out xxx gud luck



tasha xxx

Caitlin - posted on 10/10/2009

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I had the same problem with my husband after my daughter was born. It seemed like he didn't understand anything that was going on or how much I did plus worked a job. We always argued, what we did was had someone watch our daughter for a bit and then we went out together. We would either go for a walk around the block or go out to eat. We just needed some space and time together without anyone else. When my daughter was first born we lived with one of my parents, so we really had no alone time. Try to get some alone time with him and then try talking. Sometimes it's easier to talk when it's just you and him. I hope this helps.



~Caitlin~

Krista - posted on 10/10/2009

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I would suggest that you just stop arguing with him. It sounds simple, and it really is. If he starts in on you and you remain calm and do not start accusing and becoming defensive, the fight will die a very quick death. I have learned that whoever is bothered by something must be the one who first changes in order to bring about the change. Someone has to be first. It's called love.

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