misscarage/missed abortion

Cheyenne - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I just turned 20 not long ago and about a month ago I found out I was pregnant had started figuring out ways to tell my family. Than 3or 4 weeks ago found out I had as what doctors called it missed abortion or misscarage. I and scared still have to see doctors because the sack is other but no baby because it did not develope. I not sure how to deal with all of this. My soon to be husband does not know how to help me except hug me and try and make it so I not sad but all I want to do is cry. Any advice and how to deal with this?

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Kennishia - posted on 03/13/2014

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Hey Cheyenne! Sorry to hear this! All I could say is to stay positive, crying is healthy, so cry just do not blame yourself or feel guilty. Take the time to grieve and when you can you will be able to move forward. You were ready to have your baby but sadly this incident happened but this was not your fault so make sure to be strong. All the best Hun.

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2014

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I lost my 1st one. I would suggest getting a D&C done if you still have the amniotic sac but no baby, it could take weeks for your body to realize and finally start aborting the rest. This is what happened to mt the 1st time and I have gone on to have 3 healthy babies.
My advice is to get yourself sorted out and grieve for the baby you have lost but you are still very young, and it may never happen again.

Dee Dee - posted on 03/14/2014

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I can honestly say I know how you feel. I had four miscarriage. When you need to lean on your husband. Mine did wonders for me. Just cry. Anytime and anywhere it doesn't even matter if your shopping. If need be joing grieving mothers groups or talking to a mental heath worker helps a lot. You never totally get over it but you can become happy again.

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Cheyenne - posted on 03/14/2014

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Dee dee... But it hard to cry when only 4 people know what happened and you don't want others to know. But when I hear doctors say they worried something not right go see a doctor out where I am just makes me cry. This would have been my first child. And now nothing.. My fiancé does what he can. But he has no clue what to do when I start to cry about it. Whole thing makes me feel useless even though i not.

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