Misscarrages

Kareena - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I recently lost my baby at 7 weeks i know its not long but im having a hard time dealing with it any addvice from some one whos been there pleaes

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Lorraine - posted on 01/12/2013

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Hi i lost a baby at 3 months... he stop growing at 6 I named him Liam it is hard path we walk in life now. On the 15 september my world changed it will never be the same.

Samantha - posted on 04/10/2010

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hi i know how you feel ive got one older child 5 and ive got a 4 munth old but i went through 3 misscarigaes before i got my yungest, i lost one at 6wks 2nd at 10wks and my third at 12wks n that hit me so bad i went through a ruff stage i fought i wudnt carry again, but i spoke to pepole who have been there n i got through day by day it was very hard to do but im so happy to have a baby at last, trust me it will take time but u will come through the other side, it doesnt stop u finkin bout the baby u loose trust me i still fink of mine even though ive got one now, just talk to people it will help you

Katherine - posted on 04/08/2010

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I have had two misscarriage, and I don't think there is any certain way to get passed it. Both my misscarriages were around 12 weeks. It takes time, and you never forget. When I find out that I'm pregnant I go out and get a teddy bear to celebrate. I still have the two bears from the children that I misscarried. You may feel like 7 weeks isn't long, but as soon as you find out that you are pregnant you make a connection with your baby. Just take time and cry as much as you want. I know when I misscarried a lot of people made it worse, by trying to say that it's ok or they understand (when they don't). I leaned on my husband a lot. I talked to him about it, and he helped me through it. Don't keep it bottled up, if you need to talk about it, then talk about it, and if you need to cry about it, then cry about it. My first misscarriage was over 4 years ago, and I still think about it to this day. There is no set time on when you are going to feel better, it all depends on how you grieve. I'm sorry for your loss.

Jasmine - posted on 04/08/2010

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i have had 5 miscarriages, it is extremely hard but if you want to add me to talk, i am happy to chat ok,

Shanna - posted on 04/07/2010

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i know how you feel i am soooo sorry for your loss i lost ours at almost 12 weeks and it is devistating.!! I actually had my husband talk to all of our family to tell them not to say anything to me at all . I didn't want them to say anything. I talked to my husband about it . Know i can talk about it with others because i think things just happen for a reason and i have 2 children now and i would have never had these two particular children if that didn't happen. i still think about it all the time. and it still makes me sad. ihope you get through this! i will pray that you get through this with your significant other too.

Cassandra - posted on 04/06/2010

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I know how you feel, it is a very stressful sistuation to be in. I lost my second child due to miscarriage, i was 15 weeks along. That was over 5 years ago, and i still think about it. but its not sad thoughts anymore its good thoughts. Like my other kids have their baby bother/sister looking out for them. they have their very own gardian angel. But i di have a hard time, so like the other moms have told you just take your time and go slow. And do not hide or bottle up your emotions, because that can be the worest thing to do i know first hand because thats what i did. and it made it a lot harder on me. But just try to look ahead and relaxe. And you will have another one, i wish you all the best of luck. I will be praying for you!!

Barbora Milena - posted on 04/06/2010

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oh my, i know how you feel....i had miscarriage with my 1st pregnancy...I went to the 12wks check n they told me the fetus died in 9wks... now im mama to 5mnths girl, the pregnancy was absolutely ok n she is beautiful healthy girl...dont worry, just take your time, relax, dont stress yourself n when your doc tells you its safe to do so, try again...

Amy - posted on 04/06/2010

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Everyone copes with a miscarriage differently. For me I needed to get pregnant soon so I wouldn't sit there moping in my own sorrow. I looked for a dr/midwife that would do ultrasounds early on (before hearing the heartbeat) and honestly that's what has helped me get through these early stages of my current pregnancy.

I also searched out some other forms that were more active and found a great support group of other women who had recently gone through the same thing as me. The miscarriage group on COM isn't very active, but I've found some on MedHelp that are, as well as other websites.

Also, know that most women will suffer some sort of miscarriage in there life, I was amazed to find out how many other women I knew (even younger than me) who had a miscarriage, most even had a healthy baby afterworlds.

Good luck in your healing process, and I'm so sorry for your loss!

Cher - posted on 04/06/2010

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I had two misscarrages myself and I now how you feel right now. The advise I can give you is to let it go as soon as possible, because you must go on with your live. I know it hurts, but we don't know the reason why. Only God knows. Be strong and when your ready to let go let it go and try to get pregnant again. Pray to God and everything will be okay.

Jackie - posted on 04/06/2010

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Hi Kareena. I lost a baby around the same time about 1 1/2 years ago. I have NEVER been so devistated in my ENTIRE life. My boyfriend couldn't understand what I was going through and I, myself, couldn't understand why I was sooo messed up. I don't wish that on my worst enemy. It was the day before Mothers Day and it was horrible!

Unfortunately, nothing anybody says is going to make you feel better but it will let you know that you are not alone. I felt like I was the only person in the world when it happened to me. It will take lots of time and you will begin to feel better but you will never forget.

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2010

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i miscarried twins they were mono amniotic which means they were in the same sac an shared an umbilical cord, still to this day i think about them even though i was only twelve weeks i will never get over that loss i will always remember them ad even now since my son was born he can never replace what was lost

Ashley - posted on 04/06/2010

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I miscarried in October of 2008 at 9-10 weeks and didn't even know it till I went to a routine check-up for an ultrasound to see if I was carrying twins. It was an experience like none other...it doesn't matter how long you carried your LO it's still hard when something happens. You take it one day at a time and soon it won't be so hard. We tried a year later (July 2009),,,because I had to have a D&C, and now I am due in 16 days. I am sorry this happens to so many of us and I wish you the best of luck.

Stevie - posted on 04/06/2010

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im so so sorry you went threw that i lost mine when i was about 4months i was only a few days off its very hard but i guess i had lost it ealier in the pregnancy when it had really gone i was totally confused cuz i have two healthy as can be kids and then that happend and no one could tell me why it was a completely horrible month for me and the worst part was this happend 6 days before my sons 1st birthday and it just seemed like no matter how i delt with the miscarrage something had to ruin my day i just did everything day by day it was really hard to go out somewhere were there were alot of ppl like the store cuz it would break my heart all over again but after i had gotten past the crying all the time i was able to see some friends again im pregnant again i actually got pregnant only a month or two after the misscarrage and it seems healthy so far my second app is tomorrow so until then i wont really know if im past this step where i lost the baby last time i wish you the best of luck and talking helps a ton and crying helps as well just give it some time though it will get easier

Melissa - posted on 04/06/2010

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It is very hard I know. I also agree with Nikki, it was so hard for me to be happy for all the woman that I knew that were pregnant. I think the thing that got me through it was my son. I threw all of my love and energy towards him and just thanked god that I had him. It will take a while but take your time you need it. Talking to people was another thing that helped me, you really wouldn't believe how many woman have gone through the same thing. It was a little easier knowing I wasn't the only one and that I wasn't alone.

Bethany - posted on 04/06/2010

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Kareena I am so sorry you're going through this. For me, it took time of being able to grieve and cry when I needed to. My husband didn't fully understand the depth of pain I was in, but I can't even count the number of nights he held me while I cried. I honestly don't think there's an easy way to deal with losing a child, no matter how old they were. I've had four miscarriages, all between six and ten weeks. The first was over three years ago, and I still ache about it sometimes. I think it's really important to acknowledge to yourself that you lost a child and to cry when you need to, even if it's years later.

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Its gutting when that happens - no matter how far along you are. Everyone needs to find a way that allows them to deal with the loss. My way was clutching to the fact that at least it turned out I could get pregnant. Others have little memorials for their lost child. Others just allowed themselve to cry and greive for a while until they are ready to keep going. Just take the time you need to do whatever feels right for you and make sure you have a good support group with you...

Josslyn - posted on 04/06/2010

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Time and space, you need to recollect your thoughts, and expect not to be yourself again, it really hurts and take a good while to come to terms with. Maybe take some time so you and your man can go somewhere together, that's what I did, I broke away from "reality"completely for about 2 weeks and it helped me come to terms with why these things happen.

All my love to you and we are all here if you need us.

**HUGS**

Nikki - posted on 04/06/2010

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I don't think it matters how far you are it still hurts, I am really sorry for what you are going through, I know how much it hurts. You just need to give yourself time, do what ever you feel you need to do to grieve, don't bottle it up. I was a mess when I lost mine at 9 weeks, I bottled it up and I found that I because very resentful of anyone who was pregnant or having babies, it was hard for me to get over those feelings even though I realised I wasn't being fair. If you finding it to hard speak with a friend or a councillor, it will get easier. Good luck and take care :)

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