missed abortion

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I've just had a missed abortion, i'm only 20 yrs old and was very very excited, 3 days off my second trimester, , any advice on what i can do next to help concieve again?

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Jacquelyn - posted on 11/10/2009

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Missed abortion refers to the clinical situation in which an intrauterine pregnancy is present but is no longer developing normally. This can manifest as an anembryonic gestation (empty sac or blighted ovum) or with fetal demise prior to 20 weeks' gestation. The gestation is termed a missed abortion only if the diagnosis of incomplete abortion or inevitable abortion is excluded (ie, the cervical os is closed)

Anneke - posted on 11/10/2009

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I know from personal experience that it is not the easiest thing to get over. Just make sure you grieve the loss and give your body time to recoup. Talk to your Dr about how long you should wait. It is important for you and your body to be over the loss before you try again.

Emily - posted on 08/19/2010

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Reading this thread, is bringing me to tears. When I was 17 i was about 12-15 weeks pregnant and had a miscarriage, the doctors said it was a missed abortion. and i'd never heard of that so when they explained what happened, it hurt. I'm just glad that my daughter was able to go to a better place. Honestly i waited til i was 20 yaers old to get pregnant again but it also took me a long time to get over the miscarriage. and to find a better person to have a child by. im praying for you and will continue to.

Christina - posted on 08/19/2010

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Im really sorry to hear that. Like the others said give yourself time to heal. The best way Ive heard of people getting pregnant is not trying. Ive heard that women try so hard to concieve it stresses the body out. Stay relaxed and just give it time. My friend and her husband tried for 6 months and they gave up and like a month later she found out she was pregnant.

Lorie - posted on 11/13/2009

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Hi, I also had a missed abortion same problem I was 4 months but the doctor said the baby's heart just stopped beating. That was in Sept 2007 by April 2008 I was pregnant again and had a great pregnacy no problems. So I would say just give it time let your body heal first. I don't know about you but I was an emotional wreck for a while but it does get better. Good luck!

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Mellisa - posted on 11/13/2009

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I had a missed abortion with my first pregnancy and I was heartbroken. We tried again after my next period and we conceived my four month old daughter that month. Make sure you take prenatal vitamins and monitor your cycle so you know when you're ovulating. Best of luck to you and I am sorry for your loss.

Felicia - posted on 11/13/2009

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its very hard i got pregnant at 20 and lost the baby at 7 weeks in july
i was also very excited it will be tough but you will have to get through it
we started trying again right after my next period
and ended up getting pregnant again in dec. and now i have a very healthy baby boy he is 2 months old now ... they say that more than half of the time you will miscarry your 1st pregnancy and have a sucsecfull pregnancy after

but once you get pregnant again the fear of losing the baby will not go away till your little is born
i was scared to death through the whole 9 months

Heather - posted on 11/13/2009

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First all Im very sorry. Secondly, in my opinion I feel getting pregnant happens better instead of driving yourself nuts and trying to do the whole ovulation thing, keeping track of your period and all that. And then when you least expect it you will get the answer you have been waiting for.



I dont know if you are a christian but something is telling me to tell you that a child is a gift from God and its all in his timing. Good luck Jessica!!!

Nicole - posted on 11/12/2009

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Jessica my heart goes out to you. stay healthy and active and follow your doctors advice. as far as conceiving again when your ready they make over the counter tests to check for ovulation Sharalyn's got it right, the prenatals help your body maintain the vitamins and minerals in your body and having the good levels can help with concieving. Also....be sure your parnter is still up for all this...it might have been harder for him than he lets on and he may need more or less time to get thru this. other than that..don't make sex all about making a baby!! keep it fun and keep the pressure off your man. if you put him under the added pressure and stress it may make it harder to get the results you want! Best of luck Jessica and I hope some of this is helpful.

Sharalyn - posted on 11/12/2009

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Having a miscarriage is hard. Take as much time before you start to concieve again. I understand you want to have a baby ASAP but it doesn't seem like a wise decision to do so right now. When you are emotionally ready to begin TTC again, take prenatals, folic acid and DHA pills for pregnant women. It will boost up the minerals and vitamins in your body and help you to concieve. Hope this helps.

User - posted on 11/12/2009

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I had a 'missed miscarriage' too. Please give your body time to rest and heal before you try and concieve again. i waited 8 months and had a successfull pregnancy. Dont put pressure on yourself it seems to be the key.

Charlotte - posted on 11/12/2009

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I know you need to have all medical things sorted but with the help of the docs, Im sure thats covered. As for been emotional there thats depent on you an your partner.

The advise I would give and truely stand by myself is to have fun doing it! Sex doesnt have to be routine. An when it happens it will feel even better.

I wish you well in your journey.

Gabrielle - posted on 11/12/2009

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I had the same thing just over 12 months ago (and needed to have a D&C as with missed abortions your body does not expel the fetous on its own) and believe it or not, we concieved again within 2 months and we now have a beautiful little girl whom is 5 weeks old! You will be most fertile after your first real menstral cycle. All you can do is hope for the best and kep trying. But it is unsafe to try before your first menstral cycle if you also had to have a D&C. Good Luck!! I know how hard it is, and a word of warning....It is emotionally harder when your pregnant after having a miscarriage, make sure you deal with your emotions first or you run a high risk of postnatal depression.

Kay - posted on 11/11/2009

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Hiya im really sorry you are going through this. it does get easier with time. i have 2 children and me and my partner decided last sept we wanted another child so we were ttc for 10month when finally in june i found out i was pregnant i was so excited but sadly started bleeding 9 days after i found out i was pregnant i went for an ultrasound and i was measuring 4 1/2weeks on internal scan so was told to go back for a rescan 2 weeks later but sadly i started clotting 2 days later and had a complete miscarraige my only advice to you is try again when you are ready you gp should be able to advice you how long i was adviced to wait 1 period b4 ttc again which we did and im glad to say im now 10+2 days pg again and im due on june 7th i want to wish you luck and good health with ttc xx

Crystal - posted on 11/11/2009

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i was in your situation 2 years ago but to add to it i had to change my wedding date, because the baby was due on the planned wedding date and then i had a missed abortion as well, only i didnt find out untill 13 weeks and it had happened at 11 weeks. its hard. you are doing the right steps, i went to a feritlity dr since this was my 2nd one and i was only 23. through the testing i found out i had PCOS and was put on medformin. it took almost 2 years but i did get pregent and was watched very carefully for the first 3 months (at my request) i had ultrasounds every 2 weeks to make sure that we didnt miss anything. now i have a 2.5 month old baby boy. my advice is work with the drs to give you the best possable chance, and when your ready try agian. i used fertilyfriend.com to help chart my cycles so i would know when the best time was to get pregrant. with PCOS it can take awhile to get pregent, but it is a lot of fun trying. But the most important advice i can offer is to relax, i got pregant in a month that we had stoped try (because of up coming stress at work) and we only had sex 3 times that month. so don't stress and work with the drs, it will happen. and don't rush it, but if your ready to try , then try. with me it was only a month after when we started figured the wedding night was a good time to start. Good luck

Sakeena - posted on 11/11/2009

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Quoting Jacquelyn:

Missed abortion refers to the clinical situation in which an intrauterine pregnancy is present but is no longer developing normally. This can manifest as an anembryonic gestation (empty sac or blighted ovum) or with fetal demise prior to 20 weeks' gestation. The gestation is termed a missed abortion only if the diagnosis of incomplete abortion or inevitable abortion is excluded (ie, the cervical os is closed)



oh wow...really?!

Renee - posted on 11/11/2009

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We kinda went through the same thing I was prego and they told me my levels were not normal so I had a etopic pg. It sucks and I am worried about being able to concive again. Good Luck

Angelique - posted on 11/11/2009

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Very weird and might not sound right to some, but very interesting, I read the other day somewhere, that a miscarriage is natures abortion... If the baby doesnt develop like its suppose to or something aint right, its natures way to get rid of that baby before something really bad happens.

Just remember, dont try for a baby if this might be a way to forget about the misscarriage, try for another baby because its a new life and a new begining, without haunting on the past.

Best of luck

Erica - posted on 11/11/2009

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Hi Jessica! I am very sorry to hear about your loss. =( I had a misscariage whenI was 19 when I was 10 weeks so about two weeks off my second trimester. I started bleeding on Christmas and went into labor the day after Chrismas. =( They say that it is very common and natural and about 1 in every 3 lose thier first pregnancy. Fortunately, I have 3 little girls now that are very close in age and never had any misscariages again. I got pregnant about 6 months after my loss and all was fine. Doctors say you should wait 3 months to try again after any pregnancy just to make sure you are healthy enough. Also, a fantastic idea while you are waiting is to make sure you are taking folic acid. This will give your baby the best shot at being healthy. You may want to google the benifits so you know the importance. Most doctors will recommend this! Have a great night and good luck and many blessings to you!

Nitza - posted on 11/10/2009

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doc say alot of first time moms have a miscarrage but 2nd pegnancy does fine. its not that you did something wrong its just the bodies for the first time feels wierd changes and doesnt like it and want what ever it is out.

User - posted on 11/10/2009

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I had 2 miscarriages prior to having my son. They were both between 9-10weeks. I was starting to think that I would never be able to have a child and was heart broken. When I got pregnant for the 3rd time I was considered "high risk" for the 1st 2 trimesters. I didn't think I would be able to carry my son and didn't tell anyone outside my husband and parents until I was into my 4th month. I didn't want to go through all the "congrats" just to have another miscarriage. I am again pregnant and 21 weeks along and all things are well. Until I passed the 10 week mark, I was afraid that I might have yet another miscarrige as well with this pregnancy.
Give your body and mind plenty of time to heal before you attempt to get pregnant again. You could have another miscarriage if you try again too soon. Best of luck.

Cynthia - posted on 11/10/2009

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I am so sorry! I cannot imagine how heartbreaking that must be! My husband and I got pregnant with our first without meaning to, 2 months into our marriage. We started months ago, trying to concevie again and thinking it would be just as simple, I finally found out on Halloween that I am pregnant again, and now because of what happened I'm petrified about to death of a miscarriage! You will be in my thoughts! As hard as it may be, I think the best thing to do, would be to give your body a little time to heal before trying again, and let your body build itself back up, to reduce the risk of it happening again! I wish you the best of luck in all the world!

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2009

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I also have PCOS and when I was diagnosed I was told that i'd more than likely need the help of fertility drugs to conceive. In my case, all it took was a little birth control. Being on birth control forced my body to ovulate on an almost regular basis. I conceived both my children while on birth control or within a month of stopping.



My first daughter was bron 6 weeks premature but is doing wonderfully. My second was term after taking progesterone shots from 19 weeks to 35 weeks.



Give yourself time to grieve and your body time to bounce back. Then have fun trying and the best of luck to you!

Veronica - posted on 11/10/2009

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Dear Jessica,
My heart goes out to you. I have had a miscarriage also - I blamed myself for it for quite a while -- and then the hubby and I were prg. again within 3 mon. I would go over it with your doctor as when the best time to try for another one would work best for you and your body. But in the meantime, get plenty of vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants into your system. Eat lots of fruits, as they contain lots of vitamins and antioxidants, and get lots of vegies for vitamins and fiber to cleanse your digestive system out - and for your blood as well. You may even want to consider Omega IIIs as they help with glands/hormones, the brain, etc. etc. Ask about that when you see your doctor.

I hope all goes well for you in the future - I pray for you - and thank you for posting the Angel quote - that is very healing, and a great idea to think about when that baby is lost... because reallly its true --

Sincerely,
Veronica

Tiffany - posted on 11/10/2009

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It really depends on you as to how fast you want to try again. Since you have pcos they might want to put you on progestrone the next time right away because with pcos most women don't make enough for a pregnancy. If you don't have enough progestrone even if it is a healthy baby you will still have a miscarriage. I can speak personally about loss as I have lost 4 babys and one was at 4 months gestation. My husband told me it was up to me for when we start trying again. Since I only have 1 to 2 cycles a year I wanted to get pregnant again as soon as possible.

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Thank you very much for your support ladies! I found this beautiful quote "An Angel with the book of life wrote down my baby's birth, and whispered as she closed the book, "too beautiful for earth". Your time will come... I believe my time will come at the right moment in my life, this is what is holding my partner and I together. I will be focusing on getting my body back into shape and getting my PCOS under control. You are very amazing women, a big cuddle for all of you :) x

Anna - posted on 11/10/2009

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So sorry to hear that. Miscarriage is really common, especially for women under 24. It happens to something like 1 in 6 pregnancies but some think it could be more like 1 in 3, since it often happens early before a woman even realises she's pregnant. So don't blame yourself - it is just something that happens.
Have you heard of the natural fertility method? It involves charting your temperature every morning, and other symptoms, to work out your most fertile time of the month. Send me a message if you want to know about it and I'll find some links for you.

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I have never heard of that term either, but it doesn't sound nice. Sorry for your loss, be strong and think positive :)

Crystal - posted on 11/10/2009

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So sorry for what happened to you, but I have to suggest that you give your body time. I have a friend who miscarried 8 times before carrying the baby and delivering at 30 weeks... and it was all because she continued to get pregnant too soon. Your body has to recover dear, but rest assured it won't take long. Just give it a good 6 months before trying again.

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Thats heartbreaking...just remember to give your body time to recouperate before trying again (my friend was told 6 months when she went through this). Your body will have been donating all it had to the baby so take multivits and get some R&R so that it is best prepared to go again x x x

Elizabeth - posted on 11/10/2009

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Hi Jessie,

I'm not sure about the emotional side of things - it sounds like a lot of people have that covered, some of whom may have experienced this themselves. So grieving and and taking time is a good thing to do.

With regards to seeking to conceieve (the physical aspects), if you have PCOS you may want to make sure you're as close to your optimal weight range as possible to ensure that you're ovulating, then go see a family planning centre. They can help you figure out what your cycle is like and so on. Some tips: buy an ovulation thermometer and chart your temperature every morning. Also, see your OB/GYN about a progestrone test to determine if you're actually ovulating when you go through your cycle - if not, you may want to request some medication to assist or start looking into deeper fertility treatment.

Ashley - posted on 11/10/2009

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i'm sorry to hear this i miscarried inbetween all my children but this one.. which means we got lucky i'm suppose to be pregnant with my 6th child.. but only pregnant with my 4th the only thing you can do is keep the hope.. and talk to your doctors! by the way i'm only 23 and i miscarried with in 10-12 days of missing my period so i'm just glad i didn't get to far into it....

Michele - posted on 11/10/2009

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I am sorry for your loss also. As for the conceiving it will happen again give it time and give your self a chance to heal both emotionally and physically. You still have time.

Anna - posted on 11/10/2009

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Please allow yourself to grieve before trying to conceive again.

Best wishes,
Anna in Minneapolis

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Its another word for miscarriage. Everything for the pregnancy was right but the baby never developed. I have PCOS so they are testing to see if that was the cause. I have a scan tomorrow morning.

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