Missing out for a good reason

Andrea - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 10 month old son, in may my sister in law's children were taken away by S.S. Her 3 older ones went to her mom, and we toke the youngest who is 7 months old. I feel like I have missed out on alot of opprotunites because I am stuck at home its just not possible to take 2 babies out. I still spend alot of time time with my son, but it breaks my heart when he needs me but I am busy with my niece, or doing chours that can't wait. It feels like I am being punished for doing something good. Has any one else been through something simular?


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Amy - posted on 08/26/2009




First I would like to say good for you. Being with family is the best case for her children. You taking one is very Noble thing to do. I don;t think your son is missing out. You should look up someone who has twins for support. Since I am sure you would feel similar ways they have felt. If anything at all your son has a great mommy to look up to. Seeing that family is to always be there for each other. Do you have a double stroller? You could first start by bringing them both for a short walk. everyday. then gradually work to making short shopping trips to the mall for something you need here and tehre. Bring your double stroller with you to the mall. Take it out of the car go to one side and place one in the stroller then walk over to the other side and put the other in the stroller. ASk your husband to make trips with you out at first until you are comfortable handling it on your own. You need to still do your regular daily activities t okeep yourself sain. Nothing is worse then being housebound. It will be difficult however talking with moms of multiples would be able to give you the best advise there is a page on this site also on ivillage.com. Good luck I hope everything works out for your family :)

Tabathia - posted on 08/26/2009




I got married when I was 14 and started having kids when I was 15. I am also everyone fall to person when they don't want to take care of their kids. I feel like I have missed out sometimes but I also look at the fact that I will be only 39 when my youngest turns 18 so any oats that need taking care of can wait until then :) Keep doing good it will come back to you 3 fold- Blessed Be

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