Mother in law

Shelly - posted on 07/05/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I need help in telling her to back off with my 3 year old son. I appreciate that she is there for us but tries to take him for every holiday. We just got back from a little trip and everyday she has been trying to get us to let her take him. The day we got back and everyday since. Today we let them take him on a boat ride but said he needs to be back by noon, I try to keep him on the same schedule everyday. They still have not brought him back so now when he gets home it's lunch and nap time which will make him take a late nap so now my day is shot and they expect us to come over tomorrow for a cook out. I have been working 6 days a week I finally have 2 days off and don't really get to spend quality time with him.

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Chet - posted on 07/07/2014

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I agree about talking honestly with her. Not in a critical way, in a way that appeals to her as a person who could really help you out. You want to be on the same team.

Also, try planning activities yourself that include her. You set the schedule, and she is just invited along.

Lastly, if you work at lot is it possible for her to provide some of the childcare so the time she spends with your son is when you aren't available?

Oh, and try to keep things in perspective too. A loving relationship with adults other than your parents is hugely valuable to children. Missed naps and messed up schedules are annoying, but in the long run they don't matter nearly as much as a strong and loving bond with grandparents who are generally a positive influence.

Charity_knox - posted on 07/07/2014

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Just be open and honest with her and tell her how you feel. Don't feel bad saying no to her. She should be respectful of his and your schedule but sometimes grandmas get to spoil them a little.

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