Mother in law issues

Nyssa - posted on 03/05/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend and I had our son May 2012. We are living with his parents, grandmother, sister, and brother currently due to the fact that I am 20 and still in school and he is 21 working full time. I try to split the babysitting time up equally between my parents and his parents, but it has been getting harder and harder. His mother always does things against my will and convinces my boyfriend that her ways are better. For example, she bought our son pre-made Gerber toddler dinners and I told her that baby was not ready for that type of food. Later I ran out to do errands and when I returned I had found out that she feed him the dinners even though I told her not to.

Also, when she is watching my son she will take my son out and be out after I return home from school. The most irritating part about this is the fact that she does not tell me that she is taking him out or where they are going. I have tried talking to my boyfriend about this and he normally covers for his mother or when he talks to her she gets defensive and he gives up. To keep the peace in the house I need advice. Help!

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Julie - posted on 03/09/2013

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Can you and your boyfriend move in with your mother/family until December when you get your bachelor's?

Otherwise, whilst I understand your frustration, so long as your son is loved and cared for, try to put things into perspective, that this is only for a few months longer and he is well-cared for. Your MIL sounds like she's got a lot on her plate too? Maybe you can all sit down and talk things out?

Nyssa - posted on 03/06/2013

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If I was not in school right now I would be working 40 or more hours a week and my son would be around me even less then he is right now. I am in class 15 hours a week right now which is way less than I would be away if I was working full time. I do not have the luxury or option to be able to be a stay at home mom right now so I am getting my Bachelors Degree so I can provide better for my son later on in his life. I am also showing him that education is important. I am finished in December at which point I will go to work full time so my boyfriend can go back to school. Although I wish I could be a stay at home mom, it is not an option right now.

Vannessa - posted on 03/06/2013

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BEST ADVICE: DONT LET NO ONE ELSE WATCH YOUR BABY CAUSE IT WILL CONFUSE THE CHILD AND THE BABY WILL LISTEN MORE AND MORE TO THE ONES WATCHING HIM OR HER AT THE TIME. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR NEEDS DOWN TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD EVEN THOUGH IT DOESNT ALWAYS WORK FOR YOU. DO SCHOOL AT HOME. ONLINE COURSES.

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