Mother in Law telling me how to discpline

Erica - posted on 10/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My mother in law was over here today and every time she comes over she has something to say bout the way I discpline my children. Today when she was here, my son age 4 was hitting my father in law. I put my son in time out cause he is not allowed to hit. My mother in law and father in law both told me to to just let it be and dont use time out or any discpline for that matter. how is my child going to learn what is right and wrong without discpline? she raised her 3 boys and not i feel like she should let me raise mine. I have a boy 4 and a girl 19mo. if my son is not discplined for stuff then it would not be fair to discpline my daughter for the same thing that my son did yet he got nothing out of it. I have a bad feeling like she is going to try to report me to child protective services for putting my child in time out. I have already had an issue with someone calling and saying that we dont feed our children which turned out to be untrue. when the cps person was here she told me that i could restrain my child for a time out such as locking them in a room or putting him in a carseat as long as he is safe and it is not an excessive amount of time. they said 1min per age of child. well the car seat worked will till he grew out of it. i can no longer buckle him in it because he is too tall and it is too small for him. hence we dont use it in the car any more lol. I told her what the cps people told me about restraining him for time out. How do I explain to her that is how i am going to deal with it and not care what she said? Do I have to have someone from cps tell her that what i am doing is ok as long as there is no harm to my children?

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September - posted on 10/15/2012

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I would just be quite frank with her. Tell her this is the way you choose to raise your child and ask her to please stay out of it. If she can't respect your wishes don't allow her over anymore.

Firebird - posted on 10/15/2012

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I would be telling her to stay the hell out of my house until she can learn some boundaries. It's not her business to tell you not to discipline your child.

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