Mother in-laws

Natasha - posted on 06/07/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My future mother in-law is so irritating. We used to get along but lately I just cant stand her. One of the things she does is complain we never ask her to babysit. So we ask her to and then a couple hours before we have to leave she calls and says she can't watch the boys anymore. Which is the reason we stopped asking her. Another thing she does is come over unannounced and then leave after 2 seconds. It really upsets my 20 month old son. He cries and cries after she does that . Shes even been told if you are coming over to visit it has to be for at least long enough to hold Donavin. Does anyone else have this problem.

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Brittany - posted on 06/08/2009

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Me and my future mother-in-law used to get along. Now I can't stand her. Me an my fiance moved away because we didn't have help down there (we worked full time jobs to live in a hotel cause we couldn't save money to get into an apartment). Every time she talks to him she tries to get him to come home and says we could stay with her and she'd babysit. We said no (she's on really bad drugs) and now she still asks my fiance. She even told him he needed a paternity test done.

Alycia - posted on 06/08/2009

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Well my mother in law recently told us she and her husband and her youngest son are all going to Poland and won't be around for my sons 1st birthday. When I got upset she said don't worry we'll have a party when we come back for him, I told her well it won't be the same he'll already be one and you only turn one once...she replied with Well Alycia you only have every birthday once! She doesn't understand that it is important to us since we have only my husbands parents and my parents near enough to see a tall anyways.



She gets upset that I won't drive 3 hours by myself while my husband is away to go visit her. And whenever she's on Skype with Greg (my husband) she always says we have to come see her soon, and I told greg enough is enough. She doesn;t understand that I have so much stuff to bring for my son because she has nothing for him at her place so from packing up food, bottles, toys, and sleeping stuff, clothes and not to mention two dogs and then Greg and myself...it is just too much to do and much easier to bring herself over here.

She tries to help with stuff but everything just ends up as her getting what she thinks we should have, even after we've told her exactly what we want her to get if she wants to help. She wanted to get us a baby get so I sent her the one we were going to get and she sent us some piece of poop wooden one...I have an active kid and two DOGS wood was a bad choice. I appreciate she wants to help, but don't ask us what we want if you're going to get what you think we should have that's all!

She's a nice person and I do love her...but she drives me crazy!

Natasha - posted on 06/08/2009

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We have a problem with feedings to. With our youngest she wont let me show her how to make a bottle. Which isnt that big of a deal but with our oldest she never feeds him enough. One time she took him for the day and through that whole day he got one small jar of baby food and half a bottle. He was so grumpy when she brought him home that day. Every time she takes him for the day he comes back grumpy. Its to the point where i dont let him go with her for more than a couple hours.

Mel - posted on 06/08/2009

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well not that problem exactly but i do hate my MIL. the few time we leave our daughter with her she would not do feeds, kept wanting us to be back by certain times and if she agreed to baby sit for even an hour she would say providing this doesnt come up or providing i dont have to do that. i would think she would just say yes and be greatful to have the time with her only grand child but no.

Mishell - posted on 06/07/2009

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I do I do!!! LOL Its really hard and I don't really have advice for you but to tell you you are not alone. My boys are now almost 5 and 3 and the only time we see them now is the holidays. I'm the type of person that doesn't like asking anyone to do much and I have told mine that. IDK I feel like if you want to spend time with your grandkids just call up and ask. How hard is that right? LOL Good Luck!

Christy - posted on 06/07/2009

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I have the same problem. My mother-in-law always gets upset because we never ask her to babysit our daughter.But EVERY single time we ask her, she will call like half an hour before we are leaving and say she can't sit. I refuse to ask her anymore. I think its her way of trying to control everything. I don't understand her logic...I am just very thankful that my mother is normal!!!

Natasha - posted on 06/07/2009

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Ive been try to lately. She has good days and bad days. Mostly bad days lately tho.

Danielle - posted on 06/07/2009

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Have you talked to her about it? I honestly never had this issue but i feel for you. Just make sure you stand your ground!

Erica - posted on 06/07/2009

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i am totally in the same boat and know how you feel,we lived out of state for th first 2 years so i would only have to deal with her then, but she does the same thing , even when i ask her nicely she goes crying to my husband i cant take it

Natasha - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Erica:

i actually started having problems with my motherinlaw as soon as my first son was born, she would try and take him from me every chance she got and i was nursing so i didnt want to leave him with her b.c she would try to convince my husband to give him a bottle, and she actually threw away a 4 oz bottle of pumped breats milk 4days after he was born i was soo angry. Bascially since then everything i do is wrong and the worse part is we had to move in with her when i was 7 months pregnant with my second son, then about 3 weeks ago she bascially called my a bad mom b/c i asked her to do something to protect my son from harm so to say the least I am no longer talking to her. And on top of that all my son ants to do when he gets in trouble is go see her b/c she lets him get away with everything and i mean everything. I am sooo sorry you are having these problems, what has your future husband have to say?? good luck erica


He talked to his mom about it but the most thats ever happened was a rude call from his dad because his mom is crying.  With our first son she gave him icecream when he was barely 2 months.  Danail talked to her about it a couple days later and we got a call from his dad saying that she can do what she wants and that she knows how to take care of a baby better then we do.  Its really hard to deal with some days.  I didnt talk to her for awhile around easter because at supper donavin was yelling at the table so in a stern voice i told him to stop.  She then came up to me and said in a rude voice i think you need a break and took his supper out of my hands.  I keep asking Danial to just stand up to them and put his foot down but he won't.  It can be so frustrating.

Erica - posted on 06/07/2009

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i actually started having problems with my motherinlaw as soon as my first son was born, she would try and take him from me every chance she got and i was nursing so i didnt want to leave him with her b.c she would try to convince my husband to give him a bottle, and she actually threw away a 4 oz bottle of pumped breats milk 4days after he was born i was soo angry. Bascially since then everything i do is wrong and the worse part is we had to move in with her when i was 7 months pregnant with my second son, then about 3 weeks ago she bascially called my a bad mom b/c i asked her to do something to protect my son from harm so to say the least I am no longer talking to her. And on top of that all my son ants to do when he gets in trouble is go see her b/c she lets him get away with everything and i mean everything. I am sooo sorry you are having these problems, what has your future husband have to say?? good luck erica

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