Mother of 2 at 22

Lisa - posted on 08/02/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am going to have another baby and I am happy about it. However I have a 17 month old son and am 22. I have got a lot of comments like,"Isn't it hard to raise kids so young" my mom had 4 kids before she was 30. I dont feel that I am too young to have a few kids. any ideas how to handle such comments? I have just been saying, "I cant imagine it would be much diffrent if I were older"

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Ciara - posted on 08/03/2009

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First off congrats! I had 2 kids at 22 as well.. my oldest is 8 yrs and my youngest is almost 21 months. It's not easy but I love my kids to death i wouldnt trade them for the world. Just ignore people, just say yea its hard but i'm doing the best that I can and thats it. Thats what i've said, i've even felt and talked about not being a good enough mom because I was so young when I had my first, but alot of people commend me once they've gotten to know me a little and say I should be proud. Dont worry what other people think or say, its what you do with your kids that matters :)

Claire - posted on 08/03/2009

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just ignore them i had two kids by 23 and my kids are better behaved then most older parents kids i have met it is only as hard as you make just think when you are in your 30's or 40's would you realy want to be running after them then? defo the younger the better but would say past 20 have fun and hope the pregnacy goes well. p.s plus it is lovely haveing the kids so close tgether x

Lyndsey - posted on 08/03/2009

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obviously i dont no u, but congratulations!!! i was 16 wen i had my 1st child n im nw 21 with 2 kids, i had my 2nd wen i was 20. personally i think it doesnt matter how yung u r, as long as uv got the maturaty but most of all the love 2 ur kids. i no ppl older than me who basically cant luk afta their kids. im settled with my partner n love family life altho i still lyk a nyt out now n again, but i wudnt change anything, i really dnt think age matters, so gud luk!! x

Shelly - posted on 08/03/2009

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Yes they do Megan! I am 25 also, I cant beleive how big my girls are. I cant even call them babies anymore.

Megan - posted on 08/03/2009

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I had 2 children by the time I was 22. I am 25 now and yes it is hard raising 2 children regardless of the mothers age. Forget about what other people say. They arn't the ones raising your babies, you are. If you are happy about having 2, then thats all that matters. Besides, they wont always be little. They grow up very fast.

Brittany - posted on 08/03/2009

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I am 21 with 2 children. I wanted to have children young. I tell people that honestly I didn't want to be 60 when my child graduates High School. I wanted to have the energy and desire to take my kids out shopping, theme parks, ect. My mother had me at 27 but had my younger siblings at a very late age. It's really hard on her raising them now. My Dad is 50 and retired from the military and my mom is going to be fifty and the youngest is 6! I didn't want that. The same happened in my husband's family. His mother remarried and had a child with his step-father. She is 16 and they are in their 60's. I am very happy with out choice to be "young' parents. I wouldn't have it any other way. :)

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I am 22 and have a 5 year old and a 3 month old...I always resond with "I think it is difficult at any age to raise kids, I make the best of it and enjoy every minute!" That usually shuts people up! haha I love the advantages of having kids young.

Vanessa - posted on 08/03/2009

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people will always make comments especially those who have nothing beta to do. I am 26 and have three children aged 4, 5 and 6 (soon to be 7). Raising children is hard work no matter what your age. i still get funny looks when i'm out with my three because i look younger than i am but i think its a positive thing. Being a young mum is great i'm able run around with the kids and play all the games they want. As for my career i am going to uni to get my biomedical science degrees i'll study while the kids are in school and once they have gone to bed in the evening. Anyone that says you wont be able to manage only say so because they wouldn't be able to and prob don't like the fact that your smart enough and strong enough to do it x x x

Shelly - posted on 08/03/2009

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for me the comments never went away, i just had to ignore it. but actions speak louder then words right? Show them how you do it. We are all gonna be different parents. I think at 25 with a 7 and almost 9 yr old I am doing a damn good job and im sure you are too! We are prob better then half these 40 yo's running around after a 1 yo lol. I had 2 girls at 18, its not easy to deal with the looks and comments but you have to be the bigger person, show why it is you are a great mom no mater the age. (((hugs)))

Tara - posted on 08/02/2009

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I can understand where you are coming from! A lot of people go off of a stereo type.. a young mother who doesnt have her life together, couldnt finish her school and career the way she might have, and always has to ask for help, or maybe a person that would be financially unstable because they are young. I gave birth to my son Jase six months after I turned 18 yrs old, when Jase was 9 mths old I was pregnant again with my daughter Tessa, and a year ago at age 23 I gave birth to our daughter morgan. I have had every comment in the book said to me, "how are you going to afford this" "didnt you want to go back to college" "you are a baby yourself" ... you just have to ignore them and prove them wrong. No one thought my husband and I would last because I was 16 and he was 19, now we are 24 and 27 and still happily married. No one thought we could afford it, but in these economic times we are not struggling as bad as some 35 year old parents are.

Marcia - posted on 08/02/2009

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First off congratulations! :)



As for people's comments this is just a suggestion, but you could always kind of take the intellectual road and say something like the following...

I think the author Billie Burke says it best..."Age doesn't matter, unless you are cheese."

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"A lot of 90 year olds feel like they are 18 and a lot of 13 year olds act like they are 35...in this era the number of years that one has been on this earth seems to have less significance...what do you believe?"



Hope this helps and hope you have a very happy pregnancy :)!

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