My 10 month old has started acting like a newborn again he wont harldy eat and he just wants me 2 hold him all day help?

Cheryl - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Since sunday just gone he seems to have had a change of personailty its like hes a completly different baby and i just dont understand he wont let me put him down he dont want his toys!!he wont eat much which is so unuasul for him he normally loves his food he wont smile laugh nothing just crys and crys he has always been a bit clingy 2wards me but its got worse he wont play or nothing where he would before and its like he has forgotten how 2 do things and im so worried any ideas?

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Lauren - posted on 06/05/2009

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I'm sorry but I completely disagree with a large part of the post by Rebecca Hayes.

I would really encourage every parent to find out about "Wonder Weeks", which basically are periods of learning in the first 12mths, they can explain so much! There is lots of books available, information on the web, or ofcourse, your chosen health care provider.

This kind of behaviour is not uncommon around about 44weeks (10mths) as up until about this point they have no concept of spatial awareness. They are begining to understand just how big their world is, and that can be really scary! The development of spatial awarness means the understanding of distances, so now when you walk away your baby is realising the increasing distance between you and that he is being left alone. It was described to me as though our babies think we & them are the same person until it dawns on them that they are seperate to us. They are learning alot of very cool things, but it can also mean they become quite frightened when you leave them, so they want to feel safe by being close to you.

My son behaved very similarly at about 11mths, and it was really hard & i felt like i never got a break. Finding out about different learning stages for babies helped me to be a better mother. If I could understand about what massive changes he was going though then I could help his learning and help him to cope with it a bit better. I don't believe in "ignoring" his whinges or cries, as this is the only way he knows how to communicate what he is feeling. I don't believe in "training" children, I think it's our job to help them learn but to always do that in an understanding & compassionate way, I always try to put myself in their shoes. Your beautiful little boy is not trying to "push" you and he is not trying to be clingy to make life hard for you, babies don't know how to be 'bad'.

I hope you can squeeze in some mummy-time for a break, and good vibes for the next few weeks..

x

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

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Having had 2 boys!! I think u will understand I know what sorts of things boys do... They do get a bit clingy and whingy when teething BUT they are also gettin to know how far they can push u.. If u let him be clingy it will take until /after he starts school for him to get any confidence!!



My son was 10 mths when he decided he didn't like any1 except me, which is difficult, their memory is growning now and they know if it works once it will work again!!!

Ignore the whinges, feed him as norm, he wont starve and he will realise that when he is hungry that the food is what he needs, mayb reduce some lumps although the pressure of them chewing the lumps can reduce the pain a little (Hence biting when teething)!! When u walk out of the room and he screams continue on ur way BUT TALK TO HIM ALWAYS to show u haven't runaway.



He now understands that when u leave the room, he is going to be on his own!! And he will play on it... Most of all remember it is better to be cruel to be kind, he will feel more destressed when 2, 3 n 4 yrs if u need to leave him and he is clingy AND being a MUM is not necessarily being a friend altho they do come together U r the 1 in charge KEEP IT THAT WAY !!!!! I don't mean be a bully I mean be in charge, what u want n say GOES!!!!



Good luck n buy sum ear plugs 4 couple of weeks, its not an overnight thing to train children!!!

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Cheryl - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hi everyone my sons seems to be returning to his normal self hopefully i aint speaking to soon lol!!not sure what was wrong think he does it to get my attetion i think cause hes fine when he aint with me but i suppose its cause im his mum and he knows how far to push me so trying not to give into him as much thanks for all the advice has been helpful xxx

Susan - posted on 06/05/2009

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I'd call his pediatrician asap. Has he gotten any vaccines lately. That seems to be something to the kids these days.

Natasha - posted on 06/05/2009

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i was thinking the same thing as tina your saying that he seems limp and doesnt seem to remember how to play and wants to be held all the time. doesnt really sound as though he is teething sounds as though he might be sick. i would suggest calling your doctor to take a look at him.

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Well, my train of thought is different...when my youngest child would not have an appetite and wanted to be held, he was not feeling well. And turns out in a few days he would have a fever and end up with an infection. That is what I was thinking.

Alaw - posted on 06/05/2009

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My 12 month old son is going through a similar phase. He used to love his food, was a good sleeper, and loved time out with his toys, now I cant go three feet from him without him screaming his head off! His back teeth are coming through too so he's also seeking some comfort! You're not alone with this!!xx

Angelique - posted on 06/05/2009

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it is nothing to worry about, they all go through that phase and i know it can drive you to insanity but it will be over shortly, if you fuss about it the baby will feel it and it will last longer. Just try and relax(i know it can be hard) but this too shall pass.

Gemma - posted on 06/05/2009

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he may be getting some of the big teeth at the back. does he have nappy rash or rosy cheeks? that can mean he is getting some nasty painful teeth coming through, aww poor thing, i would take him to your child health nurse.

Tara - posted on 06/05/2009

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hi cheryl, how are you? first of all i'd like to say that it's really hard giving another mum advice but i'm going to try my best. It's just that my daughter did the same sort of thing a few times when she was teething. Not every time though. I spent days holding her and trying to comfort her worried out of my mind, but that's all it turned out to be. She was over it within a week or so each time, but no it wasn't easy deal with.....

Rebekah - posted on 06/05/2009

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my 4 month old is doing that now all i can think is that he's teething because my two year old did that when she was that age. Just enjoy that cuddle time because when they get older they dont want to.

Cheryl - posted on 06/05/2009

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Yer i did think it might have been his teeth but im not sure what ones are coming as he already has 6 teeth 4 top ones and 2 bottom so thought maybe his back ones its just he werent this bad when the others came through so stressed not sure what to do with him but thanks for advice

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My daughter is about to turn one and she has been similar, mostly clingy, eating less solids and crabby. She has 4 teeth coming in across the top, so that is why she has her change of attitude... maybe your son is experiencing the same thing?!

Cheryl - posted on 06/05/2009

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When i say acting like a newborn he is so limp like a newborn and he wants to be held like a newborn

Cheryl - posted on 06/05/2009

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When i say acting like a newborn he is so limp like a newborn and he wants to be held like a newborn

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