my 10 week old son wants to use me as a soother, he won't take one i bought from the store yet at night he wants to have my breast right there just in case!Any suggestions?

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Guggie - posted on 05/30/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

I am co sleeping with him , I agree with you all it is best , however as much as I have read that you can't overfeed a baby , I find that if I let him suck as much as he likes , at around four in the morning , we have a three hour battle with a tummy ache and gas. I am just wondering if you can over feed and if this is causing it?



When my daughter was 8 weeks old I had that issue. It was a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.



 



The foremilk is the watery milk with lots of water-soluble nutrients in it. Babies like this milk because it satisfies thirst.



 



The hindmilk comes after the foremilk and is a thick, tasty and slightly yellowish milk with lots of good fats and calories.



 



Some women might need a little bit of scheduling to settle their supply, and sometimes when you switch between breasts too much it can cause foremilk oversupply. This means the babies drinks a lot of watery milk and gets too full and uncomfortable.



How do you know if your baby is getting too much foremilk? The poopies will be soupy and green. When babies get a lot of hindmilk, their poopies tend to be golden or orange.



Try "block feeding" at night. Offer him the left on Monday, the right on Tuesday, etc etc. Only one side for the entire night. This will help your body to regulate the supply.



 



If, after a week or two you see no results, I would assume a dairy allergy. Your baby might not be able to digest the cow proteins coming through from what you eat. I would try to eliminate cow's milk, cheese and icecream at the very least. Some people see an immediate (same day) improvement when doing this.

Guggie - posted on 05/30/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

I am co sleeping with him , I agree with you all it is best , however as much as I have read that you can't overfeed a baby , I find that if I let him suck as much as he likes , at around four in the morning , we have a three hour battle with a tummy ache and gas. I am just wondering if you can over feed and if this is causing it?



When my daughter was 8 weeks old I had that issue. It was a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.



 



The foremilk is the watery milk with lots of water-soluble nutrients in it. Babies like this milk because it satisfies thirst.



 



The hindmilk comes after the foremilk and is a thick, tasty and slightly yellowish milk with lots of good fats and calories.



 



Some women might need a little bit of scheduling to settle their supply, and sometimes when you switch between breasts too much it can cause foremilk oversupply. This means the babies drinks a lot of watery milk and gets too full and uncomfortable.



How do you know if your baby is getting too much foremilk? The poopies will be soupy and green. When babies get a lot of hindmilk, their poopies tend to be golden or orange.



Try "block feeding" at night. Offer him the left on Monday, the right on Tuesday, etc etc. Only one side for the entire night. This will help your body to regulate the supply.



 



If, after a week or two you see no results, I would assume a dairy allergy. Your baby might not be able to digest the cow proteins coming through from what you eat. I would try to eliminate cow's milk, cheese and icecream at the very least. Some people see an immediate (same day) improvement when doing this.

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Amy - posted on 06/01/2009

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My kids never took pacifiers. Sometimes kids go through growth spurts around that time and want to breastfeed 24/7 for a couple days. Have you ever looked at La Leche League's web site? llli.org they have a FAQ page that I always look at if I have any questions, you can also call a local leader and they are always so helpful. (and non-judjmental)

Megan - posted on 05/31/2009

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My baby had a similar issue... we ended up buying a few different types of pacifiers- silicone, latex, and mam latex pacifiers and seeing what she preferred. just make sure that she is using orthodontic pacifiers because you are breastfeeding. Beyond that make sure he isnt hungry when you give him the pacifier. I know my daughter wanted to suck 24-7 and the binky was the only way i could keep from getting engorged and drowning her (bad for everyone)- As far a being with the baby sleeping, i liked to rest her head up on my arm and cuddle her so she still got that closeness

Pepper - posted on 05/31/2009

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I can understand wanting to use a binkie I was not one to want my son attatched 24/7 I guess I'm terrible that way but I wanted to put that out their so you know there are other mommy's that feel this way if you are feeling it. I know it made me feel guilty at first.

I would try different kinds of binkies and see if he just has a preference. My son had one kind of binkies he hated. He wasn't much of a binkie guy to start with but I would get this near him and he would get mad.

I would also consider the milk allergy for the tummy aches. My son has a protein sensitivity and only got fussy at one point of time a day. I took dairy completely out of my diet and he is much better, whole new baby.

Jessica - posted on 05/30/2009

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I co-slept and breastfeed for the first year with my first, but neither with my second and it was right for each of them. My first would only use me as his soother no matter when or where and it was both convenient and free but also hard to get other thing done sometimes , usually though a baby knows what it needs and may need more milk, one reason my first had stomach pains after nighttime cluster feeding was his latch since he wasn't fully awake so check that and I hope it helps.

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2009

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my daughter is 14months old soon and she still gets the colic. not as bad as when she was little thank god - she was 12hours a day screaming on and off when she was tiny. now its most nights for an hour, but sometimes she is all done by the time we go to sleep

mand x

Hannah - posted on 05/30/2009

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try a different type of soother my little boy only like the larger tommy tippie soothers and a give him a small amount of gripe water for him tummy aches/gas and massage his tummy clockwise ,your baby might be like mine wer wind is a problem he likes to be patted firmly while laying on his tummy x

Meg - posted on 05/30/2009

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have you considered consulting a homeopath about the upset tummy? i spent 3 days in a hospital when my son was 9 days old and having diffuculty with nasal secretions. The doc/nurses di NOTHING for him, they just 'monitored'. When we got home my midwife brought over some homeopathy and the snot just fell out of his nose and he was breating pefectly within minutes! We've never looked back. We visit our homeopath for everything now :) There is a remedy for everything from upset tummies, colds, separation anxiety...you name it and no risk of side effects since its 100% natural. Sometimes it takes a few tries to find out the exact cause of the problem but once you nail it, its gone. Best to find a homeopath who will give you a full consultation.

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2009

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he might be cluster feeding ready for a growth spurt, typically happens at 12 weeks but he may be earlier or just getting supplies ready.



i'm fascinated by bf as i was unable to feed my daughter and had no access to bf counsellors or it seems a midwife who knew what she was doing. im pg with no2 and already my midwife has given me loads of tips that the hospital one did not. mand x

Michelle - posted on 05/30/2009

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I am co sleeping with him , I agree with you all it is best , however as much as I have read that you can't overfeed a baby , I find that if I let him suck as much as he likes , at around four in the morning , we have a three hour battle with a tummy ache and gas. I am just wondering if you can over feed and if this is causing it?

Lateacha - posted on 05/30/2009

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This is perfectly natural. Let him enjoy his mommy soothing time. Also Co-Sleeping is the best. It gives baby comfort, mom extra sleep here & there. =)

Stephanie - posted on 05/30/2009

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According to the lactation consultant I spoke with after my son was born, some babies find suckling at the breast as comforting as any pacifier and thats what they want; my 8wk old does that at times, other times his paci works just fine.



Co-sleeping is fantastic, I had to put the baby in the basinet and wake up to nurse him and cuddle with him until we both fall asleep.

Meg - posted on 05/30/2009

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co-sleep and give him what he needs. You can't spoil a 10 week old. :) read mothering Magazines articel on why co-sleeping is the most natural and beneficial way to go. (march-april issue 2009) and breast is best. Babies ask for what they need because they NEED it.

(this is wht I believe and it took me awhile to find my way to it. Don't be pressured by other moms, including me, or doctors or society. you are a woman biologically equiped to know and feel what is the right thing to do so find some space and get in-tune with what YOU feel is right)

***I hope that sounded encouraging cause it was meant to be so***



Good luck and happy Mothering :)

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