my 15 month old daughter has fits at restaurants

Paola - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )




when do kids start behaving in restaurants? this is so embarrassing to take them out in public and my daughter starts miss behaving and yelling.


Anna - posted on 08/06/2012




I used to get embarrassed about my 3 year old acting out in a restaurant. But seriously noboys kids behave in restaurants. Its not something to feel embarrassed about. I think we put to high of expectations on our kids to sit and be quite. As soon as I stopped worrying about it he was fine. He just needs lots of my undivided attention and things to keep him busy. Don't put such high expectations on them. Hope that helps!

Amy - posted on 08/07/2012




My kids are 2 and 6 and we've been taking them to restaurants since they were babies and we expect them to behave, both have gone through phases where they had to stay with a sitter because they couldn't behave. First of all when we go my husband and I have full intentions of removing our child/children if they misbehave. Even if that means one of us takes one outside while the other finishes eating and then switching places, we do not tolerate bad behavior, it's certainly not fair to the other restaurant goers.

We always do reservations/call ahead-it limits the time waiting for a table, kids don't have much patience to begin with so if you have them waiting 20 minutes to get a table and then another 20 minutes after you sit that's 40 minutes they've already been sitting you don't get much more time than that.

Know what you want before you sit and place your order as soon as the waiter comes over and asks what you want to drink. Again you're saving yourself another 10 minutes.

If you are doing appetizers or soups and solids as the waiter to put in your kids order ASAP so they aren't sitting there watching you eat.

Bring crackers or snacks for your daughter to eat while waiting for the food.

Bring a toy or something to entertain her while you're waiting for your food.

After you order your food take her outside to walk around to limit the amount of time waiting and sitting.

As soon as your food arrives ask for your check so that they you aren't waiting another 10 minutes to pay after.

Try to avoid restaurants during peak/busy times, and make sure your daughter is well rested and not starving.

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Entertain them and if they get too rowdy or have a tantrum take them outside to chill down. Keep firm and they do get it after a while but even when they understand there will be times when they play up.

The big things we find to ensuring our 2 1/2 yo and 14 month old behave are:

~ do NOT take them when they are tired, that is a disaster waiting to happen
~ try not to take them when they are starving hungry
~ we try to take them during quieter times (so 12pm not 1pm etc) because the wait time is shorter so there's less time to have to keep them entertained.

~ ALWAYS have something for them to do, (colouring book and crayons, book to read, sing nursery rhymes (this is a fav of my 14 mo), jigsaw puzzle, play restaurant bingo (they have to spot the waiters, or colours etc), play with cars or animal toys etc)
~ have patience they are still learning if you relax they will.


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Amanda - posted on 08/08/2012




I have a 4 yr old and a nearly 3 yr old. Not that we go out for dinner that often but when we do we choose the resturant carefully. Somewhere casual and kid friendly. Usually somewhere with a play area.

I always make sure they have a toy each to play with and take a colouring pack with me to keep them occupied (I have a pack of mini colouring sheets and pencils)
We eat as a family around 5 pm every night so when we eat out we try to eat at around the same time so their routines aren't too disrupted.
I also make sure we are home in time for their bedtime at 7pm.

Christina - posted on 08/08/2012




Yelling - absolutely no! Take her out of the restaurant. No one needs to be subjected to it. We've left a restaurant TWICE in our daughter's three years. We do not tolerate yelling. A bit of whining for a minute, even a small, quick cry, is fine...but actually tantrum and yelling? You need to leave the restaurant with her until she calms back down.

Tina - posted on 08/07/2012




You're all brave mums I think I've only attempted the restaurant thing once. But you're all certainly right it's not a huge deal. It can feel embarrasing but anyone who's had kids understands. They may still look I know I do when I'm out and about seeing kids misbehave or being loud. I just think to myself. I certainly feel for that parent I know what it's like. Or just laugh it off. The people most likely to complain will be people who've never had kids or are too old to remember what their kids were like lol. It's just a matter of finding something that works for you and yeah loading up on the napkins and tissues and wipes. I never leave home without them. Take snacks if you must to keep them occupied. What ever you can think of at the time. Unfortunately kids just get bored and restless to quickly.

Julie - posted on 08/07/2012




How often do you sit down to the dinner table and eat?
Are you modeling good manners to her and for her...?
Teach her manners at home and out in public it will be a cinch! These things are taught - the don't come automatically.
Play quiet games while waiting to be served..."How many people here rwaering glasses...?" have blue shirts on... and games like that, that are quietly played. It will bring the two of you closer and kill time a fun way!
Kids and restaurants are not a good match. Why not fix a simple easy meal at home ...? Kids at that age simply find it hard to sit still ESPECIALLY when they are hungry or tired...

Amie - posted on 08/07/2012




i found i had the problem not my 5 and 3 year old. They always so chatting, clumsy and frustrating! I would get so tightly wound that i would create the perfect setting for a tantrums. So now we walk in relax, if they spill their drink (they always do) so what! I just prepare myself for it now. Eg. Loading up on napkins when we walk in! If they talk to loud..... So what! Etc. When they were babies i would have to walk them around the restaurant and not expect them to sit put for two hours. Be prepared, bring toys; bring snacks; do dinner earlier when the restaurant is quiet and dont expect a baby or small child to act any better then at home. They are just curious and don't get any enjoyment in sitting quiet and still just for food! They'll react when you do so choose your next moves wisely. Good luck

Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2012




When you start going to restaurants with playgrounds or bringing toys LOL

Danielle - posted on 08/06/2012




try ordering heer food as soon as you walk in, sitting unoccupied and waiting is a diasterr waiting to happen and dont forget paper and crayons or whatever toy they like.
if they still act up, take them out to the car to calm them down and try again

Tina - posted on 08/06/2012




I'm sorry but I don't even go to restaurants for that reason. Even 4 5 or older they tend to miss behave like that it all really depends on the child too. Some are really quiet some are really out going and loud there's not much you can do but keep enforcing ground rule as she gets older reward her good behaviour punish the bad. Otherwise the only other thing you can do is try to keep her as occupied as possible while you're out but I know that's easier said then done. Otherwise maybe you could get someone to watch her when you go out someone trustworthy.

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