My 3 year old won't sleep in her room..I don't know what else to do??

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Recently my daughter just doesn't want to sleep in her room when it comes to bed time she throws her blankets and pillows in the closet. She has a night light and ive moved her bed all over the room I ask her if I move it here will you sleep in it and she does it for one night.The past month she ends up on my bed or on her couch in my room. I don't know why or what to do?

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Amber - posted on 01/22/2010

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This is very normal at this age. Do you think your child could be having nightmares or even night terrors? My 3 year old recently went through this as well. For two weeks he would through a huge fit and throw his toys all over the room. At first I thought it was because he was afraid to go to sleep because of bad dreams or possibly afraid of something in his room. I'll admit at first I did lay down with him because I couldn't resist my baby asking me to "lay down wis him."On top of not wanting to go to sleep at night, he was also waking up every night between 2:50-3:30 AM. Again, at first I went in and laid with him, because when I didn't he would begin throwing his toys to the point he even broke several of them. It got to the point I just did whatever I could to get some sleep. As you can imagine this got very old very quick. Last Thursday night, I finally just sat him down and had a talk with him. I explained to him that he had to go to sleep in his big boy bed and that mommy needed to sleep in her bed with daddy because mommy was very tired. I was very loving but very firm. I continued to reassure him that I loved him very much and that I would see him first thing in the morning. He accepted this talk with several sniffles and "oks". I also put a Bible between his mattress, just to give myself some peace of mind, thinking that if he was having bad dreams maybe in some way that would help. He also has a night light and a lamp in his room, but he requested the over head light to stay on. I personally don't like doing this because I'm afraid too much light will keep him awake, however at that point I didn't feel like I had anything to lose! Anyway, that was the first night in over 2 weeks he didn't fight going to sleep and he stayed asleep all night. There have been a few nights since then that we've had to have the talk again. I think at this age it's all about security and knowing that mommy and/or daddy are right there in the same house just a few feet away. He has woke up a few times in the middle of night, but is no longer screaming and throwing toys either. I hear him fuss a little and talk to himself, but within a short time he's back to sleep.
Hope it gets better soon and you get some much needed rest!

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LeeAnn - posted on 03/11/2013

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I don't know what else to do. My 3 year old fights me tooth and nail to sleep in her own room and when I come home from work between 1:30 and 2 am she is in my bed. I try to put her back in. Her room but she screams. I've tried staying with her until she falls asleep I've tried being firm I've tried warm milk and it's gotten to the point now where she screams to the point she makes herself sick or pees in her bed just cuz she knows she can get up because I have to change her sheets as get her cleaned up.... Any ideas???

Brandy - posted on 01/27/2010

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have yall tried to reward them when they sleep in their own bed? my son is 4 and i know all kids are different but when my son tried to sleep in bed with me i just told him that he is a big boy and big boys sleep in their own bed. it worked for me but my son is almost obsessed with being "big" thats how i got him potty trained and everything.

Bridget - posted on 01/27/2010

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We just moved last jan so we have been in our house for a year. My daughter is now 3. She slept in her own bed (it was still a baby bed) until we moved & my husband turned her bed into a toddler bed. Ever since then she has slept w us. She starts out in our bed & then I put her in her bed. Sometimes she wakes up & comes back to our bed sometimes she is in her bed all night. I dont kno what to do either & dont kno why she wont sleep in her bed.

Barbie - posted on 01/22/2010

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my 3 1/2 year old has trouble sleeping in his own room also. sometimes it works if we lay in bed with him and read or make up stories for about 15 minutes until he falls asleep. most of the time we just let him lay in bed with us and move him to his room when he falls asleep. our daughter still sleeps in our room in her crib, were hoping when we get a big girl bed for her ( she's 14months now) and move her into his room with him, he'll be more excited to sleep in his own bed, he won't feel like he is missing out on anything while he is alone in his room. i know that it's hard when you want your own space back, but come on, there is nothing wrong with giving in alittle to your kids when all they want is to be close to you. i don't let my kids run the house, like some people may be thinking right now. i see nothing wrong with letting my son have this one little thing, he had to do alot of growing up when his sister came along. yes our kids are toddlers, but they're still our babies. they will grow out of it.

Nathaly - posted on 01/21/2010

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Well I get sort of lucky with my daughter cause she doesnt know how to climb out of her crib....YET...I get the annoying whinning though...and shes a persistant little one!

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2010

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Carol lately mine has been doing that she falls asleep somewhere other than in her bed so then i move her in her bed and she is there til like 2 or 3 am then she sneaks in with us. I think its a phase im hoping it passes I mean i even tried letting her sleep in her brothers room. Im not sure whats next...

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2010

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Nathaly wow kinda sounds like mine sometimes she will fall asleep on her couch in my room or the living room then I move her and ive tried putting her in her room on and on again with out saying anything it was hard but it didnt seem to work it may with yours so good luck. Its hard but it may work.

Carol - posted on 01/21/2010

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My four year old and I have reached a compromise. She goes to sleep in her bed but if she wakes in the night (she usually wakes up about 2am) she sneaks in and sleeps with me and her dad. She crawls up the middle and cuddles in usually without even waking us up. That way we all get our sleep but her dad and I get some adult time when she is in her bed.

Nathaly - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am experiancing sort of the same problem...My thing is only with my 2 year old daughter...i also have a 3 year old son and a 1 year old little girl...the middle child is the most spoiled!!! I put her to bed in her brothers room (cause he has a full size bed not a crib) and i lay in the middle between the both of them...they both fall asleep and i move her into her own crib...she is fine till about 2-3 am. Then she wakes up crys for us to get her out and wont stop until you do! Its super annoying especially since I have to wake up a few hours later to go to work! We have given in to her little game...but the buck stops here...tonight i will make sure she stays in her bed. This may be a tough one mommys wish me luck and most of all patience!!!

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2010

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Actually No I didn't after doing it for a long awhile and IT NOT working why keep doing it when there may be other ways or things to try! No it's not true I would know if we gave in to HER. So NO I have not given in to her but after doing things that way and for so long why keep doing it why not try something diffrent or ask around.

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2010

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Hey it could be never know you never never know it could be ANYTHING!. And after you try the whole room thing like you said and it doesnt work then what cause ive tried that and still on the same thing. That's why im asking for responses or stores on here.

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2010

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No no you dont but I have asked her and she says no. My grandmother and aunt have seen things as well so I know what you mean.

Elisabeth - posted on 01/20/2010

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I do not mean to scare u or making u think I'm crazy,but what if she sees something you do not?? That is scary,I know that because I have seen things not from this world but in the Spiritworld,U may think I'm crazy but it's a true story,

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2010

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Ya I move her couch in our room ive even tried sleeping in her bed with her and nope. So really I wait til she falls in a deep sleep and end up moving her to her bed but by that time its 10 or 11pm at night. Mine throws a hudge fit to saying "i dont want to sleep in my room" I wish i knew why i ask her and she just says "i dont like my room". Maybe try a little couch? My daughter sleep in her princess couch in my room and sometimes sometimes if we put it in her room she then will sleep in it but thats rare.

Amberle - posted on 01/20/2010

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My 2 year old daughter refuses to sleep in her room too...right now, when its bed time, she throws a huge fit and insists on sleeping on the couch...but i do make her sleep in bed with me at least...she would rather sleep in bed with me than in her room...i dont know what to do about it either...she wont even sleep in her own bed, we moved her bed in our room, thinking that might help, but it didnt...i just hope she will grow out of it someday...

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