My 3 yr old wont sleep in his bed. What can I do?

Jerri - posted on 09/16/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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He wont sleep in his bed he wants to sleep w/ me. He cries and breaks my heart. I dont know where to begin or if its okay to make him cry like that.

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Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

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He's testing you to see how much he can get away with. this is where consistency really comes into play. Let's say his bed time is 8, around 7:45 start preparing him for bed. Pick out a book to read, have teeth brushed, etc. This will begin a routine, kids need that. Read him a book, tuck him in, give kisses and tell him to stay in bed. If he gets back up then you take him back to his bed and tuck him in, kisses again and leave the room. This may take several hours depending on how strong willed your child is. The point is if you are consistent about it in about a few days week at the most he will know you mean what you say. He will test you...he needs to potty, or he's thirsty, scared, wants you. Let him potty, but all the others put aside. I know your probably thinking if this may take hours when will I sleep and you will want to give in ~ DON'T. In the long run it will pay off, trust me. I hope I have helped.

Lena - posted on 09/16/2009

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i just finally got my 3 year old little girl to stay and sleep in her bed she would fall asleep on the couch and i would move her to her bed before i went to bed myself but at about 2-3am she would find her way into our room and climb up on our bed between us. So finally I got tierd of it and plus i didn't sleep good with her in bed with us so i finally told her that for every night that she stays in her bed i will give her a sticker for her wall.....so far it is going pretty well we are going on a week of her staying in her bed. Plus she now falls asleep in her room instead of on the couch. hope this helps and good luck.

Kesha - posted on 09/16/2009

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my 3 year old is doing the same thing, we have tried everything to get him to sleep in his room - we moved his smaller brother in there with him, we put them a tv in there so they could watch a movie and fall asleep, he has the light from his turtles tank, we have sat in there with him, we have even slept in the room with him, but nothing is working and if he does actually go to sleep in his bed, somewhere between 2-4am hes crawling in bed with us, or if hes not in bed with us he sleeps in the livingroom... so i deff understand what your going through so i could use advice myself...

Stormy - posted on 09/16/2009

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yeah don't give up, it will happen. My daughter is still in her baby bed at 14 months but she short for her age so..... we give her a stuffed animal, she has a binnkie (blanket), and she sucks on her two middle fingers. but she only really uses her fingers to sooth her self. Good luck!:)

Teresa - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have a six year old that does the same thing.. He does it because he has been in and out of the hospital with health issues and he is very anxious on being alone. Some nights he will sleep on his own other nights I have to lay with him in my bed and then put him in his..

They are right don't give in.. I found that having a blanket in your bed for a few nights and then putting it in their bed works. every kid is different. Good luck

Jessica - posted on 09/16/2009

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I just got my 1 yr old a toddler bed cause he crawled out of his crib. I was worried at first that he wouldnt stay in it. I laid him down, sat next to him and read him books or sang till he was almost asleep and crept out of the room be4 he noticed i was gone. Id have to check in on him and tell him to go back into his bed or pick him up from the floor and put him back in his bed. In less than a week he got the idea that was where he slept. Whatever u do, dont give in with lettin them sleep with you, gotta be firm and stand your ground and they will catch on. I also put a safety thing on the inside of his door.

Betty - posted on 09/16/2009

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Well I wont hurt him to cry. There are many different ways to get him to sleep by himself. You can try sitting in his room until he goes to sleep but that is a waste of your time if you are like me and really don't have that kind of time. You can start with a early bedtime. Go in and turn on his night light, put him in bed, give him a kiss and read him a story. If he is like my children he will still want to play. I just have to send my kids to bed and tell them not to get back up I know it sounds mean. I go in and turn on their night light, tell them a story, help them with their bed time prayers, kiss them, tell them I love them then go in the next room. That is the only way I can get them to go to sleep. Just keep reasuring them I am in the next room. They eventually go to sleep. Hope it helps you.

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