My 4 yr has a major issue with going #2...anyone else go thur this?

Sarah - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 4 yr old daughter has a major fear of going # 2! She is completely potty trained and has been for over yr now....but all of a sudden just about a yr ago she developed this fear of going #2...I dont know if just once it hurt and ever since then she's been terrified? She would hold it for days at a time and just constantly complain of a bellyache. I took her to the Dr and she prescribed a laxative I have to give to her every couple of days, but I dont want to have to keep doing that....She said many children go thru this and it's something you just have to "ride out" until she gets over it, but we've been going thru it for almost a year...My daughter will scream bloody murder and you almost have to hold her onto the toilet and once she goes and realizes it didnt hurt she's fine...Any suggestions on how I might break this fear of going to the bathroom?

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Devon - posted on 07/02/2009

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my daughter has the same problem. i actually had to take her to be seen by a gastroenterologist (if i spelled that right). the doctor there told me it is very common exspecially in girls. she told me that it will take a few years till she starts going normally. i have to give her marilax everyday and then another strong laxative for kids if she needs it. just be patient and it will take alot of work but in time she will start going. if you have to i would talk to your doctor and get her seen by a gastroenterologist. good luck

Sarah - posted on 07/02/2009

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Thank you so much to those of you who responded...I feel better knowing my child isn't the only one with this problem!

Alicia - posted on 07/01/2009

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if its not a medical problem then try bribery! i know its not the best option but it worked for my son, a couple of sweets when he did a poo but he soon thought strawberries were a treat so i could bribe him with fruit! good luck!

User - posted on 07/01/2009

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I had this problem with my daughter who will be 3 in a few months. She has been dealing with constipation issues all her life and just a few months ago would not go to the bathroom for #2 for a few days and would complain of a tummy ache as well. I finally took her to the doctor when she tried to go in her potty and 2 hours later we were still there; she was crying so much but wouldn't get up cause the big ball was there!?! It just couldn't come out cause it was so big. I gave her star anise tea which helps their belly and nothing. I put on a diaper and after more than an hour she finally passed this ginormous ball. The doctor prescribed Miralax but I haven't used it yet cause she also told me to give her yogurt and lots of veggies and fruit. She already ate these but I started to give her more and she has been regular for 3 months already. No more worries but will use the Miralax if I have to. I will not let her suffer like that anymore :-(

Heidi - posted on 07/01/2009

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My 5 year old has this problem. He had constipation when he was little and he's had to get over his fears. My doctor recommended changing his diet so he's getting plenty of fiber, (I have to give him fiberchoice daily to make sure) and plenty of water and other fliuds. Then I got a stool softener so that is he doesn't go for more than a couple days than I give that to him help him go. He also said Milk of Magnessia (I don't know how to spell it :) was a really good laxitave.

He said that making him sit on the toilet for about 15-20 minutes a couple times a day, (usually when he first wakes up or after he eats is when they're most likely to go) it will help them to learn to go in the toilet again.

Eentually he'll grow out of it, but my job is making sure that it's as easy for him to go as possible. It's working really good and me giving him the stool softener is getting less and less as it goes and he becomes more and more comfortable with it

Cristine - posted on 07/01/2009

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My daughter went thru this same exact thing when she was about 3 1/2. She was terrified of going #2 and would hold it for days. I took her to the Dr. who did x rays and we found out that she was completely full of poop. We tried several things before finally she prescribed her a laxative called Miralax (this is now available over the counter) which my daughter has to take at least 3 times a week. I know how you feel about having to give her a medicine weekly when shes so little, I went thru that too, but let me tell you that this Miralax has worked miracles for her. She goes to the bathroom regularly with NO PROBLEM!!! She has been on this Miralax for a little over a year now & its the best. What you can try to do is little by little start weening your daughter off, if you see that she's still going regularly without it, then it's fine. But if you see that she is regressing when you try the weening, then you know that she still NEEDS it (which is my daughter's case). Some people just have a problem with constipation and will have to take medicines on a regular basis in order to keep their bowels moving correctly. Hope this makes you feel better knowing that your daughter isn't the only one ;]

Rachel - posted on 07/01/2009

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My son had a problem too. But he was 4 months old so it wasn't a fear it was a medical condition. When you took her to the doctor was it a specialized? It my not just be a fear. After they put him on medicine he never and a problem. I then could ween him off the meds so he wouldn't be dependent of them. He is 3 1/2 now and completely potty trained. So try a specialized if nothing else they will tell you the same as your dr.

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