My 5 and 1/2 month old will not sleep through the night..help!!!

Devin - posted on 01/10/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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So since he has been born Ashton has slept through the night once! Ever since we brought him home we have had a well established bedtime routine...but nothing works! Now he wakes up every couple of hours and doesn't even want to eat, he just wants to be awake!

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Guess what...it's normal! Sorry to say, but all that crap you read about, "baby should be doing this by this age, sleeping through the night by that age, etc" it's nonsense. Every baby is different. Some babies sleep through the night early on, others don't sleep through the night for a long time. My son is a year and he still doesn't sleep through the night. He's happy, healthy, we have a great bedtime routine, but I refuse to do CIO. I know what the problme is with my son. He doesn't know how to self soothe and put himself back to sleep. Everybody (babies, children, adults) wake periodically throughout the night. But adults know how to put themselves back to sleep. Babies don't know how to do that. I personally don't believe that it's a skill that absolutely needs to be taught. It comes with time. But most parents aren't willing to wait. If you really want your baby to stay asleep then you'll probably have to do some sort of sleep training. Do some research and find out what suits you best.

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Bilhah - posted on 10/29/2015

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Ashton is suffering from tummy bug, I'll suggest babies magic tea to soothe him. I'm sure he'll sleep well and you'll never be bothered again.

Devin - posted on 01/11/2010

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thanks again! everything is so helpful! so i will def try the schedule thing..but as of now everyday we have been checking his gums bc he has a lot of the symptoms of teething..and there was nothing, so then yesterday there was a tip of a tooth out! his gums werent red or white or anything! and like i said there was nothing the day before yesterday! so im sure that doesn't help with his lack of sleep but even bfore then he wasn't sleeping! and yes he has veggies at night, then a bath, then a bedtime bottle!

Damaris - posted on 01/10/2010

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My son is now 9mths old and wakes up once or twice EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!!! Some babies take longer then others to sleep through the entire night unfortunately. And just like your son I was only lucky enough for him to sleep the enitre night ONCE single he's came home from the hospital. 2 nights total he's slept the entire night, the 1st time was the night he was born since he was born at 11:38pm.

Rose - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting Jessica:



 



My daughter falls asleep usually around 7 or 8 & she sleeps til at least 6 am.  Sometimes she catnaps during the day too



Quoting Devin:

thanks guys! well we are trying to get him on a daily schedule as well as a bedtime one..but the problem is that he will only take little catnaps during the day. seriously this kid will stay up for 6 hours at a time and not think twice about it! so i was doing his bedtime routine kinda late for a baby, just bc if i were to put him in bed around 7 pm he would be ready to wake up at like 1 am! i just don't understand why he never wants to sleep, could it be teething?






cat napping is very common in babies who can not fall back to sleep on their own, i would definatly get this book is had a section on cat napping too, it will save you trust me!!!!






i thought 7pm was way to early too and my son was going to bed anywhere between 8pm-10pm but as soon as i got him on this day time routine it was like instant he was tired at 7pm i couldnt believe it!!!






 





 

Danielle - posted on 01/10/2010

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Sorry just a question for Bethanie...y would he not sleep because you were breastfeeding? i do not know what that has to do with sleeping?..please dont take offence, just that i have had a few mothers say that because they breastfed their child didnt do this or that or sleep for very long and i dont understand how that could be?
...Sadly i am the only mother i know in my area who did breastfeed. i did it until my daughter was one and as u can tell she is a fantastic sleeper. But i have seen quite a few people write that their child didnt sleep due to breastfeeding and i would like to understand why that is?

Rose - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting Jessica:



 



My daughter falls asleep usually around 7 or 8 & she sleeps til at least 6 am.  Sometimes she catnaps during the day too



Quoting Devin:

thanks guys! well we are trying to get him on a daily schedule as well as a bedtime one..but the problem is that he will only take little catnaps during the day. seriously this kid will stay up for 6 hours at a time and not think twice about it! so i was doing his bedtime routine kinda late for a baby, just bc if i were to put him in bed around 7 pm he would be ready to wake up at like 1 am! i just don't understand why he never wants to sleep, could it be teething?






cat napping is very common in babies who can not fall back to sleep on their own, i would definatly get this book is had a section on cat napping too, it will save you trust me!!!!






i thought 7pm was way to early too and my son was going to bed anywhere between 8pm-10pm but as soon as i got him on this day time routine it was like instant he was tired at 7pm i couldnt believe it!!!






 





 

Rose - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had the same problem with my daughter. I realized if I give her a bath every night she will go to sleep early & sleep for a long time. I give her a bath then feed her. But dont overfeed cause that will cause a bellyache. Sometimes I lay her down, put a pacifier in her mouth & walk away. Sometimes she will gripe for about 10 mins but once I walk back in she will be sound asleep. You can give that a try. If that dont work go to askdrsears.com. That site has alot of tips on how to get your child to go to sleep.

Bethanie - posted on 01/10/2010

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My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 5 months old (probably because I was breastfeeding). Have you started him on 1st foods yet? He's probably ready for more sustenance other then milk. I started my son at 4 1/2 months.

Danielle - posted on 01/10/2010

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oh u poor thing! and of course your son,lol....
My daughter has slept at least 6 hrs a night since she was about 3 days old. She is now 18months old and sleeps 12hrs+ a night.
I contribute this to the fact i NEVER let ANYONE hold my daughter when she was asleep as a newborn and after about 2-3 weeks of age i wouldnt let her fall asleep in anyones arms! i always made sure her eyes were open when i put her down to sleep. So she would associate her bed with sleeping).. i also NEVER let her sleep with me ( mainly out of fear of sids).

I think putting them in a routine will work wonders and also letting them self-soothe. and not going in there every time he cries. Although he is only 5 months old so u dont want him cryingfor 2 long. Also make the house quieter of a night, turn out all the lights.
Kids dont want to go to sleep and miss out on all the fun they think we are having,lol...also dont play with him b4 bed..eg chasing him around the house and getting him excited. Just have quiet time, turning down the lights during a half hr quiet time should help. and change your voice at night so its quiet. If nothing works then maybe try a music box or something?

When he wakes up during the night, see if he will just go back down by himself. if he wont then do the whole- walk in the room. lay him down and walk out. This will take FOREVER and you may have a few sleeplessnights but if you stick to it it WILL work! the key for a good sleeper is consistency! you have to do it EVERYTIME! as soon as you give in then your son has won,lol...just make sure you DO NOT make eye contact!, sometimes some mothers whisper to their child that its night time and time for sleep..

A few times my daughter tried the whole waking up throughout the night when she was a bit restless...it took me 52 times of going in there and laying her back down! but she FINALLY went to sleep! although it took about 3 hrs....and like i said she is a fantastic sleeper...and i know all kids are different but i have done this routine on 7 different kids who woke up throught the night and it worked for each one!
i used to babysit a LOT of babies under 1.

Anyway goodluck and i hope you work something out soon!

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting Devin:

thanks guys! well we are trying to get him on a daily schedule as well as a bedtime one..but the problem is that he will only take little catnaps during the day. seriously this kid will stay up for 6 hours at a time and not think twice about it! so i was doing his bedtime routine kinda late for a baby, just bc if i were to put him in bed around 7 pm he would be ready to wake up at like 1 am! i just don't understand why he never wants to sleep, could it be teething?



cat napping is very common in babies who can not fall back to sleep on their own, i would definatly get this book is had a section on cat napping too, it will save you trust me!!!!



i thought 7pm was way to early too and my son was going to bed anywhere between 8pm-10pm but as soon as i got him on this day time routine it was like instant he was tired at 7pm i couldnt believe it!!!



 

Devin - posted on 01/10/2010

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thanks guys! well we are trying to get him on a daily schedule as well as a bedtime one..but the problem is that he will only take little catnaps during the day. seriously this kid will stay up for 6 hours at a time and not think twice about it! so i was doing his bedtime routine kinda late for a baby, just bc if i were to put him in bed around 7 pm he would be ready to wake up at like 1 am! i just don't understand why he never wants to sleep, could it be teething?

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010

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does he know how to settle himself to sleep? or do you need to put him to sleep before you put him to bed? I think the key for me to get my son to sleep through was teaching him to self settle, cos babies sleep in cycles of 40 and 80 minutes at a time which mean after each cycle they will usualy wake up and if they are unable to put themselves back to sleep they will cry out and want help to go back to sleep.



The second thing is having him in bed at 7pm every night, including a bedtime routine.



The third is having him on a feeding and sleeping routine through the day. at 5 1/2 months babies need 4 hours of sleep through the day which is 2 x 2 hour sleeps usually and sometimes a nap in the arvo of about 30 minutes. If your bub sleeps well through the day, they will generally sleep better at night also.



I started a daytime and bedtime routine when my son was 2 1/2 months and since he was 3 months he has been sleeping through from 7pm till 7am, he's now 5 1/2 months old too.



Hope this helps, there is a great book called 'Save our sleep' this book saved me!!!



good luck =))

Chelsea - posted on 01/10/2010

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I wish I could help!! I have a 2 year old and she does not even sleep through the night! And now its worse cause I also have a 2 month old and when she wakes up my oldest one thinks I need her help! So all the luck to you and if you figure it out..then PLEASE help me!!

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