My 5 year old is having nightmares

Mae - posted on 06/19/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




my 5 year old little girl is having really bad nightmares where she wakes up screaming and when I go in to see what's wrong she is sitting in her bed stareing staright ahead of her and crying. I ask her what is wrong and if she had a bad dream. she tells me yes and then she wraps her arms around me and crys. I tell her that it is ok, they are only dreams and they can't hurt you, and mommy is here to keep you safe. i was in a abusive relationship with my ex husband and that was when me and my family noticed her nightmares.and it stills is going on after a year and 3months of me leaving him. I already took her to the doctors about this and the only thing they told me is that where she was in the emotionally abusive environment before and now that it is now safe she is going to go through relapes if she hears anybody talking loud, yelling or if there is any loud noises. And that we should keep the house as quiet as we can and to tell all of our family members that no yelling or loud talking is to be around her. We have done this and her nightmares have calmed down, but when she does have one it is still really bad. did any of you experienced this? if so, can you PLEASE give me some adivce of how to cope because i am worried sick! and I want my baby girl to have happy dreams again!


Toriel - posted on 06/20/2009




i know how you feel,ive been there myself i got out when my daughter was 3. she use to have nightmares as well. all i did was i use to burn a insence stick in her room i used the one called Fairy Dreams -(jasmine & honey) its surposed to give good dreams.

then i would sit with her in her bed and get her to close her eyes and get her to imagine a fairy tale land that was just for me and her. and we would talk about what was there and what we would do together. then i would tell her to keep dreaming about our fairy land so she could tell me in the morning.

and i just keept doing that every night untill she looked forward to going to bed and we have had no more nightmares since.

i hope that it works for you as it did for me.


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Laurie - posted on 06/20/2009




My son had the same prob when he was about 4, he would wake up screaming that there were flies on his walls, but nothing there. I would take him in my bed, but his eyes would stay wide and head would move like he saw flies.. I was horrified but I told him they were happy flies, flying to protect him, and he would fall back to sleep. This only happened about 4 times, but i think he was sleep-talking?? but he is ok now, and still has never mentioned it to this day, the worst thing you can do is look scared or upset, it will just make it worse. Make it positive like Toriel, that was a great idea!! wow. :)

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