My baby boy is now 3 months old and will only sleep when swaddled. When and how do you stop?

Ellen - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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He has been swaddled since leaving the hospital. He isn't swaddled all day, only when he wants to go down for a nap of night time. He has fallen asleep in arms all the time, but once he wakes up or opens his eyes in his bed and realizes his arms are free, he wakes up. I don't mind it now but am not sure how long this should have to happen. How do you break the addiction?

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Carly - posted on 07/13/2009

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I swaddled my son for sleep until he was at least 6 months old. It really helped him get to sleep and stay asleep longer. It got to the stage where we just couldn't keep his arms in anymore. By that age, he had better control of his arms and wasn't hitting himself in the face and waking himself up like he had been. He had also discovered that his thumb was good for sucking and wanted it out all the time.



We wrapped him with one arm out for a while, then with both arms out, just wrapped around under his arms, then switched to a sleeping bag.



Some babies just need that extra security for a while. If it helps him sleep (and you sleep!) then just keep with it. He will grow out of that need in his own time.

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Kate - posted on 07/15/2009

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My son was the same way and we worried too but one day he kicked himself free and that was the end of that! He was swaddled I think until almost 5 1/2 - 6 months old.

Natasha - posted on 07/15/2009

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I don't think swaddling is a bad thing, my son didn't like it and was out of the blanket from day one. You can get these pajamas called sleeping bags, and basically they are a bag with a zip, arms and legs all in there.

Laura - posted on 07/14/2009

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I swaddled my son until he was 8 months. At 6 months he started pulling his arms out. I would swaddled him from his waist down. Eventually he was able to get himself totally out. That's when I knew he was okay without it. Your baby will tell you.

Deidre - posted on 07/14/2009

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I swaddled my daughter (or some variation of it) until she was about 8-9mo old. Like someone else mentioned, I would swaddle with both arms out... just the blanket snug around her torso, she liked the comfort of it. Now my daughter at 14mo old still has a small variation of the swaddle. I kind of wrap her blanket around her (with arms free and now feet HAVE to be free, she kicks it off) for her to go to sleep. When she wakes up she is usually away from her blanket so it hasn't inhibited her at all that way. So, I wouldn't worry about the swaddling. Just get looser as your baby gets older and things will be fine :) Or, you can stop altogether and just deal with a few nights of major fussing before bed. I did this with the paci, but not the swaddling.

Sam - posted on 07/14/2009

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My son is 9 months old, and has slept throught the night unaided since he was 3 months old the only reason he wasnt doing it before is because he was premature and had strict feeding regulations. Children love all comforts but they very rarely give them up by themselves, you have to do it for them. Let the little one cry - i know its hard. But it will do him no harm and will teach him a valuable lesson, it also means that you get an easier life for the next 3 years - because belive me fighting with a 3 year old to give up his blanket is not fun!



hope this helps x Sam x

Debbie-shea - posted on 07/13/2009

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My daughter is 5 months old and I still swaddle her. I purchased a "swaddle me" blanket and on warm nights I will wrap her in it with her arms out. She sleeps fine either way. Your son will grow out of needing to be wrapped up to sleep in his own time.

Susan - posted on 07/13/2009

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My son loved to be swaddled as well. I purchased the womb sounds bear which came with a very small silk blanket "a lovey". (Prince Lionheart brand-I believe). It was wonderful! I am sure it does not work for everyone, but I was desperate and willing to try anything to make my son feel more secure in bed by himself. To this day he still loves to sleep with a silky sided blanket against his cheek. The idea behind the silk is that you wear it around for a day so that it has your scent on it and in turn makes the baby more at ease. I also used to put the bear right at his back for him to lean against. Hoping it works for baby #2 on the way!!

Meagan - posted on 07/13/2009

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I swaddled my daughter until she would get herself out of it, so I wouldnt worry to much about it some babies have different comforts my daughters is her bottle, so wish me luck on getting her off that when its time! ;-)

Meagan - posted on 07/13/2009

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My son as the same way, he wouldn't go to sleep unless i tied his arms down. He's 9 months now. And I had to swaddle him til about 6 months. Just had to use bigger blankets :) But then all of a sudden I'd go in his room to check on him and his arms would be free and he was still asleep. Then one day I just let him cry for a few minutes in his crib and he ended up falling asleep with no swaddling at all. It doesn't last forever, believe me I worried about that too! But they will grow out of it, and eventually they won't need it. Hope it helps! Be strong! :)

Laura - posted on 07/13/2009

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I was the same and was dreading the day I stopped, but I have just done it (he is 5 months old), and all is going OK. I don't think there is a time-frame, just once they can roll you must stop wrapping them.

Toshia - posted on 07/13/2009

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My son was the same way, he couldn't sleep unless swaddled. I kept him that way until he grew out of it. I used the "swaddle me" swaddlers because I could never do it with just a blanket. I think he was like that until around 4 or 5 months. Once he could roll over he was fine. He's a tummy sleeper. Now he's 19 months old. Hope this helps you. I will do the same with my new baby when it comes.

Kristie - posted on 07/13/2009

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Hi Ellen..

I have this same problem except my daughter is 9 months old..

She will not go to sleep without being wrapped and now because she is so big I am wrapping her in a blanket or cot sheet! We have tried to get her out of the wrap but she stands up and rolls around in the cot. It seems to be the only way to relax her and make her go to sleep! I have been trying to wrap her really loosely but she just gets out of it and we have to start all over again. It is a really frustrating time......

Carly - posted on 07/13/2009

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Don't worry my son was the same when he starts to kick himself free it will no longer be a problem. At about 7 months if my son was having a vey high strung day I would still swaddle him.

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