My baby calling grandma "mom"

Dianne - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




My 20 month daughter and I moved into my parents house early this year (before she was talking) and lately she calls both me and my mom "mom". I spend a lot of time with her so it's not because she doesn't see me BUT I do think that she's doing it because she hears me say "mom" to my mom all the time. Should I start calling my parents"grandma" and "grandpa" so she doesn't continue to do this?


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Ange - posted on 10/15/2009




It's a compliment. She thinks you're way to young and pretty to be a Mum!!! Hee hee ;)
Yeah just start doing the whole grandma grandpa thang. Don't worry, she knows who her Mum is :)

Stephanie - posted on 10/15/2009




mine did this to. and in germany they are called oma. so, first every woman is a mom, for every child the same with man is dad. if u call ur mom, mom she will pick up on it as well. ur mom should then say grandma, mom is over there. she will then learn it faster then u think.

Dianne - posted on 10/15/2009




THANK YOU EVERYONE for all the kind words, stories and advice. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has gone through this. I'm going to try calling my parents what they want my daughter to call them (my mom wants "nana" and my dad is cool with "grandpa") and hopefully she'll catch on. Luckily my parents call me "mommy" around her so she says mommy when it's just me and her but still calls grandma "mom". Hopefully she'll get the difference soon :) Thanks again everyone!

Tara - posted on 10/08/2009




My daughter did this when we were with my mom for 7 months. She heard everyone call her mom and everyone call me Tara. You have to be firm with everyone and tell them to call you mom and your mom grandma. It didnt take long for my daughter to be corrected although she'll call me Tara to this day if she hears someone say Tara. She thinks its hilarious. She'll laugh her head off afterwards.

Amy - posted on 10/07/2009




My niece did the same thing when she was younger. She heard me and my sisters calling our mother mom, so she called her mom. We realized that she was just saying what we were saying. So now when we talk to our mother we call her meme. I am now having that problem with my 10 month old son. When he goes to my husbands mothers house, his granny, he calls her mama because he hears his 11 year old uncle call her mom. It kind of upsets me because I am his mama and think that they should all be making it clear to him that she is granny.

Tonya - posted on 10/07/2009




Babies learn what they here if you call your mom "mom" then that is what she is going to call her until she learns differant. My daughter is 3 and calls me Tonya because that is what everyone else calls me she knows I am mom and calls me mom most of the time but when more people around the more I become tonya

Brandi - posted on 10/07/2009




We taught our daughter what to call everyone by calling people whatever we wanted her to call them. my mom wanted to be nee-ma, so when we all saw her we would all call her nee-ma. my husband and i call each other mom and dad (to get the kids used to hearing it and so they would know) I would suggest that you start calling your mom grandma or meemaw or whatever she wants to be called. your daughter will pick it up. Don't worry. My son calls my mother ma, but calls me mama so he can sorta hear the difference. I'm sure he'll get it, just like your daughter will get it too.

Anna - posted on 10/07/2009




I lived with my mum when I had my 1st daughter, and she always called nanny mum, and she called me Anna. I moved out of my mums when she was 1yr but She didn't start calling me mum until my second daughter called me mum, so my daughter was 3yrs before she started calling me mum instead of Anna. Although she did start calling my mum "nanny' long before that.

Charlynn - posted on 10/07/2009




How exciting that your daughter is learning to talk! My son did something similar when he first started to talk and it was weird for me. He would point to men, almost always strangers, and say "daddy." I finally realized that he was making the connection that the strangers were men like his daddy was a man. Not transfering the relationship identity, just recognizing the similarity in gender. This could be what she is doing, recognizing that your mom is a woman like you.

With my son we would acknowledge that yes that was a man like Daddy, but that was not our Daddy so that he could learn what the similarity was (being a man, not being daddy). You could try the same thing with your daughter by saying, "Yes, that is my mom, and it is your grandma." You might also try to call your parents grandma and grandpa when she is around so that she has more experience hearing someone else use the preferred title for your mom. She'll get it, she is just learning to express herself and needs help learning how to do it.

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