My daughter has a prominent strawberry mark on a forehead,had a few nasty comments,really upsetting

Lisa - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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now my daughter is 5 months her strawberry mark has become more noticible,and people ask questions like has she bumped her head or is it a bruise?Have they never seen one before! I always put them straight,but you can see them frowning,wish i knew what to say,any ideas? And does anyone know when srawberry marks fade?

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Michele - posted on 10/01/2010

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you will find everyone will always have some kind of opinion about something. I would try to ignore anyone thats disrespectful. I have a strawberry on a different area of my body and it faded with time, but its hard to say honestly maybe speak to your pediatrician about it ? I am very sure your baby girl is beautiful no matter if she has a birth mark on her or not. some people honestly are just flat our rude.

Charity - posted on 09/29/2012

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my son had whats called a geophileoma.. it is a benign tumor under the skin.. it looked like a strawberry right between his eyes.. it used to raise up off the skin about 2 inches when he got mad and screamed.. now it is fading and doesnt look so bad so I know what you ar going through.. just ignore most of thier rude comments.. calmly explain what it is and go on about your buisness.. most people will feel really bad for saying things once you explain and walk away... Just keep your head up and dont let it bother you..

Jay - posted on 10/03/2010

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my little girl was born with one on the bck of her neck, shes nearly 5 now and it has almost faded away

Heidi - posted on 10/02/2010

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My daughter was born with quite a large one on her back and i always get asked if she has cut her back or something.. My maternal health nurse told me it should completely fade away by the time she was 2 and to just make sure that it fades in colour not gets darrker or larger in size...

Kristin - posted on 10/02/2010

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Keep in mind that some people may not have ever seen a birthmark like that before. Don't be too quick to take offense as long as they aren't being horrifically rude. Unless you feel like going into detail just keep your answer short and sweet, "it's a birthmark". And if someone is rude just ignore them. Don't sink to their level.

I'd never seen the little "stork bites" before my son was born. He has one on his forehead, and on the back of his neck. I was worried about them at first but now I've gotten rather attached to them. :)

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Phoebe - posted on 09/29/2012

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I have a heart shaped one on the right side of my right calf. It's a lighter pink, but if I've been out in the sun or just gotten out of the shower it darkens. My son has a huge one on the top of his head towards the back, you can't see it cause of all his hair normally. Unless he's crying, then his blonde locks can't hide it. My cousin was also born with one, it was kinda sideways heart shaped and at first it was between her eyes, then it moved down her nose as she got older. It's very light and kinda chills on the left side of her bridge. She's 13.

Mireille - posted on 09/29/2012

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my 10 month old daughter also have a strawberry mark on her forehead it appeared few days after she was born it bothers me because i can see poeple staring at her. i live in malta and to be onest i have never seen children with strawberry marks before. my ped said it will keep on growing until she is 1 year and after it will start to shrink until it disappers hope it will be gone by the time she starts school.

Ariella - posted on 08/21/2012

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hi my name is Ariella my daughter also has a strawberry mark on her back its really puffy and you can almost see it through her clothes. My question is does heamangioma affect infants growth at all? My daughter is 16 months old and she is very petite for her age and cant walk yet or crawl, walks with help. Please help. Thank you

Each and every comment have helped. You are all fab mums xxxx

Ariella - posted on 08/21/2012

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hi my name is Ariella my daughter also has a strawberry mark on her back its really puffy and you can almost see it through her clothes. My question is does heamangioma affect infants growth at all? My daughter is 16 months old and she is very petite for her age and cant walk yet or crawl, walks with help. Please help. Thank you

Each and every comment have helped. You are all fab mums xxxx

Erin - posted on 10/07/2010

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My oldest girl,5, had a small one on her leg and it was completely gone by the time she was 2.5. My baby girl is 15 months old and she has a larger one (about the size of a quarter) just above her elbow. People comment on it all the time asking if she got burned or "oh my gosh what happened to the poor baby!" I just say its a birthmark and people usually just go away. I know it being on your daughter's forehead is a little bit more prone to remarks than my daughter's but, I think its cute and it makes her who she is. The doctor says it will go away by the time she is 5 even though I have yet to see a reduction in it. But with my older girl's having disappeared, maybe it will. My mother in law also had one on her shoulder when she was a kid and she said her doctor burned it off of her when she was a teenager so?....It is supposed to go away, but just try to make her feel welcoming to it, it is a part of her.

Chanchal-Aanchal - posted on 10/07/2010

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my daughter had a strawberry mark on her stomach when she was born and it disappeared when she turned two.

Charday - posted on 10/06/2010

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My daughter had one on her finger and it faded by the time she was two. I also have a friend who daughter has one on her nose shes two now, her hasnt faded at all. It simply depends on the child. As far as the looks and comments ignore the ones you can and inform the ones who doesnt know. Not everyone knows what a strawberry is, I know I didnt until the birth of my daughter.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/06/2010

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oh and also forgot my son has one on his arm that just appeared out of no where 2 weeks ago

Elizabeth - posted on 10/06/2010

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well my daughter and my grandmother has a redish spot on their forhead when they get mad it turns really red doctors tell me its a brith mark not to worry...

Gloria - posted on 10/06/2010

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i have had this same mark since birth. i have a matching one at the back of my head starting on my upper neck and ending toward the crown of my head. mine started fading before puberty hit, but it can be different for everyone. i was very self-conscience about it when i was growing up and my dad used to tell me it was my special mark. often, when i would get angry or upset it would show brighter. now that i am older (20 actually) nobody can hardly tell it is there. going back in my pictures i would say people stopped noticing it about the time i was 11 or 12 (about the time i started menstrating). i know it is frusterating. i hope this helps, from personal experience.

Laura - posted on 10/05/2010

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darn near all kids have them just look at the haters and laugh and tell them to read about it before they give there opinion :)

Catherine - posted on 10/05/2010

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My daughter was born with one on her right eye her forehead and on the back of her neck. she is 10 months old and they are still there.

Mary - posted on 10/05/2010

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my daughter has a strawberry mark also. hers is on the back of her neck though. Its about 5 cm by 6 cm.
I took her to a pediatric dermatoligist for it.
He says they normally stop growing bigger by 6 months and should be faded as much as it will by 4 years old.
I kiss my daughters. I'm always getting asked if its a rash, or what happened. I just say its a birthmark and people leave it at that. they arent very common so many people do not know about them. I dont like to discuss my daughters so i leave it at just a birthmark.
he said they can do steriod shots, oral steriod, steriod creams or laser therapy. all of which have side effects. creams arent very affective, shots hurt but are more affective than the creams, oral has been linked with continuing side effects like increased blood pressure, laser therapy is said to be uncomfortable but they usually give something for discomfort. it probably wont be covered by insurance as its cosmetic but it wont hurt to ask.

http://i888.photobucket.com/albums/ac86/...

Thats how my daughter's has grown. you can see that the picture from august isnt all that smaller than the picture from october. its growth has slowed greatly. When they are centered from the front of the face all the way to down the back the specialists like to do MRI/MRAs to check the blood flow to them, to make sure they aren't stealing blood from the brain but thats only if they are growing rapidly and centered.

Betty - posted on 10/05/2010

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I have dialated blood vessles under my right eye from a childhood accident. It's a little red line about a 1/4 of an inch long. People will often bring it to my attention. They'll say, "oh no, what happened to your eye?... no no no don't touch it!". It kinda makes me feel good that when people ask about it because that's just their way of showing that they care about me and my eye. I gues my point is don't be so defensive. They are only taking an interest in you and your baby.

Mayra - posted on 10/05/2010

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My baby has one on her hand. Mangolia birthmarks are worse because they look like bruises (imagine the comments on those!) I just tell them that- she was born with it. It's hard because with the ways some people are today, they don't know what to believe. Sometimes they fade, sometimes they get bigger, that's what my doctor told me.

Stephanie - posted on 10/05/2010

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My son is 3 weeks old and has also had this prominent strawberry mark on his forehead and eyelids since he was born.. Just asked his Dr. about it and he said it will probably fade before the age of 2. It doesn't bother me but I'm sure would bother him in the future if it were to stick around. Talk to your Dr. about it but it's more than likely going to dissapear soon. So tell anyone that asks to mind their own business. :) Hope this helps.

Carlene - posted on 10/05/2010

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Our daughter has a couple strawberrys (they are called hemangiomas) and they have started to fade already- she's 10 months old. I completely understand where your coming from though. I tell people that they are birthmarks. Her little cousins are always poking at them but they are around the same age as her and are fascinated by them. I find it kind of cute. They are as much a part of her as anything else. There is a group on here that is specifically for kids with strawberrys so maybe look it up if you want too. Please feel free to message me if you want to talk more. Take care.

Shannan - posted on 10/05/2010

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My daughter has one and it started to show up about 3 months. I asked the doctor and he said it goes away by 2 but it'll get worse by like 6/7 months. My daughter is 16 months now and it's almost completely gone. It looked like a little heart on the top of her head. So yeah, by 2 it'll be gone.

Belinda - posted on 10/04/2010

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my son has one covering nearly his whole arm the ped told me it ws a birth mark and around the same age his became very bright in a way he is now 17 months and it has faded a fair bit but in certin season it comes up again i am sure there is nothing to worry about :)

Christina - posted on 10/04/2010

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well i personally have one on the back of my neck and it wont ever fade,but just explain its the birthmark. i mean hey they end up anywhere my son has one on his leg that looks ike a nast bruise and people constantly ask me to.sorry your going thru that

Alexandra - posted on 10/04/2010

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My younger sister had one on her stomache when she was born.... and it seemed to fade and fade as she got older she is now 17 and its not even there anymore.... Its been gone for almost 7 years

Elysia - posted on 10/04/2010

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my little brother had a rather large one on his forearm, he didnt suffer as many strange looks or remarks as im sure he would of if it were on his face.
Most doctors think that they will shrink and fade away by age 5 i think my brothers was completly gone by the time he was 8.

Krista - posted on 10/04/2010

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My daughter is one year and she has a birth mark right beside her eyebrow. every time i go to walmart someone always asks "what happened to her head?" ...these people being strangers! i just always say its a birthmark..and they seem to just be embarassed they said anything. but it will go away and even if it doesnt they have a procedure to remove it. so dont let that bother you. a lot of people even say my daughter wouldnt be the same without it =]

Lindsy - posted on 10/04/2010

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Some people just don't know what it is. I asked a mother the other day about what I thought were birth marks on her sons head , as it turns out he has some kind of follicle disorder so now his hair grows in different colors. I thought it looked cool , it kinda suited him I thought, but maybe I'm just used to it. When we were growing up my brother fell out of a tree and literally scalped himself on a rock at the bottom. He had big scars on his scalp but I always thought they looked good on him. I have a big mole on my chin kinda like Cindy Crawford. I always liked it even though people would ask me if I wanted it removed. I guess my point is , it might be more your own feelings about the mark than other peoples that's really bothering you. Give folks a brake , they're just curious. If they are rude just forget them, there are rude people everywhere.

Lee-Ann - posted on 10/03/2010

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they are supposed to fade eventually. my son has strawberries on the back of his head and across his neck and theyre not very big but theyre noticable and people always ask me what it is even when i go to th doctor as if i beat me son. there is nothing you can really do but just let it slide off your shoulders and wait for it to eventually fade away

Kymberly - posted on 10/03/2010

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My daughter was born with no birth marks at all until one appeared around 2 weeks. It turned bright red and was the perfect shape of a heart on her arm. It was about the size of a nickel and now that she's one its lightened up A LOT and is almost gone. A lot of people asked me about it but I just told them she "wore her heart on her sleeve" and they would just laugh it off. I'm kind of sad that its disappearing :/

Kelly - posted on 10/03/2010

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my son is 8 months and has one on the back of his head it goes all the way down his neck, its hard not to be all defensive when people ask about it but i find its the way they ask thats annoying, as though there is something wrong with him,

Kacey - posted on 10/02/2010

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My son was born with a heart shaped strawberry mark on his chest and it is quite large. He does swimming lessons, i was a little bit funny about changing him where people would be able to see it cause i was worried about what people might say. I have had quite a few people ask about it but it has been more family that i dont see very often. I think it was my mum that said he is wearing his heart on the out side, and just a little comment like that has made me not even worry about what people say, cause it is more common then you think. When he was born his strawberry mark was very light but as he has got older it go more red and raised, He is now 15 months old and it is still very red but isn't quite as raised as it used to be, my doctor and health center nurse told me it should start to fade by the time he was about 18months old (or earlier) and should be fully gone by the time he starts school, and if it hasn't there are laser treatment you can have done. But even if it still there i don't think i would get the laser done unless he wanted it done for him self. If it does go away one day i think i will be a little bit sad cause it is what makes him unique and has been part of him since birth.
I was very funny about it to start off with, but if you are more relaxed about it when you tell people what it is then they will be more accepting of it as well.

Lisa - posted on 10/02/2010

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thankyou guys for all your comments,really helped, i dont mind if it fades or not its part of her,and she just as beautiful with or without it, who cares what people say!

Jessica - posted on 10/01/2010

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being on the forehead it will probably fade pretty fast when she starts getting a little bit of sun. i have one on my belly that faded when i was little every time i got a little bit of sun

Lacye - posted on 10/01/2010

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sometimes they can and sometimes they don't. my step brother had a strawberry birthmark on his chin. we called him cool aid face, yes i was in on it too but in my defense, he was a buttheaded older brother lol. his didn't fade so my step mother took him to a doctor and had it surgically faded. of course by this time he was about 7 years old and this was about 20 years ago. you can still see it sometimes but not as bad.

as for what to tell people, they should mind their own business in my opinion but that will never happen. just keep doing what you have been doing and tell them it's a birthmark.

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My doctor calls that a stork bite. lol. My son has a few of those, one above and down the side of his eye, on his nose, and on the back of his neck, I always get asked if I've hurt him or if I pay enough attention to him, when I tell them that he was born with it they look at me disapprovingly as well, but you know the truth that's all that matters, my doctor said they usually fade within a year but when they get upset it will become red again, and fade when they are calm!

Jennifer - posted on 10/01/2010

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Be nasty right back. Ask them if they bumped their nose or is it always that crooked... or something. Find something about them to make a rude remark about. It's petty but it'll get the point across, especially if they are repeat offenders.



My son has eczema and his grandmother kept asking if I was bathing him because he looked "unwashed." I asked her if her lapband was tight enough because shes been packing on the pounds lately. My point was definitely proven. (Btw she is 40 and completely obsessed with her weight because she is married to a 25y.o so it was a low blow).

Carolee - posted on 10/01/2010

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My son was born with one that covered his right eye. It only shows when he cries now (he's 3). My daughter (11 weeks) has one across the back of her neck. It should go away by time she's 2 or 3 years old. Just keep saying, "It's a birthmark, and it doesn't hurt her at all" when people gawk.

Nichole - posted on 10/01/2010

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My son was born with a red triangular birthmark on his forehead. It is about the size of a half dollar. When he was first born it was bright red, but as he has gotten older it has lightened. Now it's a light pink but still there same size and he's 12 1/2 months. I think it's cute though. Some people have asked over the months if he fell or what happen. It used to bug me, but especially when they'd rush to say when they realized it was a birthmark that he'll probably outgrow it or hopefully it would go away. I've learn some people are just jerks. I think my son is cute, even if the birthmark never goes away.

Destinee - posted on 10/01/2010

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my daughter has one on her forehead back of her neck and tops of her ears they should be gone by 2 years of age fully and should fade even sooner! i love my baby girls strawberry marks i think they are adorable! i have people ask about it but never accusitory just dont let it bother you and be confident if they dont like it who cares? its your daughter!

Brooke - posted on 10/01/2010

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This should be helpful. I saw this a while back, it might help for support.

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