My daughter is 21 months old, I want to have a second baby, is that the right timing?

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Lynn - posted on 07/03/2009

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hi it really depends on if the timing is good for you and your partner. i had my second child when my eldest was 1yr and 4 days old. i thought it was really good bringing them up together but as i said it all depends on if the time is right for you.

Amy - posted on 07/03/2009

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sorry, not trying to start a debate. i was just saying it is NOT AT ALL selfish to be welcoming of a new life in your family :) hope that clarifies my statement.

Amy - posted on 07/03/2009

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sorry, not trying to start a debate just saying it is not at all selfish to be welcoming another child.

Melissa - posted on 07/03/2009

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You are the only person that knows if it is the right time! I had my son Nico when my oldest was 3 months from being 3yrs old! I think that for me it was a great choice! Good Luck and best of wishes for your soon to be expanding family!

Amy - posted on 07/03/2009

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i just had a thought, i see lots of people comment on making sure you are not being "selfish" to want another but the way i see it, is it not being more selfish to just do anything possible to keep your life exactly how it is right now and be so unwelcoming of a new life? just some food for thought...sometimes i think we use selfishness as a scapegoat for our true inner feelings of fear...

Maja - posted on 07/03/2009

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Hello, I see your question and remember se.Veljko had a 21 month when I was born Vanju.I tell something, that in some moment I lose my common sense, and is much more difficult and hard, if not working, If you have someone who you can help every day, and of course if the financial good.
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Sheila - posted on 07/03/2009

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If y'all are ready for another go for it. My children (girl & boy) are 18mths apart couldn't ask for a better friendship between siblings. I'm number 5 out of 5 children. My mother space us out so far that I was like a only child during my elem. time in school and for me it was no fun. Having two close together helps out with everything, I wanting another and the only thing us back is me cause how far apart they will be... GOOD LUCK:)

Christine - posted on 07/03/2009

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i found that the closer the better. you can get them in the same routine (sleeping, fedding, playing) 14 months between my daughters they are the best of friends and do everything together.

Katie - posted on 07/02/2009

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I got pregnant with my second when my first was about 8 months old. He was planned I wanted them to be close in age. My oldest is now 2 and my youngest is almost 9 months both boys and they get along so well its really cute to watch them play together and to watch my oldest try to teach his brother things. So I think you would be fine, if you think you are ready to bring another baby into your family. It is really wonderful having them be close in age, my closest sibling is four years older than me and my younger sibling is 9 years younger than I am and I never really had much in common with them untill we got older I wanted my kids to be closer than I was with my siblings thats why I decided to have my boys so close in age, its busy but always lots of fun!

Jessica - posted on 07/02/2009

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it really depends on the temperament of your first child and if you and your partner are ready because it wont be easy. I just had my second child 7 weeks ago and my daughter will be 3 at the end of july. My daughter is a little "mommy" to my son...but at the same time it's hard because she is really needy still. My suggestion is sitting down with your husband and really looking at what you will be in for. It can be done. my friend also just had her second daughter and her first isnt yet 2 and she is surviving. good luck.

Nicole - posted on 07/02/2009

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We plan on trying for baby #2 next summer when my son is 18 months so he'll be 2 when his little sister (I'm hoping for a girl!) is born. I think that's perfect timing. My brothers and I are all 2-3 years apart so it's fun having a built in playmate your age growing up. Like my husband says: get it out the way at once and be done with it, lol! I think it's easier to go through the baby stage for a few years straight than to have breaks inbetween.

Amy - posted on 07/02/2009

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my kids are closer in age than that and we have a blast! it's really not hard like people make it sound. i do not regret it at all :) it's a personal choice but i would rather step out than do it than to always wonder what(who) might have been! good luck.

Amber - posted on 07/02/2009

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My little girl is 27 months and I just found out that I am a month pregnant. I think that the timing is up to you. If you are ready then you are ready. As long as you make sure your first child feels loved and not replaced. There are many articles on the topic. I mean other mothers have brought children into this world alot closer together so I am sure it will be ok. Just make sure you emphasize how the first child will be able to help, how they will be the big brother or sister, and how it is their baby bro/sis. It will be ok. As long as you are prepared and you do all you can to prepare the child you already have.

Amanda - posted on 07/02/2009

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It is really up to you and how you are feeling...are you and your partner ready? My husband and I agreed before having kids that we wanted them to be about 2 yrs apart and so far it has worked out wonderfully. My kids play great together and I am hoping they get to be good friends as they grow up. Good Luck...I hope everything works out well.

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My daughter was 22½ months when our son was born. I was worried at first because it was close in age, but now I am thankful. They are close in age and hopefully we'll be done with diapers sooner than later. - My girlfriend also had 2 very traumatic pregnancies. Her first was twins who delivered at 25w5d, one passed a month later, and then she got pg again right away, and baby #3 delivered at 31w5d and she now has two boys who are 10 months and 12 days apart so I figured my situation of 22 months wasn't too bad. - If you are ready and your hubby is ready, go for it. It's a little easier the younger you are too! =) Good Luck!

Jael - posted on 07/02/2009

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Ive wanted another since my son was one, he is now to but at the time my partner was not ready but we can to an agreement that we will try before my son turns 3. which now that i look at it, will be great because my son now shows interest in babies and he pretty independant. but if you guys think your ready go for it!

Johanna - posted on 07/02/2009

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Thats really up to u...no1 can judge u on what u feel like doing...i've a daughter who had jus turned 2 wen my son was born, she turned out fine...if u feel she may not adapt to a sibling..then wen the baby is born try involving her with the duties like opening a nappy for nappy time, feeding the bottle, help burping and holding them when she's sitting down...worked a treat wiv my daughter...so answer to ur question...if ur ready for another then go for it...good luck

Jennifer - posted on 07/02/2009

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I have that same question, my daughter is about to be 20 months old and i'm ready for another child. I think having children that are close in age is positive because my brother and sister are 12 and 14 years older than me so i basically grew up as an only child and it was difficult. I think the timing is good

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It depends if your partner is ready to have to second baby. I've been going through the same experience about wanting to have a second child. I've learned you can't be entirely selfish if you want to have another child despite if your partner isn't ready to go through the midnight wake ups again, etc. Talk to him, I'm sure ya'll can come up with a compromise.

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