my daughter is 4mths, the father hasn't been there at all wasnt there when i was prgnant and hasnt seen her at all

Nickolle - posted on 08/05/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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about 2 wks ago he txt me asking where I was and all this weird stuff wanted to meet me, I told him he's not seeing her unless he is ready to be a dad he responded with he didn't want to be... but yet he kept saying he wanted to see her I told him no... what do I do????hes not on the birthcertificate, because paternity hasn't been proven, im worried he will try and do something, I don't want him to see her excpecially if he dosnt want her

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Nickolle - posted on 08/11/2013

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thank you both that has helped a lot.. ive asked if hes ready to be a dad and he said no... as of now shes better off with out him :) her uncles are great to her and are very good male influences

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It does not matter if he is on the BC or not. He is the father he has rights to his child just like you. I'd seek out legal help if you are scared. Maybe he would fall in love with the baby once he saw his little girl. I'd meet in a very public place and have a grown up conversation and tell him what his responsibilities are and his choices. She's too young to remember a meeting so I'd schedule it while shes still young so it wouldn't hurt again if he walks out later on when she gets daddy's abandoning her. (So heart breaking)

Samantha - posted on 08/05/2013

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maybe he wants to sleep with you and that's y he wants to meet up. but the terrible thing is some guys just want control, so even if he isnt bothered with the child, he might still cause trouble cause he could say that he has his rights etc.. at least he's not on the birth cert so if it went to court it would be dragged out for ages for tests etc. or maybe he just wants a chance to see the child n start being a dad

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