My daughter is 6 and every time she gets dressed, she says that she looks ugly! What do I say?

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Robbin - posted on 08/31/2009

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Thank you all so much!!! I will try everything, I HATE that she feels this way! And I do think that it has somewhat to do with me, I it sometimes.......but when you think that they don't hear you, they are always listening! THANKS AGAIN!!!

Christina - posted on 08/30/2009

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amanda i have to agree with you. school is 1 of the harshest places & its sad that kids are meaner than adults. my daughter got made fun of for wearing glasses being bigger than the other girls. shes only 10. so i made her feel better by buying her a pair of oakley's! she definitely felt better!! :)

Lindsay - posted on 08/30/2009

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I would always emphasize how beautiful she looks and give her subtle compliments continuously. Just hearing it over and over can get it to register in her brain and giver herself more confidence. I also agree with letting her have a say in what she wears and how you fix her hair, etc. Of course we don't want our girls to beleive that appearance is everything but let's face it, it's an issue for most girls. If she feels comfortable with her outward appearance, the inner confidence will follow. =)

Amanda - posted on 08/30/2009

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School is a killer for our kids self esteem. Kids just don't get how their words hurt. i go through it with my boys and I can only imagine that girls are worse. I always make sure that my boys know that school is school and when they get home they are save and loved and that is all that matters! it seems to help.

Christina - posted on 08/30/2009

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this is a tough 1. do you let her pick out her own clothes? eventhough its a pain & i cant stand when my girls do it, let her change her clothes if she doesnt like what shes wearing. also has she heard anyone say this before? that could have a lot to do with it. just remember praise her & remind her that she does look beautiful.

Ashley - posted on 08/30/2009

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i agree with amanda. the more she hears she's beautiful the more she'll believe it. and it could be that someone at her school is being mean to her and that's why she's feeling that way. also paula had a good idea of trying to figure out what she thinks is ugly. you may also wanna try some bonding time like doing each other's hair or painting each others toe nails. i know she six but all girls love pampering time no matter what age.

Amanda - posted on 08/30/2009

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you say "i have no idea what you are talking about. You are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in whole world!" Then give her a big hug and a kiss and say "boy I wished i looked as good as you at your age" It might not seem to make a lot of difference right then but say it more often and all the time until that is what she hears a lot and she will start to feel better about herself. give it a go and let me know what happens.

Paula - posted on 08/30/2009

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Hi, Wow this is a hard one! I dont mean to sound horrible or alarm you, but it sounds like the begining of self esteem issues and body image problems. If my little girl said something along those lines, I would ask her what she thinks looks ugly. Does she think its her face, body, hair, clothes, etc? Hopefully, it's something easy, like clothes. But if not, try speak to you local childrens hospital or parent info lines. I dont know what country you're in, but there is many helpful websites regarding body image issues. All the best!

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