my daughters growing hair down there!

Lindsay - posted on 02/23/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I came to come pick up my daughter at school. When we got home I told her to jump in the shower because me and my husband were expecting company over tonight. I went into her room to check her bag for any homework and she was changing completly in the "nude" she screeched and coverd her area before she could I noticed she had some hair down there just a bit. she ran into the bathroom and she's moody around me and embarssed should I talk to her because I really want to or do you think im just over reacting?

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Grant - posted on 10/20/2013

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I was only 9 years old when I started puberty and my hair down there grew in thick and noticeable.
I was an early bloomer so to speak and when my mom seen it she had a talk with me and discussed sex and everything.
Maybe you should do the same As some of us start the change a lot earlier than the other kids do.
I remember seeing some of my classmates naked in the shower/ locker rooms and some did not start puberty till they where 13 or 14 !!!!
Just saying
Grant

Stifler's - posted on 03/04/2012

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I think you should have a talk with her that it's normal and the changes that happen etc. but also start giving her her privacy and not walking in on her. Puberty is a delicate time. I remember being horrified by growing pubes and my mum wanting to talk about it.

Katie - posted on 03/01/2012

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I wouldn't make it a big deal but I would sit down with her and explain what is going on with her body. These are uncomfortable subjects to talk with our kids about but we need to. As weird as this sounds maybe you should show her that it is normal to have hair down there and that this just means that she is growing up. I don't know how old your daughter is, but this might be another good time to talk to her about other changes that will be happening with her body such as developing breasts or starting her period. Keep in mind kids are developing and starting their periods sooner and sooner so elementary school age is the perfect age to start discussing this stuff.

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Since you can't go back in time and talk to her a few years ago.... maybe get her the American Girl body book called The Care and Keeping Of You. My girls and I read it together when they were 7. They are 10 now, developing breasts (for the past yearish), and I think one is starting to get pubic hair. We're very open w/ each other about what is going on and they haven't exhibited any embarrassment so far.

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Donatien - posted on 04/25/2013

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Bodily hair is often an embarrassment and today's hygiene standard is
to keep your body hairless.

Don't make a big thing out of it, it's just part of growing up. Show her
how you shave yourself and let her follow.

Daria - posted on 03/07/2012

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I think the best thing to do is not make it a big deal. The world has so many other things in store for her to stress over. You dont wont her to feel stressed out about something she has no control over, and that is normal. Idk how old she is but Just reasure her that its normal everyone has hair down there. I think just a bit over reascting.

Karen - posted on 03/07/2012

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I was so embarrassed when I hit puberty, that I shaved off the couple of pubes I had, so that I didn't have to explain them to my younger best friend.



She probably feels really embarrassed and alone. Its such a weird time in a girl's life. She wants and NEEDS her privacy so I definitely wouldn't go busting through any closed doors from this point on. You could really scar her for life during this transition.



Let her know that you are there if she wants to talk, but on her terms, and only if she wants to. Whatever approach you take, shes going to remember it for the rest of her life. I am left with memories of my drunken mom, sitting on the toilet, singing "welcome to my world". Don't do that lol

Julie - posted on 03/06/2012

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I got my first hair in 2nd grade... respect her privacy - but wait a few years before you and she have 'the talk' unless she is in 4th grade.



Apologize to her for walking in on her and promise it will not happen again ...



♥ love her ~♥~

Vanity - posted on 03/06/2012

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If you haven't had that talk its time. You're not over reacting at all. Sounds like she's starting puberty. If she has not started her cycle, be on the look out for it. If its too early for it, You may want to speak with her doctor for some advice. Hope this helps.

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Learning everything in school and not from parents? And that's what you want for your own kids?



I'm sorry, but that concept right there REALLY disturbs me. Raising our kids is our job... not the school's.

Tina - posted on 03/03/2012

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Definately don't make a big deal out of it. My mum walked in on me in the bathroom and was shocked by me having hair. I was 8. It didn't feel abnormal to me since I'd seen my mum it all seemed natural. Now is the time for her to have more privacy and just explain to her that her body will be growing alot and going through changes and let her know if she has any questions about anything that she can come to you and she doesn't need to be embarrased.

Jessica - posted on 03/02/2012

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First of all I would (and this is just my opinion) apologize for walking in without knocking. Especially since you knew she would be in the shower. Second I would say that if she needed to talk about anything that you would be there to listen no matter what the subject is, and then I would wait to see if she has questions. I learned all this stuff in school and never had the talk with my parents...which is good because I think it would have been awkward...But then again I embaress easily.

Michelle - posted on 02/29/2012

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The book I got for my daughter when she started to changing to a woman was Puberty Girl, it is an awesome book explains everything. I let my daughter come to me when she was ready to talk. I hope this helps.

Erica - posted on 02/25/2012

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Maybe get her a book or some information on the changes to her body and just set it on her bed and let her come to you when she is ready

Robyn - posted on 02/23/2012

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dont make it a major sit down chat just yet. It seems she is a bit embarrassed of her changing body right now and may want to avoid the discussion for the moment. Just little quick convos involving whats going on will help ease her into feeling comfortable about talking. Will open the door to her bringing issues to you as they arise. GOOOOOD LUCK!

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