My husband calls is HIS money...

Jane - posted on 04/14/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I hate it when he does that to me...I do not work. I stay at home with our 3 yr old autistic son. I cook and clean, take care of all the bills, and other domestic affairs. I donated $10 to a charity, and he freaked out saying that he wanted me to ask his permission before I spent HIS money. I feel like I am a hired servant instead of a wife when he says this to me....I guess I'll ask his permission next time, but it really hurts me that he is not treating me with trust and respect. I know that when he wants to donate or buy something, he does so without consulting me. Does anyone else have this problem?


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Sara - posted on 04/14/2009




Well, not exactly like that, but I went through a really rough patch right after my son was born where my husband would say off handed remarks like what your said to you.  I strated seeing a therapist and he showed me how to take some control back in our relationship.  I did this by packing my things and leaving to stay with my mom for a few days.  I set up a time that he was supposed to meet me and we talked.  Being home alone was hard for him and he realized that he missed me.  After that things started getting better and he started respecting me again the way he used to.  If it was not just an issolated incident, I would start standing up for myself.  He could have just been having a bad day though, which is not an excuse, but might be an explanation.  I hope this helps a little!  Good luck and feel better!


With warm wishes

Amy - posted on 04/14/2009




tell him fine then you want to strat getting paid for what you do every day all day so that you have some money to call your own.

Jo - posted on 04/14/2009




my fiance does exactly the same thing! we have two young sons and a daughter on the way and i do work seasonal but its like my moneys ours and his is his too! he throws it at me everytime we argue saying i work therfor its his but i do! i wash and feed HIS kids, take em to school and nursery and am spending every penny i do get on the kids and the new baby. im at a bit of a cross roads, dont wanna take his money when he offers cause I know itll get thrown back at me at some point!

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