MY HUSBEN ( WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER ) WANTS TO SEE HIS KID AM I WONRG TO SAY NO

Katharyne - posted on 08/23/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )

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HE HASNT SEEN HIM IN A LONG TIME AM I WRONG TO TELL HIM NO HE DONT SUPORT EITHER OF US HAS GOTTEN NOTHING FOR HIS KID IN ABOUT A YR AND HIS REALLY DISRESPECTFULL TO ME WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER BC WE FIGHT ALOT AND THERE ARE THINGS THAT ARE GOING ON THAT WELL I DONT WANT MY KID TO BE AROUND AND I DONT WANT MY KID TO THINK THAT ITS OHK FO RHIM TO THOSR THINGS I KNOW THAT HE LOVES HIS SON AND MY SON SHOULD KNOW HIS DAD BUT IN MY GUT IT JUST JUST DONT FEEL RIGHT AM I WRONG??

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Medi - posted on 09/09/2012

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Unless the father is unfit or abusive to the child I don't see a problem with allowing him to be around the child. The fighting is between you and him, it has nothing to do with the child. If you truly feel uncomfortable with allowing him to take him on his own then consider supervised visits.

Katharyne - posted on 08/28/2012

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we went to court and i bc he has lived with me his whole life i have full custody of my kid and no visitation was granted the jude told us that we chould not agree on vissittion then we would have to go back to court.. witch he dont want to given the record that he has and his history and i did give it a try he saw him a cuple of times but the last time i brout him there my kid chouldnt even go inside his home it was so bad i would love for him to know his dad dont get me wrong but i just cant bring myself to leave him there by himself and i dont want him to see us fight or have his dad do something while he is there

Melissa - posted on 08/27/2012

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As much as I agree with the other ladies that it is important to be able to build a relationship with his dad if he wants it, I also feel that It is unhealthy for the dad to walk in and out of his life as he pleases. In the long-run this will cause psychological and emotional pain for your son. You should really take it to court. See what the judge says, try for supervised visitation and if that doesn't go well or he stops showing up push for full custody. If your gut instinct is no, then I say listen to that instil you have court orders to back you up. Give it a chance so your son can see you are giving it a good try, then go from there. GL

Tatiana - posted on 08/26/2012

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Depending on what's going on I would consider supervised visits.... I don't feel u should keep a child away from his father. If his dad is a deadbeat he will figure that our on his own. It's not for u to decide. Don't allow your feelings and relation

Ship with him destroy the relationship your child can have with Him

Heather - posted on 08/26/2012

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I think you should let the courts decide. He doesn't sound stable. If you do not feel safe then listen to your instincts. Wait until you hear what the judge decides.

Kaylyn - posted on 08/25/2012

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I think the best thing to do in these situations Is try until you know for sure that its not à good situation for your son. I recently told my daughters dad to stay away for awhile because i believe its the best for her,tried for over à year then a relapse happened.so right now i believe you have to give them à chance if it doesnt work then at least you can say you tried.

Katharyne - posted on 08/25/2012

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im worried about safty and last time we went to court we had to have a cop walk us to our car ;shit got bad

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I think that you should attend a co parenting class. It will open your eyes and help you deal with situations with the father. You don't really have the right to keep him away from the child. Your child will be angry with you if you aleinate their father from them. You do want to try to try to put the child first because the relationship is about the child not the father. If you are worried though, you should go to the courts. That way it is an outside source to back you if it is needed.

Katharyne - posted on 08/23/2012

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well he is not harmfull to my child but i dont want to get into what he has done but put it this way he has anger issues and that tends to lead to other things that chould be harmfull for the women around him ie. me if u undersand what im saying

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2012

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You should allow him to see his son, it is not for you to decide if they should have a relationship or not that is up to your child when they get older. Your son has a right to know his father whether the two of you fight or not. Unless going to dads is harmful to your child then be the bigger person and allow visitation.

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