my kids fight all the time and every thing i do to try and stop them it does not work

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Teyaka - posted on 04/09/2009

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You can let them fight it out. Eventually they will get the point to leave each other alone. OR you can punish them for it. The worst the fight the harsher the punishment.



But I will say, my brothers and I used to fight tooth and nail. My mom got tired of it, so she finally said if we are so quick to fight each other than when someone is messing with us we need to be just as quick if not quicker to defend each other.

Andi - posted on 04/09/2009

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Well, I haven't had to deal with this yet as my son is only 5 months old. However, I watch Super Nanny, Nanny 911, and John and Kate Plus 8 ALOT and what they do really seems to work. I'm sure you could look the shows up online and maybe that would help. From what I have heard they probably want attention and/or have gotten used to the bad habbit and think they can get away with it. Here's what I would try.

1. Get down to eye level with them and explain in a calm voice that what they are doing is not accaptable.

2. Enforce a time out. Have a specific spot (a rug or step works well for this) in each room/ area of the house. Do NOT send them to their room. This will make their room a place they don't like to go and will make bed time harder and they will not want to play in there either. Some people suggest using a timer they can see or hear.

3. If they do not sit in time out until you say they can get up, take away a toy or privledge (t.v., video games, desert).

4. If you yell, they will yell.

5. If you hit, they will hit.



Now, I don't know you and again, my son has not reached this stage yet. So, I am not judging here. I am just telling you what I have heard. Also, I am not saying that you do yell or hit, this is just the advice I have heard given to other parents. Lastly, try not to stress too much. You can't break up every fight and they need to learn how to deal with thoes kind of situations when you aren't around to. I have also heard that when one comes to you and says something like "Mommy, he hit me!" You should say, "Tell him that hitting is not allowed and it hurts you when he does that." Or something like that. This way you won't raise tattle tales.



I hope this helps but again, I don't know if any of this works. I haven't actually tried it myself except at Sunday School.



Good luck! I'm sure you are trying your hardest and doing the best you can!

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