My little man may have autism

Felicia - posted on 11/07/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I had to have my three year old, Kyle, evaluated for Headstart and they think that he has autism. I always knew that it was a possibility but I kept pushing it aside thinking that it was just a learning disability. But out of the seven areas they tested him in he is behind in five, not very good odds. I know that he isn't severly autistic but even knowing that he is slightly autistic makes me wonder if it was my fault. I have been so consumed with everday situations and finalizing the divorce with my now ex that I feel like I didn't spend enough time working with him when he was littler.


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Felicia - posted on 11/13/2009




I want to thank you guys for the kind comments. I know that deep down it wasn't my fault but I don't know. He is know getting the opportunity to go to school twice a week for about 3 hours with other kids who are having difficulties. His first day was yesterday and I got a note from the teacher that said he had a good first day, that made me feel so much better. I am sure that everything will be okay in the end

Kelly - posted on 11/08/2009




As Mum's we always seem to beat ourselves up when something is wrong with one of our children and irrationally attribute blame to ourselves....and the worst part is no matter what anyone else says the thoughts tend to stay with us in the back of our minds.

I have seen lots on the news and in the papers over the last year or so in regards to positive outcomes from treatments and therapies for autism including changes in diet, animal therapy and some really intensive treatment programs. The key to all of them seems to be early intervention. Having not been in this situation myself, I'm afraid I can't be of anymore assistance, but it couldn't hurt to do as much research into this as possible. Through my work, I have previously worked with some children with autism as well as their parents and carers and have seen how difficult it can be and how much dedication it can take.

Wishing you and Kyle all the best.

Karrie - posted on 11/07/2009




The causes of autism are still being investigated. Many experts believe that the pattern of behavior from which autism is diagnosed may not result from a single cause. There is strong evidence to suggest that autism can be caused by a variety of physical factors, all of which affect brain development - it is not due to emotional deprivation or the way a person has been brought up.

There is evidence to suggest that genetic factors are responsible for some forms of autism. Scientists have been attempting to identify which genes might be implicated in autism for some years.

Autism is likely to have multiple genes responsible rather than a single gene. The difficulty of establishing gene involvement is compounded by the interaction of genes and by their interaction with environmental factors. "NAS"

I think it is natural for a mother to beat herself up when there is a threat to their child. But the best thing you can do at this point is to not do it. There is tons of support out there and lots of research and continuing breakthrough. Use your energies toward that rather than blaming yourself. Just keep loving him and love yourself stay strong and committed.

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