My nine month old daughter has never really slept through the it too late?

Laura - posted on 04/30/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




The first three months, I let my daughter sleep with me. (It was the only way we could get any sleep!) And ever since its been a constant battle trying to get her to sleep in her crib. She wakes up every few hours at least, and if i rock her back to sleep, she seems to be fine for a couple of more hours. Its been nine months, and I'm so tired. I just want to get a good solid nights sleep. Everyone tells me to let her cry herself to sleep and after a few nights, she'll be fine...I dont have the heart to let her cry, but I'm exhausted!!! Any suggestions???????/


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Jessica - posted on 04/30/2009




My son is 15 months old and still wont sleep through the night. I get so jealous when my friends tell me how they got a full night of sleep and their little one didn't wake them up. My son sleeps in my room in his crib. He started off sleeping in a bassinet and then in bed with me. I found for us the best way for him to start sleeping in his crib was as soon as he went to sleep I would put him in the crib. Then when he woke up I would put him back to sleep and back in the crib. Now he really cant sleep anywhere else unless he is in his bed.

He still wont sleep through the night. Right now he has his molars coming in. We usually are up every 3 to 4 hours. I tried to let him "cry it out" but it really wasn't for us. He would end up being wide awake from crying and would choke himself out. I was more of a hassle trying to get him to go to sleep at that point then it was to hold him until he went back to sleep.

I have talked with some people that said they never really got a full night sleep until their children were around 2 years old. Working full time and being a mom is a tough job. But you already know that. Good luck with everything and maybe our little ones will start sleeping through the night soon.

Heather - posted on 04/30/2009




If you don't want to use the CIO method, there are two books I would suggest. My son (now almost 10 months) refused to sleep in his crib during the day, and was waking up almost hourly during the night. I used them together and he's sleeping in his crib for his naps, and only gets up once or twice in the night to feed.

The first book is called "The No-Cry Sleep Solution". There are some good ideas in there for helping her get to a place where she can self-sooth, but I found it wasn't quite enough. So I used some of the ideas in it and combined them with the second book, "The Baby-Whisperer Solves All Your Problems". There is crying involved with what is called the 'pick up/put down' method, but you're there the whole time to help reassure your daughter. There's also a really good forum at to answer any questions you may have and to support you through the process.

Just make sure whatever method you choose, it feels right for you and you're consistent with it. And read as much as you can about it before you start so you do it properly. Good luck, and may you be feeling well rested soon!

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It's not too late. What you can try is to sit beside her bed for the first night without talking to her. Just wait until she falls asleep and leave. The next day sit further from the crib... and further the following day until you are out of the room. It will take a bit longer than letting her cry on her own but she will definitely sleep. Remember that you are doing this as much for her as for yourself. Babies NEED to sleep and sleeping through the night is important as they grow. It helps with their brain development and teaches them to soothe themselves. Good luck.

Tina - posted on 04/30/2009




My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was almost a year old. I also slept with her until she was 13 mths. Then I woke up one morning and she was at my feet rather than in my arms. I freaked out and decided right then and there she was sleeping in her crib no matter what. I did have to do the CIO method. I did what I believe if refered to as the Ferber method. I told her good night, gave her kisses, laid her down, turned on her fishes, covered her up, and walked out. Of course as soon as I was headed out her door she was screaming. I didn't say anything or turn around, just walked out. I let her cry for 5 mins, then went into her. I did not say a word or take her out of the crib. I simply laid her back down, rubbed her back for a sec, then walked out again. She screamed again, and this time I let her scream for 10 mins. I did this 2 more times, extending the time I let her cry before I went in there by 5 mins each time. I think we were 2 mins away from the 20 min mark and she was out like a light. I did the same thing the next night, and this time I didn't make it past 10 mins. The night after that it was 5. Then finally it was 0 mins. She just went to sleep. Now I can lay her down in her crib and she goes to sleep. Unfortunately, when she started sleeping in her crib, she also started waking several times a night again.

As for waking in the middle of the night, I use to get up and go to her. I talked to her Dr about this at her 14 mth d/a and he said to just let her cry in the middle of the night. He said as long as I am going in there, she will continue to wake up and rely on me to put her back to sleep instead of self soothing. I did just let her cry for 2 nights. Since then she has slept through the night unless she has been sick. If she does happen to wake in the middle of the night I give her atleast 3 mins before I go in there.

GL. It is a long hard battle. One of the most heart breaking things for me is to let her CIO, but I HAD TO DO IT for my sanity. I was a tired, cranky Mommy, and that was no fun for me or her. Let alone the rest of the family.

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