My Sex life SUCKS after my first baby!

Amanda - posted on 11/17/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Did anyone else have a horrible experience with their sex life after their birth? It's been 6 months and I have absolutely NO libido. My husband has to beg me to give it to him and I feel so guilty about it! I'm just not motivated. Everyone says it gets better with time, but HOW LONG? I'm already thinking about having another baby- but my husband wants to wait at least a year and I don't... that's a whole other issue!

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Amy - posted on 04/18/2014

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Maybe because the whole pregnancy got you wrapped up and labor all that can be terrible on a woman. Especially if it was vaginal birth you can get insecure about how sex might change try to figure whats the problem . Its a great sign that your husband wants to be intimidate he still finds you desirable and attractive wait a year or two to have your next child enjoy what you have now (:

Noor - posted on 04/17/2014

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hello I have a 5months old cute baby and when I was pregnant we don't do sex bc my husband thinks it hurts our baby we did nothing six months and after delivery I feel that my husband is not interested in me he loves his son very much but he didn't evevn give me a flower when our son was born after that I realize with time that he is not interestd in sex my husband is a great husband and I love him very much but his all attension is now transfered to our son my son is now 6months old and we did 2times only and this 2time I beg him and cry a night to gain his attention or love I don't knw what to do he is not interstd in sex or me any more

Annie - posted on 11/18/2009

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we stopped having sex when i was 4 month pregnant as it didnt feel right lol, however after i gave birth we tried to have sex about 12 weeks after but i wasnt really into it and this was TOTALLY out of charactor as i would usually have a raging sex drive but i think i felt nervous with my cut as it took a long time to heal and defo my confidence as i felt like a right heffalump ( and still do lol) however i started to enjoy sex again after my daughter turned approx 8 or 9 months old !

hope this helps.... and dont panic you shall enjoy that orgasm soon lol xxxx

Ashley - posted on 11/18/2009

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I can't say that I can really relate to you on this one but I have a couple friends who went through the same thing. One girl found that when she changed her diet and ate better it really helped. Another found that when she got to exercise and get some time for herself it helped. I think everyone is different and you just gotta find what works for you, there might be some vitamins you can try that will help, or maybe your hubby could try doing little things that would help. I wish you all the best of luck!

Brittany - posted on 11/18/2009

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My son is 17 months and I still have no sex drive! My husband is going crazy and is now getting to the point where he thinks that I'm "no-longer interested in him".. that isn't the case at all though! I have talked with the doctor about it and they said that it will come back "naturally". I don't know "how long". I think that it's different for everybody!

Jodie - posted on 11/17/2009

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my son is almost 14 months an i still have no sex drive everyone told me it will just come back to ya too but i was wandering when too..... my pooor hubby has to beg me too i feel so bad for him i made an appointment to see a different doctor to see if mayb they can tell me something i dunno when or if it will ever come back

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