My son as suddenly become really clingy, how can I stop this?


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Sarah - posted on 03/21/2009




I agree with everything the women above has said. I have a 13 month old little boy who is the same way, but leaving for a little while and then coming back happy and cheerful with eventually let him know that you will come back and that it's ok to be without you for a little while. As far as when you are at home and he is still clingy, that happens to me also. Isaac was so bad that he just wanted to sit on  my lap all day. But I would get out toys and sit him next to me and play with him. Then I would start getting up and walking just a little ways away then coming back really soon. That would let him know that he is ok if he is not on my lap constantely. I think that it is natural for them to trust you so much, but it is also needed for him to be able to trust others, so just be patient and try little by little the suggestions that were given. Good luck!

Cindy - posted on 03/21/2009




Hi Sarah!

My daughter went through the same thing. For her she started being clingy at about 9 months and finally at 15 months she became more her own person and didn't want to cling to me constantly. We still go through it sometimes when there are new people around or if she hasn't seen a person in a while. I am not sure how old your son is but it really is just a phase. Some people say to ignore it however if you do that then it will go on forever. I tried that at first but it didn't work. They cling to us because they feel they need that attention so we owe it to them to give them what they need,. Once they feel secure and know that you are always there for them they will cling less. And to be honest once my daughter actually did start to be more independent I was a little sad. She's growing so fast. The way I see it is we should enjoy them while they want us because in a few years they won't want to be near us as often! . And then before we know it they are moving out on their own! LOL So just be patient it will all pass when he's ready to move forward. I hope this is of some help to you. I wish you all the best with your little guy!

Lindsey - posted on 03/21/2009





My youngest son is very clingy! What I had to do is just leave him at friends house and go off for a hour and come back. He soon got the hang of "Hey mommy is coming back." But don't get me wrong he is still clingy now at age 2 but he's not as bad. He will go off with other people and he will do his own lil thing without having me right beside him. I promise it gets easier!

Emma - posted on 03/21/2009




if u r the sole parent its natral 4 them 2 cling 2 u as 2 them ur there only friend try lttle breaks from each other. it`ll b hard at first but its so gud 4 each of u .

Jackie - posted on 03/21/2009




i am trying to figure the same thing out myself... I stay home with my son who is just about 5 months (this started about 2 1/2 months ago) so it's especially hard to get him to be ok without me. I try to leave him for little spurts when family comes to visit, even if its just to go get milk or a coffee. It is hard but hopefully it will get better.

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