My son cries everytime he wakes up!?

Jay - posted on 05/26/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hello ladies, my son is 18 months old and ever since i can remember, he has cried everytime he wakes up. Its not a wingy or wittery cry either, its his proper cry and it breaks my heart.
He is easily comforted once i go to get him up but i would like him to feel that he doesnt need to cry to get our attention.
Should i try leaving him for a while when i hear him wake up so that he realises that we wont come straight away whenever he cries or is it just one of those things? xxxx

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Alison - posted on 05/29/2011

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My 11mo went a few days where he cried everytime he woke. When he did I was advised to call out to him from the other room and let him know that, even though he couldn't see me, I could hear him. He's doing great now! And unless he's teething or not feeling too hot, he will usually just play and 'talk' to me for the few minutes it takes for me to get to him. Good luck! :)

Jay - posted on 05/27/2011

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he does have toys, 2 favorite comforter teddies in particular and he is well advanced for his age and can talk. He can say our names and other words to communicate but he prefers to cry. I guess like you say, they will just grow out of it xxx

Toni - posted on 05/26/2011

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Karen is right, Crying will not hurt him. It exercises their lungs, which you may regret when he starts talking. ;) So if you are busy when he wakes up, or in the bathroom, he will be fine. :)

Karen - posted on 05/26/2011

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My kids did that too. It's just what babies do. That's their only way of communicating until they can talk, or come to you themselves. If you want to teach him to feel comfortable when you aren't in the same room, you can put him in a playpen while you clean. Put lots of his favorite play things in with him. It might help him to see that when you leave, you always come back. (like going to the bedroom to grab the laundry and coming back to the room he is in or close by) ect. he may be crying so hard to make sure you hear him right away because he's anxiouse to be with you. He doesn't know what to do in a room by himself. Or something. I'd go get him right away because it makes them feel secure. I heard the crying real hard like that is good for the lungs. Don't know if it's true but might make you feel better if it takes you a few minutes to get to him b/c your in the bathroom or something.

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Rhistar81 - posted on 01/12/2014

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My 9 month old has always been this way. I've attempted controlled crying/comforting but I cannot commit to it because my boy gets so terribly worked up & then it takes such a long time to soothe him. He has always been very social & loves being around people so I assumed that he wakes up, realizes he's alone & wants to be around someone. I'm sure he'll grow out of it eventually.

Tameka - posted on 05/28/2011

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Ever woken up grumpy? Where you would rather greet the world after you have had a good sulk to yourself first or want someone to jump into bed with you and hug you until you feel better? Some babies are like this. My eldest cried after waking for the first 7-8 months. After that she would play in her cot or all out to me until I got her. My youngest (17 months) has always cried after waking. She then sulks in my arms for a good 5-10 minutes then is back to her usual self.

Some people just aren't morning people!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/27/2011

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You can train him to stop crying, but make sure his needs are met and then stop going to him asap when he wakes. Or do something like walk by, say Hi and then walk off again so he knows you are around at first, then ignore it. You just have to find another way for him to self soothe other than using you. It's pretty simple. It should only take a few days to fix really

My son used to cry every time he woke up and my mom noticed (because we went from total baby phase to him being a little older) that it wasn't just a food cry, that he was just used to crying upon waking and expecting food too. So I stopped feeding him when he woke up, and he quit crying over it. So whatever your son is attached to, say you upon waking for instance, get rid of or replace.

Janice - posted on 05/26/2011

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My daughter typically cries upon waking too. She is almost 19 mo. Ocassionally, she does just play in her crib after waking but this is the exception not the norm. I don't know why she wakes up so upset. When she sleeps with us she rarely wakes up crying so I assume it is anxiety driven. I dont know the answer but If it is an anxiety thing, I'm not sure if letting him cry will make it better or worse. I plan to just follow my daughters lead. Today I thought I heard her 2x during nap then nothing. So at the 3 hour mark I went in and she was playing. Not sure how long she was up but she was quiet about it. I just figure she will grow out of it soon.

Toni - posted on 05/26/2011

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That is a tough one. My boys cried when they woke up, but not every time. Sometimes they would just sit and play. Does he have any toys in his crib with him? Like a stuffed animal or a rattle or something. Anyway, if the cry is that heart breaking I wouldn't leave him for very long for fear that he would feel worse. That is just my opinion though. I hope you get it figured out. Try toys though, and see if that helps, and keep us posted. Good Luck dear!!

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