my son dosent like my partner

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My son dosent like my partner . Ever time my partner comes near me my son starts to cry and wont stop till i pick him up and if i leave the room with my partner stil in the same room as him the will start to cry when he see's im not cani help my son to stop doing this.


Michelle - posted on 06/30/2009




kids tend to be so innocent and they are a much better judgment of character then adults... so maybe you should listen to your kid and put him first over getting laid


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Jen - posted on 07/01/2009




kids have a better instinct then we do! maybe he isnt the one! Or maybe your son just gets nervous bc your partner is nervous! It really just depends on his age. I have a 3 year old that did not like my ex for a reason! WHICH IS WHY HE IS MY EX! My kids come first! :D

Ericka - posted on 06/30/2009




I'm sorry if this offends you, Have you left them alone before? Is there a chance that your partner could have hurt him? ( accident or otherwise) If that is not the case, Then small doses probably will work best at first. When your partner is there, play your son's favorite game. Try not to show affection between you and your partner for a while. Get him used to him being there first and having fun! Then introduce affection. Also have your partner show affection to your son little by little. High fives and such. Work slowly into hugs. Soon they will even forget you are there! lol

Ashley - posted on 06/30/2009




You have to make the the time your partner is there the best time your son has ever had, it sounds bad, but with a child that young (he sounds young anyways), bribery may be the best way to go. You have to get him to realize that only good things happen when your partner comes over, that whether he is there or not your little guy is still the most important person in the room. Maybe have a space (his bedroom maybe) that your partner doesn't enter, so that is his safe zone if he needs it...You can't shove him into this guy's arms, but gentle pushes over time will get him there.....

Natasha - posted on 06/30/2009




Oh my, That is a pretty bad situation.

Try getting him to do things with him that he really likes. Feed him is favorite foods etc. Play with his favorite toy. :)

Hope all works out.

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