my son is 2 and half why isn't he talking?

Janet - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my son is 2 and a half years old now, but he only say mama no other word except that, but he can understand instructions, and knows what he wants, when he wants something he will just point at it or bring you where its at. any advice?

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Sarah - posted on 08/17/2009

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My daughter was a little behind as well. I am a stay at home mom so I anticipated her needs so she has no need to learn new words. When she asked or pointed to something I'd have to pretend like I didn't know what she was asking for and that really did help get her to learn to speak better. It was really hard to see her get so frustrated with me but it sure did the trick! Just keep telling yourself you are doing it to help!

Amber - posted on 08/17/2009

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Start talking to him all the time when he wants something and points at it say what it is ask him to try to say it with you.

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my son did the same thing when he was 3 'Mama, gaga, and NO" was all that he would say........he does have an older sister that did alot of talking for him and i made her stop, when she stopped he started picking up hand gestures for what ever it was that he wanted, he did speach and it helped quite a bit but over all we found out that he has a sensory processing disorder that makes it harder for him to learn, but can follow directions great,....it is really hard to compare one chld to another but i think that using sign to speach is a great idea and it makes the child feel so much more secure and parroting things helps too.......i found with son that if he wanted something eventually he would stop pointing and grunting and use sign or mumble the word out..not perfect speach, but it was a beginning..speach in school is great also....as long as your child is up to par with all the other hurdles of life that comes his way i would keep my head up and you will be surprised what can happen...whe he wants something have him take you to what he wants and ask him to tell you what he wants....cup, bowl. milk....i find with speach s,sch.wl.lk seems to be the hardest...good luck!

Janet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting Amber:

Don't worry!!!! My son was 2 and1/2 years old and didn't say but maybe 3 or 4 words--I took him to a speech therapy consultation and they said that he was fine and that I just waited on him hand and foot and that is why he was not talking--because he didn't have too--oh and that he didn't want to yet!! They said that one day it would be like I turned on a light switch and he would talk and sure enough------one day at about age 3 he just started talking in sentences--not one or two words----SENTENCES!!! He has not stopped since--he even talks in his sleep!!


      thanks so much amber, this is really encouraging, i hope my son starts talking soon, but your advice help ease the worries, thanks!

Janet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting gemma:

dont worry my son has just turned three and has just started talking sentences, it took him a long time.sometimes if they have brothers or sisters they get a little lazy because they now there sis and bro will talk for them (if they are older) children all learn at different times for example my eldest walked at 10 months but my youngest walked at 15 months there is nothing to worrie about they will do it in ther own time hope this helped from gemm neale, peterborough, england


    thanks so much gemma, this is really encouraging, i'm not worrying so much now that i've read all your advice, but still praying that he talks soon, this circle of moms really help, thanks!

Janet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

My daughter was a little behind as well. I am a stay at home mom so I anticipated her needs so she has no need to learn new words. When she asked or pointed to something I'd have to pretend like I didn't know what she was asking for and that really did help get her to learn to speak better. It was really hard to see her get so frustrated with me but it sure did the trick! Just keep telling yourself you are doing it to help!


   thanks so muc this really hepls, you guys are a big big help, now i'm not worrying to much, although i'm really praying for him to talk soon, thanks!

Janet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting Jeannie:

i had the same problem with my daugther but i jus perservered with saying the name of everything you and him are touching and telling him wat u r doin as ur doin it and then i took it one step further and wouldnt give her wat she was pointing at until she asked if there still is no improvement i would suggest speaking to your healthvisitor i hope this helps


               thanks jeannie, it helps to know that it's not only my son that is a little late, this reallt helps, it eases the worries

Janet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Quoting Tinisha:

It looks as if you have an older child too and from what I understand this tends to happen a lot w/ the younger sibling. They don't talk b/c they don't have too. There is always someone to do it for them. My son had this issue and really the only thing you can do that I know of is make him tell you what he wants. Not just point to it or bring you to it. Understandly of course it might be easier for him to point and once you figure out what he wants then encourage him to say the word(s) and be consistent with it. There could always be an underlying medical condition of some sort have you spoke w/ his pediatrician regarding this?


  thanks so much, your advice wil really help me since i dont know what to do, and i'm already worryin. yes i've already spoke to his pediatrician, she saif i should consult a developmental pediatrician, but here in the philippines is a little expensive it's like 75 to 100 US dollars per consultation, here it's already big money, sp we decided to wait a little bit longer before consulting.

Sara - posted on 08/17/2009

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Keep your doctor - pediatrician updated I agree also get him an appointment for testing in speach therapy because the list can be long ask to see if his ears need to be tested also and go from there.

Amber - posted on 08/17/2009

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Don't worry!!!! My son was 2 and1/2 years old and didn't say but maybe 3 or 4 words--I took him to a speech therapy consultation and they said that he was fine and that I just waited on him hand and foot and that is why he was not talking--because he didn't have too--oh and that he didn't want to yet!! They said that one day it would be like I turned on a light switch and he would talk and sure enough------one day at about age 3 he just started talking in sentences--not one or two words----SENTENCES!!! He has not stopped since--he even talks in his sleep!!

Hanna - posted on 08/17/2009

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Quoting janet:

my son is 2 and half why isn't he talking?

my son is 2 and a half years old now, but he only say mama no other word except that, but he can understand instructions, and knows what he wants, when he wants something he will just point at it or bring you where its at. any advice?


he doesn't want to and he doesn't feel the need to because he gets everything he wants without having to say anything. you might need to do some language therapy with him -- your pediatrician might refer you to a specialist. however, you can do some of the work yourself by making it harder for your baby to get away with not talking -- you have to stimulate him to ask for things. every time he points at something, you need to say what it is and how you would like him to ask for it and don't give into it the first time he points.



alternatively, some kids start talking later when they're brought up in a bi-lingual or multi-lingual environment where both languages are used interchangeably (i.e. on a regular basis -- e.g. english with mommy, french/spanish with daddy or nanny and he spends enough time a day hearing both languages) -- then it just takes them a while longer to 'separate' the two. usually they understand both perfectly well, but they don't talk because it's all mixed up for them. this is why in Beglium (where both French and Dutch are national languages and moth families speak both), they recommend that family sticks to predominantly one language until the child starts talking and then teaching the second one (usually happens 1-2 years later and by the age of 4-5 a 3rd language is introduced).



i wouldn't worry about your child being a 'late bloomer' or having 'disorders', but you might have to stimulate him a little more to start expressing himself verbally. good luck to you!

Gemma - posted on 08/17/2009

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dont worry my son has just turned three and has just started talking sentences, it took him a long time.sometimes if they have brothers or sisters they get a little lazy because they now there sis and bro will talk for them (if they are older) children all learn at different times for example my eldest walked at 10 months but my youngest walked at 15 months there is nothing to worrie about they will do it in ther own time hope this helped from gemm neale, peterborough, england

Jeannie - posted on 08/17/2009

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i had the same problem with my daugther but i jus perservered with saying the name of everything you and him are touching and telling him wat u r doin as ur doin it and then i took it one step further and wouldnt give her wat she was pointing at until she asked if there still is no improvement i would suggest speaking to your healthvisitor i hope this helps

Tinisha - posted on 08/17/2009

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It looks as if you have an older child too and from what I understand this tends to happen a lot w/ the younger sibling. They don't talk b/c they don't have too. There is always someone to do it for them. My son had this issue and really the only thing you can do that I know of is make him tell you what he wants. Not just point to it or bring you to it. Understandly of course it might be easier for him to point and once you figure out what he wants then encourage him to say the word(s) and be consistent with it. There could always be an underlying medical condition of some sort have you spoke w/ his pediatrician regarding this?

Lindsay - posted on 08/17/2009

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I would have him evaluated by a speech therapist. If you are in the US, most states have early intervention programs and they can help you get the help you need with your child. I would also definately take him to have his hearing checked. My son wasn't talking and we did the early intervention route (called First Steps here) and he started speech last August. When we went to the ENT doctor to check his hearing, we found that he had fluid on his ear drum but it was going unnoticed because they were not getting infected. Anyway, he got tubes last December and between that and his speech teacher, he doesn't stop talking now. I would say the best thing to do is check it out because that's really what would help the most IMO. Good luck to you and hope this helps a little! =)

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