My son is still sleepin in our room...help?!

Hillary - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 3 and is still sleeping in our bedroom and sometimes even crawls into bed late at night... I can't seem to break him of this. Any ideas?

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Naomi - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hi, my daughter is just 2 and has slept with me most of her life and was always rocked to sleep, however I have now had another baby and needed her to be in her own room! I bought my daughter a big girls bed, (it's a double) and I started sleeping in her room with her, I would leave once she was completely asleep. I also let her have free reign in her room which contantly looks like a bomb has gone off, but its her domain! She now watches a dvd in her room at bedtime and falls asleep on her own! She refuses to sleep in my room at all now, she wants to sleep in Sofia's room!! Not sure if any of this will help you, I hope it does! Good luck!

Mandy - posted on 06/11/2009

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I cannot say that I can help because my daughter goes to sleep with me every night and I have to carry her to her bed after she falls asleep.

Toni - posted on 06/11/2009

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Well SuperNannys technique is to first explain at dinner to ur child that he will be sleeping in his room tonight because he is a big boy now (You know Boost his head make him feel good about it), then use a night light and place him in his bed and attempt to walk away, he will most likley get up and try to follow u so u turn around place him in bed and remind him its bed time, then take a seat in the middle of the floor in his room with ur back turned away from him(this is so that he feels comfortable that u are near but isnt getting any interaction with u so he will fall asleep). If he tries to get outta bed simply place him back in the bed with no talking( Once u have told him the first time that it was bed time there is no need to repet urself ) then take ur place right back on the floor. Repeat these steps as many times as needed till he falls asleep. The goal is to get closer and cloer to the door eachnight for a week until u no longer need to sit inthere with him at all. Remember the first few nights most likley will be the hardest its important that you stay firm with the technique if u choose to use it. If you cave u will have to start back at square one and ur son will think that all he needs to do is give alittle push back and he can gets what he wants. I hope it works goood luck and let me know how it turns out :-)

Jessica - posted on 06/11/2009

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my son is two and a half and he will only fall asleep on the sofa with my fiance and i ( i think he thinks he is going to miss out on something) i then have to move him to his own bed. But he wakes up every night at about 2 am and crawls into bed with me. I completely understand how you feel! Everyone has told me just keep putting him back in his bed even if it means a couple of sleepless nights!

Guggie - posted on 06/11/2009

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you could try getting him a toddler bed, or toddler mattress and putting it in your room. get him to sleep in your bed, move him to his bed. then eventually get him to sleep in his own bed. once he sleeps in his own bed in your room for awhile, you can try moving it to the other room.



another version is to sleep in his bed in his own room, then leave when he falls asleep. i've seen this one work but you can't leave too soon or it'll be a downward spiral b/c then he knows you're trying to leave.

Samantha - posted on 06/11/2009

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Quoting Hillary:

My son is still sleepin in our room...help?!

My son is almost 3 and is still sleeping in our bedroom and sometimes even crawls into bed late at night... I can't seem to break him of this. Any ideas?



It's probably not the best thing to do, but my daughter watches a movie when I put her to bed at 8pm.  She then stays in bed most nights.  Every now and then she comes to my room in the middle of the night and I just tell her to go back to bed and she does.  In the beginning, I did stay with her until she fell asleep.  I hope you get some help.

Valerie - posted on 06/11/2009

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I had the same problem. I put her in her bed and she'd crawl into mine when i was REMing and didn't even notice until I woke up. She is 4. I didn't want to punish her for it because she was doing it to be closer to me but she needed to start seperating herself. Lock your door and read him a book like they said below and it should work. If he cries because your door is locked walk him over to the bed and tuck him in and lock your door again. I know it sucks to do this but it's nessesary when mommy and daddy/or boyfriend want privacy at night.

Ashley - posted on 06/10/2009

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Sleep with him in his room for a few days and slowly create separation. Make his room comfortable for him, maybe even let him sleep with one of your pillows until he's used to sleeping in his bed. You can even try just day time naps in his room to begin with, then incorporate night time there.

Theresa - posted on 06/10/2009

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Wow hone. Do I understand. Have you ever played some soft music, maybe classical? Read a book to him in his own bed? My son is 3 and I have gone through that and sometimes he still comes in the middle of the night but I walk him right back to his bed, tuck him in and then he stays. I think it is probably a bit of sleep walking too. lol.

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