My son's behaviour xx

Tracey - posted on 08/12/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a boy whos almost 3 yrs old and he's constantly on the go from 5:30 in the morning till 7:00pm, he's smacks, swears(occasionally), very disobediant and if he can't get his own way he's horrible i'm at the end of my tether with him and don't know how much more I can take of this. I've tried takin his toys from him, sending him 2 his room and a corner but he just doesn't listen haven't got steps so can't try that as I live in a flat can I have some advice plz xxxx

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make your discipline mirror his actions (im not saying smack him for smacking you) what I am saying is that if he smacks you or someone else then force him to look at you, state in a loud angry voice "we do not hit!" and then move him away from whoever he hit. tell him that once he is done hitting he can go back to what his was doing before.



As for swearing at that age its mostly for attention, so dont pay any. if need be take him to a quiet area state in the mean mommy voice" we do not use those words" then no more attention.



No attention is no touching, looking ( you can keep an eye to keep him safe but not look directly at him), no talking, and even body language (if you have to act like a soldier)



At three I would recommend the "your being mr grumpy right now" when he cant get his own way. give him no attention and tell him directly that "mommy will not pay any attention to mr grumpy and your want (insert his name here) back" "When mr grumpy is gone we can have fun again" or "we can do this"



Even now I still use mr and miss grumpy when my kids are having a bad time. "mr grumpy needs to go have a time out until I get ....... back" most times now my kids just giggle and get over being upset at whatever and will move on once they realise I could care less and will give no attention to them while they behave in such a manner.



If you son likes to throw things while hes mad afterwards he will need to be made to clean up after himself (at three yrs old you can help out but he is to do most of the cleaning)



If he smacks someone he has to lose out on getting that persons attention "you cant play with little johnny because you hit him, after you have a time out you can appologize and then play with him. if not you will not be playing with johnny for a while"

"I guess we dont get to visit the toy section of the store since you said a bad word while we were out"

"look at this mess you made while you were mad, I guess your going to have to clean this up after your done being mad"



You can change any of these to suit his behaviour. just remember to look and act the part of disappointed but angry mommy or else he will think its just a joke.

Ashley - posted on 08/12/2009

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He's 3 years old...he knows what's right and what's wrong. If taking things away and giving spats are not working then you should go in full force. Make him sit in one place all day....he should get up for the bathroom and of course to eat but you should tell him that getting to play and do other things is actually a privilege that you give him. My son is now 5 and he went through a little phase where he wanted to do what he wanted to do and he sat in the dining room where he couldn't see the tv or play with toys. It lasted 1 1/2 hours. I explained that I'm the adult and he is only a child. I make the rules and now....2 years later...when he's doing something...I can simply look at him and ask if I should have to raise my voice and he straightens right up...and when it comes to me raising my voice or spatting him....he knows that I've had absolutely enough. I rarely have to say anything. He'll get tired of doing nothing and change or have a pretty boring life. You could make it that simple for him...his choice! It's all about boundaries! Hope this helps!

Sandy - posted on 08/12/2009

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I have heard that kids follow attention. If you give them more attention when being naughty then they will keep being naughty, where as if you ignore the naughty behaviour he might calm down a little bit.



Just a suggestion:

While his playing with his toys, if you have 5 minutes to spare join in. If he starts being naughty just walk away and ignore him until his being good again.



Not sure how this will work but everything is worth a shot when you don't know what else to do.

Julie - posted on 08/12/2009

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i dont belive that smacking your child is going to do any good.. its just gonna show them if they dont like their freinds behavior that they can smack them.

Tracey - posted on 08/12/2009

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Thanks for your advice I wouldn't go with the belt but i'll persist with the smackin xxx

Bridgette - posted on 08/12/2009

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yea but u would have to keep doing it even though he may laugh and run off just whoop his but with a belt and make him stand in time out and if he moves whoop him again. i also have a 3yr old daughter. she knows i dont play she run around and do everything a 3yr old would but she knows when im not playing. thats probley b/c i started early with her

Tracey - posted on 08/12/2009

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Hey thankyou for your reply I do smack him and he jus turns around and laughs at me and runs off I know it's against the law but like you said he needs 2 know i'm in charge and that i'm the parent xxxx

Bridgette - posted on 08/12/2009

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ok im not trying to tell u how to do ur kids but i can say a whooping is necessary. if you dont whoop them or him he will think he runs you hes gonna do everything there is possible to aggravate you to make you mad whateva a good whoopin is what he needs to let him know whos in charge.i know the law says you cant whoop your child its abuse well LIE tell them to come take care of thm and i bet they change there mind

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