My son wont play with me!

Mojojojo - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My Son is SO independent it's unreal. He just wants to potter about on his own playing and rarely wants serious attention, due to this I find myself getting on with other things and then feeling guilty for not playing with him. I try to find things that interest him and make a huge effort to play together but he never wants to know. He doesn't like to be held for long at all and I can't even read a book with him because he just wants to crawl off and play alone. My family thinks it's a god send and say I shouldn't worry. Does anyone think I'm being silly? Or do you experience the same? He's very developed and everything too, like he's teaching himself lol. Fist time Mother btw (8 months old) :)

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Mojojojo - posted on 09/14/2009

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Quoting Destry:

if he acts like this with everyone bring it up to your Pedi, becuase it can be a sign of autisum, not being able to relate to people well.. some kids are just independent, my daughter is like that.. but if it worrys you, bring it up at his next appointment.. is better to catch things like that early, so you can get help.. then just brush it off and regret finding out later..



I don't think it's that serious. He's very clever and does show emotional connections etc. He just prefers to play alone, it's what makes him happy. He's Very energentic, never stops. He does have friends his own age and he will interact for very small periods of time. I think he's just very inquizitive and wants to see everything. I just wanted to know that other babies do the same. Reading other replies I think it's just a personality thing.  I will mention it to the docotor though at his 8 month check. Thanks :)

Destry - posted on 09/14/2009

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if he acts like this with everyone bring it up to your Pedi, becuase it can be a sign of autisum, not being able to relate to people well.. some kids are just independent, my daughter is like that.. but if it worrys you, bring it up at his next appointment.. is better to catch things like that early, so you can get help.. then just brush it off and regret finding out later..

Safia - posted on 09/14/2009

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I really believe that you need to trust your instincts and consider other people's advice, if you feel like somethings wrong, then discuss with an expert. My son can never sit in my lap, and does NOT want to cuddle. He also has a name for everyone except for me, when ehs hungry or stressed then he remembers mom! hahah I tell myself that it's his personality, he is more independent then some, and I know that when he wants comfort he thinks of mom, and that keeps me going!!!



I hope that one day he'll let me read him a book hahah, but try to do things next to him instead of with him. Like i try to read my book while laying next to him as he plays.



I am also a first time mom, maybe we'll be less worried when the second one comes around hahah good luck!

Christina - posted on 09/14/2009

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Hiya

I had that with my son (now 18 month) and still do to some degree. What i think has helped us is taking him to different groups where he has to share toys and learn to play nicely with other children. After a while he started sharing nicely at the group with the other choldren and started after that to on occasion share and play with me and my husband.

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